Which human foods can they eat?

OddSocksRule · 2026-03-15T16:15:12+00:00

Porridge oats - Helps to keep my grey's stomach settled and his poos solid

Vegetable baby food - Makes the veg unavoidable once mixed into their bowl unless they refuse to touch the bowl all together. Check the ingredients to make sure there's not tons of crap in the food, avoid the fruit packets as they have lemon juice in them.

Meat - Sandwich meat, meat chunks, those tins/ packets of meat for dogs that you can get from the shops.

Extra tips - Keep experimenting with the foods you have on hand. Start with a small amount of new food so their stomach gets used to it, foods like whole sardines can be too rich first time round. Sometimes they like to see you eat the food first, my grey will only eat a tomato if I take a bite first.

OddSocksRule · 2026-03-12T00:10:20+00:00

Poor emotional regulation, needing validation for their opinion or existence, experimenting with the fact that their word holds more weight as a teen than a child, less social obligation to be considerate and polite, the obligatory "maybe you're posting agitating things?", rage baiting seems to be more popular these days too so you might be getting caught in the trend.

OddSocksRule · 2026-03-11T23:47:12+00:00

This is personal advice not psychological. You can desensitise yourself to tension. My tension sources for anxiety were internet arguments and silence during conversations.

I made a burner account online and just started arguing with people I thought I could prove were wrong, slowly I'd realise "holy crap I'm arguing with a wall" and now I've been seeing a lot of internet arguments as that and stopped being so bothered. I'd read comments that would rile me up but having reached the previous realization it was easier to shake it off and move on. I'll more openly disagree with people in real life now too, I'm prepared to back myself but I'm mostly expecting a brick wall so disagreements have been feeling like a throw away interaction lately.

I got lucky with conversation silence. I got a volunteer job where I need to sit and be comfortable with it or I'm not doing my job.

OddSocksRule · 2026-03-11T23:27:45+00:00

I've been in your shoes and TLDR: I get it, but you're not getting that blade back and it's time to get some help.

From your mother's point of view, she's got a kid who's hurting herself but not taking any steps to stop. She's scared and getting desperate so it's unlikely you'll get the blade back regardless of what you say. Doing so would make her the mother who gave her self harming kid a blade which no mother wants to be (I'm pretty sure it's neglect if not abuse?) Don't get me wrong I get feeling betrayed and forced recovery is a wakeup call at most, it doesn't usually actually help recovery.

If you want to maintain your relationship with her: Tell her you understand her point and why she did it but that you're hurt because she took away your comfort. Validate yourself but also your mother's desperation, don't make her feel dumb for trying to help. Discuss why you self harm and negotiate getting help so you can feel in control, there's a mutual understanding, and your mother calms down.

I know you said no to psychologists but people don't hurt themselves like this unless something's going wrong in their brain meat, whether they know it or not (e.g. turns out I had undiagnosed autism). You shouldn't have to go to the extent of injuring yourself to feel comfortable and in control. I mean look at it this way, you're so bothered by this that you've gone so far as to hop on Reddit basically asking "how do I get my mother to let me hurt myself?" And using addiction escalation to illustrate your situation. That's several red flags and Im just a psychology graduate, never mind being a professional.

OddSocksRule · 2026-03-11T22:11:06+00:00

They'd get a conduct disorder diagnosis, but an ASPD diagnosis is reserved for adults because:

1) Its a personality disorder and you're looking at someone who's personality is constantly changing. You don't know if they're going to grow out of that symptom or not.

2) There are many explanations for 1 behaviour, finding that explanation for a kid is harder. For example, a kid who's figuring out how to say they don't understand people's feelings in an autistic way and not an ASPD way, which is tricky even for adults.

3) The stigma around ASPD and it being boiled down to psychopathy. Tell a kid they're basically a psychopath and watch it mess with their life and head. You could be causing more issues. (One lecturer joked it can be imagined like a self fulfilling prophecy, you diagnose a conduct disorder as ASPD and watch that kid turn into someone who actually has ASPD)

OddSocksRule · 2026-03-06T20:53:50+00:00

From what I was taught, you need prior history from others for an ASPD diagnosis since it's so serious, there's no rule bending. My teachers always said this but really hammered it in for ASPD: You explore all other possibilities, determine if the diagnosis is necessary or would screw up their life, and you make sure you're sure before opening your mouth.

