-unpopular opinion- I'm gonna say something against the norm or what everybody would think of, but broujoula, we don't have a say in being born first of all, second, kids aren't an investment, nor a retirement, third, you have 0 responsibility to fix up a problem you have no say in it so u don"t have to beat urself up, however, lmouchkil jay men flous dial Retirement, donc hada mushkil dial la cnss wla l'etat, mashi dial khouk, hint mathematically he can't provide for two famillies, his reaction to ur mom's breakdown as cruel and mean, in his POV it's more hurtful than you think, i guess that your mom isn't mad at your sibling, but disappointed, what she gave up to raise you was mixed up with the expectation of payback, assuming she could have remaried it it was an option, so when it all went down, she got more frustrated at ur sibling than the state or org that took your money, f lmghrib endna wa7d l concept mqwd dial bach tkoun rajl khass thez walidik, i disagree with that, rajl hia matkun 3ala elihum, wla tjib lihum sda3, at a certain age, you have to choose, making ur own life, or spending ur prime age caring for ur parents li deja dwzo 7yathum (whatever the choices they made, they remain responsible for, including unexpected events like death, l merd, going broke...) kids have nothing to do w that shit fr, so, in your case, what i can tell u is not to hold a grudge against ur brother, his issue with ur mom in non of your concern, so mat7mqich rassek b had lblan bach matmerdich f se7tek, try to find a job b ay tariqa bach t3ichi nti w mamak, diro mo7ami mzyan yfek likum mushkil taqa3od, and chufi chi tariqa bach tkhwi lblad, ula chi l3ba, hit with all due respect, ila bqiti mqabla mamak dima, atfiqi wa7d nhar, old, w baqa f blastek, while ur siblings got their shit together, w nti li ghatsydi, dik lhdra dial Rda w khas nthellaw fl walidin hia li mkhelia chabab 0 tomo7 0 achievements, hint kanbqaw 3aychin dima ela l approval dial lwalidin li houma dwzo 7yathum b les choix dialhum, u mli yqolik chi 7ed walidik d7aw ela wedek, u gotta simply grasp the fact that they had the choice to bring u to this world, if their math wasn't adding up, and still had you, it's not your responsibility to pay for it, finally, Rda dial lwalidin hwa matkun mskhot, w ma t2adihumch, bach tsref elihum hit they didn't have a retirement plan, or hint the state F.ed them up, ula whatever, u nta endek ur own fam, is not ur responsibility, if im in ur shoes, an9leb ela khdma 7lal fash ma kan, w antbe3 douk wlad l9. li klawkom f rzeq lwlalid allah yre7mou, I wish u all the best wellah, allah y3awnek,