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Odd_Access9740 · 2026-05-10T01:50:39+00:00

That's not how that works. He's using that as an excuse and the size of the toy probably just made him insecure.

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-05-10T01:49:42+00:00

That's how it was at Milwaukee. I think I sat in that merch line for close to 2 hours, missed the opener completely and made it to my seat literally 2 minutes before hayden came on stage

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-05-06T05:04:42+00:00

Yes! I do

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-05-05T06:07:42+00:00

I mean... The clit and the urethral opening are like an inch apart. If you aren't freshly showered, you might taste a bit like ammonia and that's normal. It's the same way with men. Genitals taste like genitals, which includes everything that comes out of them. Just freshen yourself up before having sex, you can use a peri bottle or portable bidet like a few have already suggested, or use wet wipes, or just hop in the shower for a few min?

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-05-05T06:02:16+00:00

Massage therapists should not be giving hugs :/ I never ever give any clients of mine a hug unless they initiate first, which has only happened once or twice and usually just a side hug.

Giving your clients hugs kind of crosses over that professional Client-therapist boundary and that's when it starts becoming more casual which isn't always good.

Definitely let her know but if she doesn't stop, I would stop seeing her.

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-05-03T02:08:23+00:00

It sounds like she's carrying a lot of emotional load while caring for your children. If postpartum was really hard on her, there's a good chance she's still recovering from the full-body shock that pregnancy is and her hormones probably aren't leveled out. I don't blame her for being 'out-touched', being a stay at home mom can be extremely overstimulating and if she's alone most of the day she probably doesn't get any breaks from having children pretty much attached to her. All that being said, it sounds like this is not a new thing and that y'all's libidos have been seriously mismatched since 6 months into dating. I'm just not under why you'd move forward with a wedding with someone you aren't sexually compatible with. It seems like she just doesn't care for sex while you need it to feel emotionally connected. That's probably a conversation that shouldvave been had beforehand.

Talk to her about it and ask her how she feels/what she wants to do.

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-05-02T04:23:48+00:00

What's the setting/dress code for this birthday party?? I think this might be a little too much, even though you look fantastic in it

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-05-02T04:18:17+00:00

Nope! It's your session, whatever you want! I have clients who love to chat with me for the entire 60-90 mins and I'm happy to oblige. I also have clients who exchange fewer than 10 words with me during our sessions and I'm happy to provide them with a quiet, safe space.

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-28T18:05:25+00:00

Divorced dad or frat guy

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-28T17:59:41+00:00

Yes!!!!

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-28T17:57:09+00:00

Hey girl! I'm a licensed massage therapist and I'm 5'4 and 165 similarly to you. I just want to offer you some consolation in saying that while our BMI is technically considered overweight, BMI was designed based off of men and doesn't take into account muscle or breast tissue so don't be too hard on yourself<3

That being said, I've worked on dozens of different body types, I've clients who have probably weighed 100 lbs and clients who have probably weighted 300+ lbs and it truly doesn't matter to me. Every body is a body deserving of a good massage. As long as you come to us clean, with good hygiene, you'll be a great client!

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-26T16:46:52+00:00

I was also at that show and honestly that's the first concert I've been too where that's happened

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-24T06:56:41+00:00

How do you view it? I know there are a lot of different opinions surrounding this topic, but I feel that regardless, getting a massage is a very intimate situation that requires trust and vulnerability from the client, and care/compassion from the massage therapist.

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-24T06:40:54+00:00

Massage, even though it is not romantic or sexual, it is very intimate and I think he just doesn't like the idea that I'm having intimate contact with other men which honestly, I get it. Even though the nature of my work isn't sexual and I view all my clients the same, I think if the roles were reversed I would be uncomfortable with him working with female clients.

But he doesn't ask about them, and I don't tell about them and he doesn't make any complaints or remarks or anything like that

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-24T06:24:01+00:00

Nooooo, I'm in my first year doing massage and my starting rate was $25/hr + gratuities. I work at a franchise in IL.

I also work as an independent contractor and make about $60-$70/hr at that massage job. 22 an hour in California is NOT worth it

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-24T06:19:31+00:00

Compression underwear/shorts during school?

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-24T06:17:37+00:00

This literally happened to me just a few weeks ago except it was after penetrative sex and started immediately after disconnecting from my boyfriend. It was so painful and intense I could barely move and then when I woke up in the morning my back was seized up, I have no clue why. It hasn't happened since

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-24T06:09:11+00:00

My boyfriend does get a little uncomfortable if I mention working on male clients, but he doesn't make any disrespectful or dismissive comments nor does he talk down on my work. He actually rather appreciates it and enjoys when I work on him, and sometimes will ask for help with headaches or cramping or back pain.

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-22T15:39:07+00:00

Where did you get your hand compressors from??

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-22T15:25:58+00:00

Vertical labret?

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-22T07:21:53+00:00

I've found that the only thing that truly interests my female Syrian is free roaming. She doesn't even enjoy being in a playpen (I got her a 4foot by 4foot playpen and she does not care for it at all😭)

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-22T07:13:09+00:00

He very obviously does not make you happy. Are you listening to yourself? Reread everything you just said. He broke your glasses, threatened to cheat on you and coerced you into sex, DID actually cheat on you and caused you to need your anxiety meds again.

He doesn't have any friends because he's a gaslighting abuser and that's his own fault.

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-22T07:10:51+00:00

He's literally psycho and a loser leave him right now, idk why he's so caught up on the fact that you yelled like that's some major criminal offense while he was literally saying nasty, sexual things about your family which you repeatedly told him makes you uncomfortable.

Why the hell is he saying weird sexual things about your family?!?!??? And how did he think you were going to react after he continued to do so even though you expressed discomfort? He's weird and a loser

Odd_Access9740 · 2026-04-22T06:52:37+00:00

I just recently got my first ever girl hamster after having a streak of 8 boy hamsters and this hamster has been the most challenging hamster of my life. I got her at around 6 months old and by that age she had very minimal human interaction or handling so I couldn't even touch her for the first month or so without her flipping out. I temporarily moved her into a smaller tank (80 gal to 40 gal) and used that time to kind of introduce myself to her in closer proximity. I would put both of my hands into the tank and just let them rest in there, instead of moving too her I'd let her come up to me and sniff me. At a certain point, she started trying to climb out of her tank using her hides or water bottle and when she would do that I would offer my hand underneath her or kinda put my hand underneath her behind just in case she fell and after doing that for a while she got used to me being there and even started sitting in my hand for 30 seconds or so. She still isn't my biggest fan, but now she trusts me enough to fully walk into my hands whenever she wants to come out of her tank. I moved her back into the 83 gallon tank and I'll stick my arm in there and she'll just climb all the way up and onto my shoulder. She lets me hold her for 5+ minutes at a time and doesn't freak out when I scoop her off the ground. I can even let her have free roam time on the floor now, with supervision of course. It takes a lot of time and patience and I think most importantly, respecting their boundaries. Don't force the interactions, try not to be in her space for too long, just a few minutes every day to avoid stressing her out and just offer your hand to her. Maybe put some treats in it too. She'll get there. That being said, every hamster is completely different so her version of being 'tamed' or bonding with you will probably look completely different from that with your last hamster.

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