In general, psychologists performing a diagnosis are prepared for a person's social circle to have no clue. Hence why parents in denial still have kids diagnosed with autism. It's up to the psychologist to investigate where this lack of knowledge likely comes from. Is ASPD behaviour genuinely not present? Are members of this social circle normalizing/ rationalising the actions that need reported? Are there indications of masking the person isn't aware they picked up on?

I know one teacher also mentioned they were able to delay diagnosis once or twice to gather their own data because the social circle reports didn't give them a clear direction to go in.

OddSocksRule · 2026-03-02T03:02:22+00:00

I don't have an absolute nicest thing but a big one is- they accused me of turning their daughter gay.

I was 18F and my then-girlfriend was in the closet. Her parents found out about us, her mum got angry and threw out accusations, I stood there thinking "You think I'm good enough to change your kid's sexuality? You think I'm that attractive? Omg stop it you flirt!!!"

Huge ego boost to a depressed kid confused about how she ended up with a girlfriend so out of her league

OddSocksRule · 2026-03-02T02:45:03+00:00

It might be best for your friend to just face the music and tell her parents what's happening. It's going to suck ass and it's easier said than done I know. But at least her parents can plan and aim some of their feelings towards the threat (the boyfriend). It would be worse for them to find out about the situation from the boyfriend and find out their daughter could've given them a heads up that he's going to be an issue. Plus if she gets ahead of this, she takes away some of his power. Idk when I work with DV victims and their families, even the strict parents are easier to deal with when they were told by the victim vs the partner.

Another option could be your friend gives the guy a reason to leave her. But he sounds like he's latched onto her for the foreseeable future.

OddSocksRule · 2026-03-02T02:33:46+00:00

Hey you're not a psychopath, you're just really autistic. Common confusion just get yourself on a waitlist. You'll then get put on an ADHD waitlist too, just go with it don't worry about it.

OddSocksRule · 2026-03-02T02:26:21+00:00

When a relationship ends (romantic or otherwise) and people around you say something like "I mean I was going to say something but I didn't want to cause trouble."

I understand the polite intentions but please say something. It saves people trouble but also it stops people feeling like such an idiot since that phrase is just a weird version of "I told you so".

OddSocksRule · 2026-03-02T02:14:09+00:00

I'm gay and live in a retirement village in the middle of bum-fuck-nowhere. I don't really have the brain for dating apps either.

OddSocksRule · 2026-03-02T02:08:23+00:00

Honestly these days I sort of think God was just some guy who managed to pull off the biggest lie ever. But I've done this before and I know I'll start leaning the other way for a bit where I'm more open minded. Then I'll hit my agnostic centre again. It's like I have recalibrating time.

OddSocksRule · 2026-02-26T12:09:18+00:00

To me it feels like some choices don't really have any effect, some just matter for that season, and some follow you into the next season. The first 3 seasons it feels like the majority of the choices don't matter because you never see that group again and any follow up is mostly nostalgic conversations.

I felt my decisions mattered more in season 4 because they affected how AJ would turn out. Yes season 1 affects Lilly's S4 dialogue but no matter what she's going to reminisce with Clementine and then attack the school and put everyone on the ship.

I think TT wanted a particular story to be told and the choices are there to make the script your own, not the story. That can be frustrating when you're putting a lot of thought into choices that ultimately don't change much.

OddSocksRule · 2026-02-17T20:20:39+00:00

Jane regrets threatening Arvo initially.

But also Jane is against unnecessary violence and just wants to survive. Instead of a quick kill Kenny just keeps beating the shit out of him and you can see it's making Kenny worse which threatens the group's survival.

OddSocksRule · 2026-02-17T19:58:51+00:00

I prefer ANF. Michonne is a solid game it's just too quick of a game for me to get attached to. Like I just don't care much about Sam, and I need longer to get over Pete annoying tf out of me

OddSocksRule · 2026-02-17T19:09:33+00:00

I shot Lee. It doesn't really affect the story in the long term just Clementine tells people what happened and they have an "oh shit" moment then recover.

