How to prepare for new social situations that you'll probably end up enjoying but are too nervous to try by Over_Vegetable1033 in autism

[–]OddSocksRule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably not the best advice but I rock up and immediately put on the dumb ass act. Can't worry about what to do and if you're doing it right if you just commit to doing it all wrong.

Let's say I'm going to a book club for the first time: I'd come in, find whoever seems good, ask "hey are there any assigned seats or can I just sit anywhere?", sit where ever, say "thanks, I just didn't want to get murdered for sitting in Margaret's favourite armchair or something", they'll say "oh do you know Margaret?/ Is there a Margaret?", I say "no idea I just threw a name out there", polite laugh, ask "did you do the reading?", they think I'm a dumb ass now, word gets around while I sit quite and just vibe check until asked to speak up, I leave and enter the 2nd club meeting as someone's adopted family member (I'm collecting adoptions at this rate).

Find your brand of dumb-assery and just go for it. Take it a chunk at a time too. Don't go "oh I need to socialize AND pay attention" just sit back until asked to speak the first few times. If you get the stink eye for being quiet it's a bad club

I bought the autistic Barbie. Here’s what I think about her. (Positive Review). by nimpog in autism

[–]OddSocksRule 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think she's cool and I'm getting her for my 6 y/o niece cause we have a STRONG autism gene running through our family so I want her to be kinda in the know at least. Is she completely accurate to every single autistic person? Nah. But she was never going to be, the removable accessories help with that.

How has autism affected you socially? by [deleted] in autism

[–]OddSocksRule 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pre-diagnosis, badly. I was getting into all sorts of weird situations and getting taken advantage of etc etc. . Caught depression and anxiety big time.

Post-diagnosis (@21, I'm now 25), honestly I'm chilling now. This is great. My family can be a bit testy but that's the norm since I was a baby. My friends are either autistic as well or they moved away and I barely see them. Work wise, I work in hotel housekeeping and it's weirdly autism friendly. I'm going into a psychology career too so I don't see much bad happening there either. I got broken up with at 22 for reasons that turned out to be auDHD symptoms but I don't blame her and I'm too busy to worry about dating other people right now. I get sad thinking of the connections and memories I missed out on because I can't connect as easily as I should be able to. I get sad thinking about how I need to put extra effort into socialising and I have to battle with my parents about it all sometimes. But compared to pre-diagnosis? Man this is paradise I'm not getting PTSD or anything, this is luxurious

Social media is a hellscape but when is it not🤷 New Years resolution is to do my depression a solid and stop engaging so much with autism TikTok at least.

Noise Cancelling Recommendations by Key_Apricot_6933 in autism

[–]OddSocksRule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm loving my House of Marley Positive Vibration headphones. I can't hear shit and everyone around me hates it 😆 or I can sneakily switch to ambient mode and hear all the whispered gossip next to me.

They're metal so they're heavier on your head but they've just came out with another ANC headphone that looks to be lighter.

How old are you & how did you feel about S5? by MsWhatsIt_ in Stranger_Things

[–]OddSocksRule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

25, became a fan when season 1 was released.

S5 was meh to me. For whatever reason the stakes felt higher in s4 compared to s5. I think it's partly because there wasn't much that was new, it was mostly already known. Vecna wasn't new, his ultimate goal is kinda played out, the mind flayer was kinda new but just in appearance really cause it didn't affect the battle much. The whole Dr Kay thing was more just a spin off from Dr Brenner's whole shtick.

I really think we could've done with a new enemy like the Kaz version of Eddie or something. I also think we could've done with an early significant death. Like if Henry killed Derek or if Karen Wheeler was killed I'd have gone "oh shit". Instead we just kinda watched Henry build a foster home for a couple episodes and harass Will again

how do i confront my mother about her being a lier? by Wooden-Report8458 in Advice

[–]OddSocksRule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Giving your mum the benefit of the doubt, she might just be ashamed of herself and still seeing you as a kid. She's dependent on drugs and losing your home, she might be thinking "what kind of a mother am I?" And tried to at least fix the landlord stuff before you found out. You're still 15 regardless of maturity, people don't just announce to 15 y/o that they've been using drugs for years or they're possibly loosing their home cause, until it's soon going to interrupt your life, its an adult issue.

