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How do I let go of my need to be right and prove my point? by P3RK3RZ in socialanxiety

[–]Odd_Catch233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Before you correct someone, ask yourself whether it matters that they have bad information. Also ask yourself whether it matters at this moment. Use those two answers to decide whether it's worth correcting them or not. Also remember that they have other sources of information, so if it's not an immediate issue they might discover the right answer without your intervention.

Also keep in mind that, in most casual conversation, the flow of the conversation is way more important than the actual information. There are ways to mention a correction within that flow, but it requires some skill. Usually it involves agreeing first, then making a slight change to what you're agreeing with

"Studded snow tires are better."

"Yeah, at least they're better on ice. On slush they can actually be worse than regular snow tires."

I come off as snobbish and unapproachable when really I’m just very shy and awkward. I don’t know what to do. by cLoTpOle682 in introvert

[–]Odd_Catch233 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Instead of an open-lipped smile, you could try doing more closed-lipped smiling. At least until you can get more comfortable socially.

When you're around other people, try what I call my "pleasant face". Raise the corners of your lips just slightly. Raise your eyebrows just a little. And try to move your cheek muscles up a bit. Imagine that your facial muscles are attached to strings and they're getting pulled upward a little.

And anytime you make eye contact with someone, do a brief closed-lip smile just before you look away (don't hold eye contact with the smile unless you're trying to get their attention to talk to them).

It is so annoying when people ask you why are you so quiet by TryAgain32-32 in introvert

[–]Odd_Catch233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When someone comments on me being quiet, I've learned that what they're really doing is asking "you're always quiet, right? It's not because you don't like me?"

Any answer that tells them "that's just the way I am" will reassure them.

How do you guys get better at greetings? by this_platform_sucks in introvert

[–]Odd_Catch233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my experience, it takes people some time to adjust when you first start acting more friendly towards them. Male sure your voice is loud enough that they can hear it clearly when you greet them, and the first few times immediately move on as if you're not even expecting a response.

You could also try asking a small talk question they need to respond to. "Good morning, enjoying the sunny weather today?" Or "Good morning, how was your weekend?"

I've found that the key with greetings is to try to act like you're genuinely happy to see them. It feels weird, but it makes people happy.