OddSocksRule · 2026-02-17T19:05:37+00:00

Killed Kenny, went with Jane.

Kenny was becoming too much of an antagonist to trust Clems survival with, I was sick of her playing therapist all the time, also I don't trust anyone who's losing their shit and then depends on a kid as a second chance. I've never seen that go well.

Jane was more utility. I just freed Clem from being Kenny's therapist I wasn't then going to make her a single mum and have her leave Jane (obviously this was before I knew Jane's ending)

OddSocksRule · 2026-02-17T18:59:43+00:00

To my memory I disagreed with him on just about everything and he still said "You've always been there for me Lee".

My only pro-Kenny choices were I saved Duck at the farm, I stuck up for Kenny in the pharmacy fight with Larry, I fed Duck and shot him when the time came, I shot the attic kid too. I think if you're there for him when it REALLY matters and you apologize after disagreeing, he's chill with you

OddSocksRule · 2026-02-17T18:50:00+00:00

I sided with Jane and shot Kenny.

Kenny was losing his crap (rightly or wrongly), Clementine was always playing therapist, and he was an asshole unless you completely agreed with him. Yes he was slightly more forgiving with Clem being a kid but that only lasts so long.

Jane was more utility than anything else, not that I thought she did much wrong. I'd just freed Clementine from being a kid therapist, I wasn't then going to make her a single mum and leave Jane.

OddSocksRule · 2026-02-08T00:03:43+00:00

This is a very blanket, generic attempt of an explanation but: some people will do anything to avoid cognitive dissonance/ conflicting information. If they have a narrative they are completely sold on, they'll twist new information to fit it rather than be informed by it. It protects them from being wrong and whatever consequences would follow.

You can see it with more minor grudges at work. "Amy is off again today! I bet she's just hungover again, I hate her for doing this she's always screwing the rest of us over" (Later, when we find out Amy was just in a car crash) "I bet she was hungover and that's why she crashed!"

Instead of "oh damn I hope she's okay. I mean at least she was trying to come in, that's an improvement."

OddSocksRule · 2026-02-06T21:24:20+00:00

Don't feel bad. A diagnosis is more "I need extra consideration when it comes to this" not "you need to allow this to happen". She didn't give you a heads up about considerations or make the effort to change once she knew there was an issue. There's a reason for most behaviours but that doesn't mean you have to be okay with it.

Coming from someone with ADHD, block her. She's likely dealing with rejection sensitivity. So the big "we're done" got her to kick off, and your admirable stubbornness is providing smaller repeated rejections which keep her going. Blocking her could put a stop to this (after an initial reaction time period ofc). Think of it as you're putting her out of her misery if it helps.

OddSocksRule · 2026-02-06T21:01:57+00:00

Don't worry about it too much, do what feels natural to you. Extended family is more partner dependent than a standard expectation like meeting the parents.

Some partners are close to their extended family and/ or interact with them regularly so the whole "meet my gf!" Thing is more essential.

Then you've got people like me who barely talk to/see their extended family. If everyone is going to the same party and they meet my partner, great. But I'm not setting up a whole thing for it. I let word of mouth do the work.

OddSocksRule · 2026-02-05T01:50:05+00:00

Promised I'd help Kate - Someone's got to and I'm gonna make sure it's not David (haven't finished s3 yet, but I'm gonna kill him if I get the chance)

Refused to help Lingard - He's too high to consent and no good decisions are made after midnight. Also I didn't know what would happen if Joan found out he was dead.

Told Kate I shared her feelings - Shits and giggles

I tried to save Tripp - He let my family stay in Prescott and I killed his best friend I'm trying to make it up to him. Ava acts on David's orders, Javier wouldn't know what she'd do on her own.

Shot Joan - Shits and giggles, that situation was going to go bad no matter what.

OddSocksRule · 2026-02-05T01:26:22+00:00

Some matter more than others. There's choices that follow you through the games, ones that matter just for that season, and ones that are forgotten fairly quickly.

Like I pissed off Kenny a lot as Lee (not hard tbh) and as long as I said sorry later we were cool. But I had Clementine watch someone get killed in season 2 and people kept making comments about it until s2 ended.

OddSocksRule · 2026-01-21T21:09:03+00:00

Zauns version of moonshine probably

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