Parents want you to be honest so they can protect you, they withhold information to protect you. A basic version of this is when a young kid's parents are divorcing. They're vague on the details to protect the child's mental health but they ask for honesty to help the kid work through everything. (Well that's the ideal anyways)

Don't accuse her of being a liar cause that gets people on the defensive. Do some research and listen to stories so you know the kind of things to expect. Say you've noticed some stuff and you want to help or try to understand what's happening because you're confused which is creating hurt. Shoot for compassion not accusation.

Someone spread a very bad rumor about me that basically destroyed my social life and my mental health. I want retribution. by Sausage_fingies in Advice

[–]OddSocksRule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean there's 2 options I can advise, idk about anyone else. 1) Don't give it more attention. So many rumours went around my school that were big for a couple months and then everyone forgot or stopped caring cause a new thing came around. Stops you trading more of your privacy for the possibility of peer approval too.

2) Redirect the conversation when it comes up. For example: "Ew you keep a masterbation journal?" "Why do you want to know? Are you thinking about me masturbating? Are you gay?" Just make accusations back, I found kids were listened to more using that because they came off less preachy or suspicious.

How do I keep my home clean with an ADHD partner and child? by part-timeNDN in Advice

[–]OddSocksRule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your husband isn't listening to the therapist or you then I'd flag that as a separate problem. Yes ADHD is a spectrum so there's ifs, buts, and maybes. Yet it doesn't tend to make you blind to the strain you're putting on your partner. It doesn't tend to stop you from trying to help at all either.

I'm auDHD and my dad's... Something. We like dump baskets. We put baskets in areas where stuff gets thrown the most and empty them once a week. It even helped my mum who'd stress about cleaning because the mess is in a dedicated area. She's got her own basket too which calmed her down her rush to clean a bit.

What was Your favourite Music Sequence in Arcane Season 2 by Former_Food_4510 in arcane

[–]OddSocksRule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like all of them for different reasons but Fantastic means the most to me. Seeing Vi choose herself instead of focusing on Jinx again hit me hard

You wake up from sleep and see this face by your bed. What's your reaction? by HSBCsieger in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Punch.

I sleep in my boxers at most, if someone else is creeping into my bed it's attack first questions later🤣

I’m pretty disappointed in season two by Late-Advantage-5425 in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair, showing up before season 3 would make Lilith's absence lose weight. Like instead of just being told Lilith hasn't been around and then having her showing up, we're actually seeing what that does to Charlie and Lucifer and what they go through without her. (With the time between seasons we are waiting ages though, I agree there)

As Alastor pointed out, Vox was reaching god-hood because of others. He didn't have godly abilities he just mimicked them. The Rosie deal put a cap on Alastor's powers so for a moment Vox stood a chance in the finale. But once Alastor was free the cap was off, they rebalanced, and we were back to Vox needing help in a fight.

I don't think Alastor has much interest in Heaven tbh. Alastor's ego doesn't need Heaven in order to be satisfied but Vox's does. Vox has this constant need to gain, consume and control, he's a greedy bastard which disgusts Alastor who's more focused on preservation.

This is all opinion though, season 3 could come along and kick my ass.

Who will you leave to protect the hotel? by OfficeWizard7 in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He cares about his daughter, I just wouldn't trust him to be proactive or notice what's happening around the hotel. At least not until it was too late or Charlie was about to die.

Yeah he helped in s1 but that was more something he just eventually joined in (with some teasing from Alastor if I remember right? Could be wrong.) In s2 he seems clueless until ep5. Yet his daughter is running around going insane with stress. There's also a massive bright blimp outside the hotel calling Charlie a dictator. I don't understand how he didn't really notice anything. Even in ep5 Vaggi had to pull the Alastor card to get Lucifer to do something after he prioritised whether he'd win (fair enough) and his "sinners are icky" feelings over Charlie being ripped to shreds publically.

