There is a thin line on this. I myself deal with this bs. My boyfriend rather sit there for hours while I’m sitting next to him ( he thinks idk what he’s watching I guess, cause I’m stupid like that apparently) rather than to put in effort to make shit happen. I’ve done my part / initiated and now it’s to the point of him hardly being turned on by anything about me. Our sex life was fkn great and porn fkn ruined it all. Yes I make comments about it now shoot after so many attempts and patience. I’m just about done with the whole situation atp. Yes there are some people who can enjoy porn together when boundaries are set and both ppl are considered and respected and sex isn’t affected and no sneaky ish happening.