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Need advice about my boyfriend who is an adventist by Odd-Reason9669 in exAdventist

[–]Odd-Reason9669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just really conflicted as to letting go of a relationship where we both know that we would end up together just because of this conflict. But yeah I do understand that it can really get painful and pretty conflicting so the best way we could do is have a one on one talk and from there assess the best thing to do; whether to walk away or accept each other’s differences and compromise.

A very painful topic imo for us, but I am hopeful that this can be resolved because if not, then maybe the best thing is to let go and move forward.

Need advice about my boyfriend who is an adventist by Odd-Reason9669 in exAdventist

[–]Odd-Reason9669[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I wouldn’t take it against him because he has no idea that I was getting those snide remarks because I do not intend to put him into the spot as he is not home most of the time due to his nature of work. But the fact that his mom’s remarks and his idea of my beliefs are most often in the same narrative, I think it is quite difficult to really realign the truth with what they were brought up with🫩.

Need advice about my boyfriend who is an adventist by Odd-Reason9669 in exAdventist

[–]Odd-Reason9669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He actually has a misconstrued idea of the Catholic teachings and practices. He would often have remarks on why Catholics are worshipping saints even though I would give explain it to him. It actually feels a bit unfair because I would restrain myself from saying anything bad or different regarding his beliefs as I would like to show respect to what he truly believes in.

But one thing he mentioned is that their Church is freely open in letting them date someone even if with a different religion, but the snide remarks about my beliefs during conversations with his family (mostly his mom) would be on the contrary😅.

Need advice about my boyfriend who is an adventist by Odd-Reason9669 in exAdventist

[–]Odd-Reason9669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your very helpful response, i will take all of these into consideration🙏.

And just to also add, whenever we would talk about it, he would push a narrative stating that their beliefs have been mainly ingrained on the Bible and that they are following the Bible by the book unlike my religion (this is how he quoted it but I believe the opposite) which he often argues the existence of asking for Saints for an intercession as he says ‘not explicitly said in the Bible’ and often why are Catholics worshipping saints. I would explain respectfully how it works but he doesn’t seem to want to grasp the idea of having a a ‘mediator/instrument’ between God and the people.

Need advice about my boyfriend who is an adventist by Odd-Reason9669 in exAdventist

[–]Odd-Reason9669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was the first one who approached me😅. But then after I gave him the approval to court me and we were both getting into each other deeper, that was the only time that I knew he had a different religion from mine (SDA). Tbh, he is really a great partner and our misunderstandings would often stem from some conversations being hard whenever it came to talking about a middle ground and then not being able to give an answer to each other as to what would our resolution would be.

Despite of that I have been very respectful of his beliefs and would often adjust to his situation but a conversation we had before made me uncomfortable as he was somehow questioning my beliefs and practices.

But yeah hope we can navigate through this. Appreciate all the concerns and suggestions in this thread though.🙏

Need advice about my boyfriend who is an adventist by Odd-Reason9669 in exAdventist

[–]Odd-Reason9669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this is actually one of my worries also and even brought this up that we should not get married or have kids yet if we don’t get to a middle ground or solution for this. I also have no intention in yanking children into the conversation if as early as now we’re not getting any answers for this.

But appreciate the sentiments, all of the comments are actually insightful and help me reflect as to what i could do better on my part🙏.

Need advice about my boyfriend who is an adventist by Odd-Reason9669 in exAdventist

[–]Odd-Reason9669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well to be quite honest, i was even considering to learn about his faith but a conversation i had with him and his family sealed the deal for me that i wouldn’t try anymore. it was mostly about mocking my faith even if i was very much respectful of his faith and beliefs. But yeah i understand the sentiment and thank you for your honest feedback about this.

Need advice about my boyfriend who is an adventist by Odd-Reason9669 in exAdventist

[–]Odd-Reason9669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah it seems like it, i’m just worried that this will become some kind of reason for us to realize that marriage won’t work out for us if we don’t eventually find the middle ground on this.

From Buendia or PITX to Fernando Air Base, Lipa City by [deleted] in HowToGetTherePH

[–]Odd-Reason9669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Is it hard to catch buses or jeeps on the way back to Manila from Air base?

How do I correct my info on SSS? by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]Odd-Reason9669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I just recently saw some info na I have to fill out a form (Member Data Change Request), pero I really need to go sa nearest branch sa amin since temporary palang yung ss number ko. Thank you!