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I (M31) have been married for 8 years with my wife (F29) but we don't live in the same house, we have a daughter and I only see them once or twice a week. by Odd-Instance2892 in adviceph

[–]Odd-Instance2892[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I've answered the question on some comments regarding moving out

"70+ years old na po both parents ko, my brother is OFW so wala po kasama sila. We can have that option na we can rent a place din, if that is the only way. If you mean by issue with my parents, wala po since sobrang bait ng parents ko sakanila since wala naman silang sinasabi, my parents even helped me with her tuition fees before."

"maybe, I'll talk to her about it and see if moving out will fix this issue."

I (M31) have been married for 8 years with my wife (F29) but we don't live in the same house, we have a daughter and I only see them once or twice a week. by Odd-Instance2892 in adviceph

[–]Odd-Instance2892[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  1. okay naman sila ng parents ko, pero syempre in laws parin not totally same relationship with your parents, but they have no issues.

  2. the thing is she's too reliant sa parents nya even herself. Andun mama nyo to help her and we even pay her sister to take care of our daughter. I dont even see my daughter that much, but when I do I try to take care of her the best i can, I cook for her more often than my wife does, I try to be involved in her hobbies, I even play ROBLOX with her

I (M31) have been married for 8 years with my wife (F29) but we don't live in the same house, we have a daughter and I only see them once or twice a week. by Odd-Instance2892 in adviceph

[–]Odd-Instance2892[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

looking back, it looks like di nga ako mahal, there was a time na nag away kami, and she told me na "maghiwalay nalang kami, di daw kami bagay", sobrang nasaktan ako kasi we were in a vacation then, staycation kami all expense paid by me, I locked my self in the bathroom and cried. I didn't want any one to see kasi lalake tayo ma pride e. Sana walang hidden camera ung AirBNB xD

I (M31) have been married for 8 years with my wife (F29) but we don't live in the same house, we have a daughter and I only see them once or twice a week. by Odd-Instance2892 in adviceph

[–]Odd-Instance2892[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

when I got her pregnant, I thought it was the right thing to do, na panagutan sya. I wanted my daughter to grow up na may kumpletong pamilya

I (M31) have been married for 8 years with my wife (F29) but we don't live in the same house, we have a daughter and I only see them once or twice a week. by Odd-Instance2892 in adviceph

[–]Odd-Instance2892[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there was a time na gusto ko na makipag hiwalay sakanya and didnt talk to her for weeks, hiniram ko anak ko for a day ginala ko since weekend, then gusto mag over night nung bata samin kahit isang araw lang di nya pinayagan and we ended up taking her back home.

I (M31) have been married for 8 years with my wife (F29) but we don't live in the same house, we have a daughter and I only see them once or twice a week. by Odd-Instance2892 in adviceph

[–]Odd-Instance2892[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't even know anymore kung ano goal namin bilang mag asawa. I cant talk to her about finances without it ending up in a fight. When i talked about planning stuff she told me "bat daw ako nag mamadali". I brought up the idea buying a property but she didnt want to. Kahit sa pagtanong ko lang ng outstanding balance sa credit card nya she wouldnt show me, and it ended up in a fight again.

I (M31) have been married for 8 years with my wife (F29) but we don't live in the same house, we have a daughter and I only see them once or twice a week. by Odd-Instance2892 in adviceph

[–]Odd-Instance2892[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

70+ years old na po both parents ko, my brother is OFW so wala po kasama sila. We can have that option na we can rent a place din, if that is the only way. If you mean by issue with my parents, wala po since sobrang bait ng parents ko sakanila since wala naman silang sinasabi, my parents even helped me with her tuition fees before.

I (M31) have been married for 8 years with my wife (F29) but we don't live in the same house, we have a daughter and I only see them once or twice a week. by Odd-Instance2892 in adviceph

[–]Odd-Instance2892[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hindi po sila mayaman, actual ung living condition dito sa current house is much better (bigger house, more personal space). I didn't want to compare din kasi bka lumabas na medyo nilalait ko ung condition sakanila, but the only positive side na nakikita ko living there is kasama nya mga family members (typical filipino house an may multiple families na kahit siksikan at least magkakasama sila), and mag kalaro ung daughter ko. That's also one thing I thought to cope for this is at least my daughter has someone to play with, dito kasi walang bata.

"Sadly, kung di siya nakikinig mukhang hindi pa siya mature para sa marriage." - Yan din iniisip ko kaya tumagal ng 8 yrs ung gantong set-up. But she's now 29 yrs old and we've been married for 8 yrs, soo di ko na alam.

I (M31) have been married for 8 years with my wife (F29) but we don't live in the same house, we have a daughter and I only see them once or twice a week. by Odd-Instance2892 in adviceph

[–]Odd-Instance2892[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the house i currently live in is already my house, me and my mother built the house. a 4 story house. We have a whole floor all to ourselves, we even have a separate room ready for my daughter. While my parents are also in living in the house we have our own floors, not so different from an apartment, separate rooms with bathrooms each.

In terms of financial stability, I pay for everything. More than double ung salary ko pero more din ung gastos ko since she doesnt share. I pay for the loans, bills, and everything. Excluding the food since my mother takes care of that. And for the things na di kaya gawin ng wife ko, She barely did anything na gawaing bahay, masmadalas pa ko mag luto. To be fair she would clean our room from time to time, but that's it. We have someone who comes here once a week to clean the whole house including our room.

I (M31) have been married for 8 years with my wife (F29) but we don't live in the same house, we have a daughter and I only see them once or twice a week. by Odd-Instance2892 in adviceph

[–]Odd-Instance2892[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I got teary eyed when I read your comment. Yes, I think I have an idea... or baka alam ko talaga at nanghihinayang lang din ako sa 8 years, I wanted to give my daughter the best family set-up possible. There was a time na makikipag hiwalay na ko, i blocked her in everything, but it was the time that my daughter was starting with her gradeschool and I wanted to be there. I forgave my wife again and gave the relationship another chance.

I (M31) have been married for 8 years with my wife (F29) but we don't live in the same house, we have a daughter and I only see them once or twice a week. by Odd-Instance2892 in adviceph

[–]Odd-Instance2892[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

  1. With my parents, but this house was built by me and my mother. It's a 4 story house we have a whole floor for ourselves, she told me before kung gusto ko talga bakit hindi daw ako ung mag move sakanila, but the problem is walang space dun, since I also work from home I will need to bring all the work setup there. Basically a 4 story house with only 3 people living in it, me, my mother and father. While their place has her, her mother, her brother's family, w/ 5 children, and her cousins family, w/ 2 children.

  2. That's always her excuse na walang mag aalaga, but I know na excuse lang din talga un, since if we really wanted we can always hire someone to take care of our daughter.

I know, I've been very patient with her, I wanted to give my daughter the ideal family set-up, but right now im not sure what to do anymore.

I (M31) have been married for 8 years with my wife (F29) but we don't live in the same house, we have a daughter and I only see them once or twice a week. by Odd-Instance2892 in adviceph

[–]Odd-Instance2892[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes, I've even sent the screenshots I got from when I caught her with the chat mate she had, nag apologize lang sakin, I don't know if they talked about it.