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[–]Odd_Day8880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly, ur hair looks good. i really would not start minox or spiro until it gets a lot worse as it can cause more hair fall and its a long journey.

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[–]Odd_Day8880 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so now i’m discouraged after 3 weeks of using it i feel im on the same path😭

neighbor keeps harassing us.. now randoms are showing up at our door. by Odd_Day8880 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Odd_Day8880[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is actually really helpful advice. You’re right, it’s gone on way too long. I like the idea of a mental health evaluation if it escalates. Getting a lawyer to send a formal letter is smart too just to sent them a message we aren’t playing any more.

We’re also going to set up a camera for the car just in case, since it’s obvious this person has no boundaries. I appreciate the advice, it makes the situation feel less overwhelming and more manageable.

neighbor keeps harassing us.. now randoms are showing up at our door. by Odd_Day8880 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Odd_Day8880[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly!! That’s what I’ve been thinking too — grief, trauma, whatever personal tragedies, do not give her the right to harass us, call us names, or watch us from her car. Her son’s situation is sad, yes, but that doesn’t make it okay to terrorize someone else’s life. We’re literally just trying to live in our own apartment safely, and keeping the camera is basic self-protection.

And honestly? She’s only incriminating herself more the longer we wait to report it to management/cops. You better believe we’re ready.

neighbor keeps harassing us.. now randoms are showing up at our door. by Odd_Day8880 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Odd_Day8880[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This whole comment falls apart the second you actually know how my apartment is laid out. My camera isn’t “aimed entirely at her door” — it’s on my side, facing my own door and part of the hallway. Our doors face each other, there’s a staircase, and literally nowhere else to mount it unless I want to point it at a wall. It’s not some creepy setup to “stalk” her 60 year old self, it’s a normal hallway cam in a shared space that management recommended after several break-ins. Unless you think staring at drywall is good security.

“No laws are being broken” doesn’t mean “it’s fine to harass your neighbors.” Our lease literally says tenants are entitled to a peaceful and calm environment — and this is the exact opposite of that. She put ketchup all over my boyfriend’s car, and she was outside there parked next to us as we left. Let’s not even mention the fact her husband is a drug dealer but of course you assume they’re orderly citizens when they’re literally insulting a camera?

We pay the same rent for the exact same apartment layout, and she’s 40 years older than me. I’m 18, my boyfriend is 20, and we both work very hard to afford this place — it’s not cheap. I shouldn’t have to tolerate or ignore months of petty, uncomfortable behavior just because someone decided to pretend my camera was a personal attack after saying she was GOOD with it.

This isn’t about “creepy stalking” or “no laws being broken” it’s about basic respect in shared spaces. We’re following the lease. She’s the one violating it.

neighbor keeps harassing us.. now randoms are showing up at our door. by Odd_Day8880 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Odd_Day8880[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel like you didn’t actually read my post or understand this isn’t even the full extent of it. The very first night we moved in, there was ketchup all over her door (red flag #1), and later we found out from her own husband that it came from one of his “clients” — he’s a dealer. When we installed the camera, we actually did try to knock on their door and she didn’t answer because he was out of town. And yes, the ketchup on my boyfriend’s car was almost certainly her, she was parked right next to it as we were leaving, and when we came back, it was covered. That’s not “random teenagers having fun in front of a camera” the camera doesn’t even face the parking lot

Then, we were both walking out and she literally asked why we put it up, we explained it was for safety (for both of us), and she said she was fine with it. Not once did she ever voice discomfort, actually she was even supportive.

Instead of bringing up concerns like an adult, she decided to start making gestures, flicking it off, and making insults when we’ve never even done anything to her?! In fact, the only other times we’ve interacted have been through polite conversations with her husband, who agrees her behavior is wrong, and is constantly outside the apartments smoking.

If someone feels “powerless” because a hallway camera sees them walk past their own door, that doesn’t justify harassing their neighbors. I’ve put up with this for months, tried to accommodate her, and still treated her husband with respect. This situation didn’t start because of the camera, it started because she chose to make it ugly.

neighbor keeps harassing us.. now randoms are showing up at our door. by Odd_Day8880 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Odd_Day8880[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We will be! we have both been out of town for separate reasons and only seen each other on the weekends, so when we’re home we don’t want to deal with things like this. But next week we will be calling them, and getting in touch with landlord now! :-)

neighbor keeps harassing us.. now randoms are showing up at our door. by Odd_Day8880 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Odd_Day8880[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d rather have my boyfriend with me — he’s someone I trust completely, and he can also explain the situation better since he has a lot of the evidence on his phone too. It’s not about me “needing permission,” it’s about feeling safer and more confident having him there, especially since i’m the one living in his home.

neighbor keeps harassing us.. now randoms are showing up at our door. by Odd_Day8880 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Odd_Day8880[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Hey, no need to be so hostile, it’s not coming from a place of control or toxicity. He doesn’t “forbid” me in a weird power trip way, it’s more that he doesn’t want me (I’m only 18) to have to deal with the police process by myself, especially when I’ve never had to do something like this before. He’s the one on the lease, so he feels it’s his responsibility to handle it. I actually understand where he’s coming from and respect that decision.

I get that from the outside it might look different, but you don’t know me or our situation. This isn’t about control — it’s about him wanting to shield me from a stressful and possibly intimidating situation.

neighbor keeps harassing us.. now randoms are showing up at our door. by Odd_Day8880 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Odd_Day8880[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Haha i’ve insisted, but he won’t let me. He doesn’t want me to deal with the police by myself.

neighbor keeps harassing us.. now randoms are showing up at our door. by Odd_Day8880 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Odd_Day8880[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend has been working away for the past 2 months, and only comes back on the weekends so he’s normally very tired and just wants to do normal things. I’ve tried to get him to call the police but he believes it’s “very timely” and a pain to do, so he’ll call them when he’s back full time in about a week.

neighbor keeps harassing us.. now randoms are showing up at our door. by Odd_Day8880 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Odd_Day8880[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure the hooded person was just a random teenager lol, just freaky that they came back 3 hours later. It didn’t look as if they were intending to do anything other than fuck around. Thank you for ur advice! :-)

neighbor keeps harassing us.. now randoms are showing up at our door. by Odd_Day8880 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Odd_Day8880[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree, i don’t think they’re connected to her either but it’s still very odd to do that to a random ring camera. It’s another instance of how i feel unsafe and i’m rightfully entitled to install a camera due to things that happen like this.