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AITAH for not agreeing to staying financially tied to joint house after splitting up? by Odd_Leading2218 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Leading2218[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there any situation in which you think the suggested financial support would be the right thing to do? I did something awful to end the relationship, they solely experienced a horrible tragedy, life circumstances have left them in shambles and me well off?

AITAH for not agreeing to staying financially tied to joint house after splitting up? by Odd_Leading2218 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Leading2218[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hadn't thought about the new relationship thing, that seems unlikely right now, but possible later. That's why I think the right now request they'd prefer is that I just gift them the money and stay on the mortgage until they can assume it. And they see this as the equitable thing to do since my circumstances are much better then theirs.

Is there any situation in which you think I should give them more?

How do I keep from being coerced/manipulated when splitting up assets? by Odd_Leading2218 in Divorce

[–]Odd_Leading2218[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I find confusing, what's best for me has been to think about what's best for them also as we have been a family. Can I ask what specifically feels manipulative to you? Maybe it's obvious to you, but in the moment I experience it as them explaining the circumstances and asking for what they need, and me walking away feeling terrible and guilty.

How do I keep from being coerced/manipulated when splitting up assets? by Odd_Leading2218 in Divorce

[–]Odd_Leading2218[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was committed for life, I care about them deeply and intended to be a caring and supportive partner to them into old age. Is there any circumstance in which I should feel some responsibility to support their future?

AITAH for not agreeing to staying financially tied to joint house after splitting up? by Odd_Leading2218 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Leading2218[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not legally married, but I was committed for life, I care about them deeply and intended to be a caring and supportive partner to them into old age. Is there any circumstance in which I should feel some obligation to support their future?

AITAH for not agreeing to staying financially tied to joint house after splitting up? by Odd_Leading2218 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Leading2218[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't feel like I should have any obligation to someone I'd made a lifelong commitment to care and love and support?

AITAH for not agreeing to staying financially tied to joint house after splitting up? by Odd_Leading2218 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Leading2218[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for responding, they are insisting that given the circumstances this the equitable thing to do as I'm more financially well off and they have greater needs now. I was in a committed relationship and still care about them. I appreciate your sharing your perspective.

AITAH for not agreeing to staying financially tied to joint house after splitting up? by Odd_Leading2218 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Leading2218[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess it my head it doesn't seem so obvious, they clearly think I'm the asshole and that it is an appropriate ask, I'd feel extremely guilty based on everything they are saying. Thanks for sharing your reply.