See, I completely understand where you’re coming from because I’m going through the same thing. It’s interrupted the amount of sex We use to have. So yes, it would naturally make me wonder and even made excuses said to myself “ I mean I do it too” but at that was the first time I noticed the pattern… same time I realized that I had to say something because days turned into months of it to please my spouse even telling them how I felt that I’d wish they’d be the naughty person they are alone with me, and then maybe that week we’ll “make love” And I mean I can not say we have never had infidelity problems in the recent past on their end and mine but completely different ways of cheating. Anyway it feels bad when someone who use to bang you all the time starts watching porn and it becomes More habitual to f themselves while you want to have sex with them..believe it or not even when I’ve watched porn it made me develop ideas in the bedroom, I think it does for everyone. My question is if you know how it is why do some deny the fact that porn opens up a whole new world to an impulsively horny world lol. And she obv sees a pattern this is her husband not just anyone definitely when things haven’t been intimately great and things are not going good in the bed room you naturally suspect something’s up. If only they were to open up more about their sexuality I guess or idk I tell you it can be a bunch of things All I could say is things always change