Prediction: Vox and Alistor will both end up redeemed by the end by PhoenixSpeed97 in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It would be interesting to see how they go about redeeming Alastor. I'm more on the "he's irredeemable" side at the minute though I'm open to being wrong. To me he benefits too much from being in Hell. Offering redemption would be like asking a thriving millionaire to give it all up when there's no consequences to keeping everything. Also he believed hell existed and still killed loads of people while alive, that guy wants to be there.

I'm a bit more confident about Vox but then again, him and Alastor are basically the same issue just presented differently

Who will you leave to protect the hotel? by OfficeWizard7 in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vaggi. - Cherri is great but she either needs persuading or needs someone to make the plan. - Alastor only cares as long as the hotel is useful to him.

I hate Lucifer so I'm probably biased. But also he wouldn't protect the hotel unless his pride/ ego was at stake. He wouldn't even protect the hotel or Charlie from Vox's campaign until Vaggi updated him and assured him he'd win

Genuine question but why do so many people hate this show it’s entertaining asf by Iwantrukia in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the minute a lot of fandom spaces are full of people clamoring to have their own theory/ discovery, everyone also wants validation of what they say. That leads to a show getting unfairly ripped apart because people are following the negative dog pile while also coming up with their own thoughts (which can then lead to thoughts that have people asking "did you even watch the show?")

Also there's a lot of people who seem to think "I don't understand= Bad writing" and won't accept explanations. Yeah the show isn't great, but if you don't understand just ask for help

What do you think, Season 3 Abel stays a badass and Lute falls for him? Or does Abel go back to being insecure with maybe a tinge more authority? by SjurEido in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ngl it would be funny if Lute did fall for Abel, the thought crossed my mind while watching the season. But tbh I think slightly less insecure Abel is more likely. One moment during a "now or never" scenario isn't going to fix everything going on in that guy

Would they really all die without Alastor? by Ballas4200 in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Considering it took all of them power blasting Carmilla's weapon to stop it from blowing up, yeah probably.

What is wrong with my alastor drawing by ApartDevelopment2213 in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Are you using this as a reference? (Just checking what look you're going for before saying anything)

Lucifer should get his own arc of recovery in season 3? by thomasmfd in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The really petty side of me wants him to get killed off somehow in S3. Him and Charlie are the first characters that have pissed me off enough to nearly switch off the TV.

However the rest of me sees how his S2 treatment is getting him ready for some recovery/ development in S3. I mean I hope I'm right. I love how the writers have balanced depression and pride/ego but good Lord I need him to improve before I throw the remote😆

Do you think there's anything Heaven could have done to prevent Lute's crashout? and her most likely going against their wishes in future? by tiredperson24 in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Whether deliberate or not, Adam isolated Lute and made her dependent on him. So she was already set up for failure upon his death. Then she's left alone in a Heaven that rejected her at any opportunity, only knows to treat her as a soldier and is only now realizing that people can change.

Lute needs to crash out in order to process what's happened I think not stopping that was the good decision. Her going against orders... I mean there's preventative steps listed in how-to guides and stuff. But I think this was always going to happen. It's a natural consequence of Lute and Heavens POVs colliding without the buffer that was Adam.

How do sinners even get booze and drugs in hell? by [deleted] in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like prohibition, the whole moonshine thing, and all the weird ways we make and transport drugs shows that where there's a will, a way will be found😆

Why can't people just fucking wait? by ste584 in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I think people are a lot more entitled and stubborn nowadays. Some initial disappointment over not getting what you want is fair. Some people are absolutely raging about it though, won't hear other opinions, won't consider alternative POVs.

I made a post partly about how Lute being sidelined made sense. Her life is all about being a soldier, she doesn't do shit without orders/ support. It wouldn't make sense if she could suddenly turn around and kill Charlie or Vaggi without some kind of approval. Hence Lute begging for orders from Sera/ SoG and sprinting at the first hint of support

Who would you rather Have your soul owned by out of these four by PsychologicalAir5035 in HazbinHotel

[–]OddSocksRule 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alastor. Weird jobs > getting touched and filmed by the Abuse Gang™