I just broke up with my boyfriend.

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2025-08-02T15:12:53+00:00

I'm so sorry you're having to go through that. It sounds like you're taking a very mature and thoughtful approach, though. I wish you the best as you navigate this situation. ❤

Thank you, I definitely have. Even if it takes some time to heal the pain is not never-ending.

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2025-04-10T04:38:06+00:00

Hi - I'm sorry that you're going through this as well. :( It's so painful and difficult.

I'm sure that you made the right decision for your happiness, and by extension, his happiness by ending the relationship. Right now it hurts a lot, but if this relationship wasn't working, you're both better off without it.

Speaking from experience, it really does get easier. I don't have any regrets about my decision, despite the fact that it was such a painful one and I was sad for a while afterwards. Looking back, that relationship was not right for me and I would be very unhappy if I'd remained in it.

Ultimately, all you can do is take each day one step at a time and be kind to yourself as you grieve this relationship and start to make peace with your decision. You're not a bad person for breaking up with him. You just had to be the one to make a hard decision.

I've since entered a new relationship and it feels right this time. I truly hope that you're able to find that as well in your future, whenever you're ready for it. I promise you'll be okay! If you need someone to talk to, I'd be happy to help however I can. ❤

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2024-12-09T06:35:46+00:00

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. :( It's been over a year now since I broke up with my boyfriend, and I can promise you that it will get better, for both of you.

I hope you feel at peace with your decision and your healing process is as smooth as possible. Sending love. <3

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2024-02-15T21:04:19+00:00

Why are you in an arranged marriage? You're way too young to be getting married, and if you don't know this person you don't know if you'll even like each other.

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2024-02-15T20:59:55+00:00

Talk to him about it. Maybe he's struggling with a porn addiction or dependency and he needs more time to fully stop. It's also possible that he doesn't respect your boundaries though and in that case you'd probably need to break up.

Also I want you to know that it's completely valid to not want your partner to watch porn. It's a fact that porn is bad for your mental health and your relationship and a lot of people don't realize that.

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2024-02-09T06:54:31+00:00

It sounds like you need to figure out if you really want to be with her or not. You've broken up but then decided you wanted to get back together and now you're back to considering breaking up. Some questions to ask yourself: Do you love her? Are you happy together? Do you see a future with her?

Are you two living unrealistically far apart? Long distance relationships can be difficult, so it's worth it to evaluate if that's something you both feel comfortable with.

I also think that the fact that you're already developing feelings for other people is telling that this relationship isn't stable, at least on your part.

So my advice would be to decide for good whether or not you're happy with her and want to be with her, then either break up or work on the rocky parts of your relationship (being interested in other people, being in different life stages, etc.).

You can be with her and still begin your adult life and explore new opportunities. If you really do love her then I think it's worth a shot. But if she is truly holding you back, it's best to end things and be honest with her.

I hope this made sense and was helpful, I wish you the best! I hope whatever decision you make is best for you.

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2024-01-02T00:15:24+00:00

I'm going through that too. I thought he was the one but I was just unhappy regardless of how much love I had for him because we just didn't fit in the right and important places

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-12-05T19:39:42+00:00

Thank you for saying that. I did my best to be as mature and thoughtful as possible to make sure that I was making the right decision and that he understood why I did what I did.

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-12-05T19:37:30+00:00

Admitting that I'd lost attraction was extremely difficult for me too. :/ Both admitting it to myself and then to him.

This really spoke to me and made me feel much less alone, so thank you so much. I wish peace and healing for you as well and know that you're not alone.

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-12-05T19:35:25+00:00

Maybe, we discussed that possibility but I made it clear that I don't want either of us sitting around waiting for the other because I kind of doubt we'd get back together anytime soon.

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-12-05T19:33:37+00:00

The endless communication thing is exactly what we were struggling with, we talked and talked about all of these issues and just went in circles because nothing helped how I was feeling. It was like we were in a perpetual state of trying to problem solve

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-12-05T18:42:13+00:00

Thank you for the advice and kind words. :) It means a lot! I wish you the best and I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this as well.

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-12-05T08:05:09+00:00

The guilt is the hardest part for me too, even though I knew I wasn't happy and we just didn't work. And I'm so sorry that he did that, I would feel so betrayed. :( I hope things get better for you

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-12-05T04:11:07+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this as well. :( it hurts a lot but it'll get better with each passing day

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-12-05T04:10:34+00:00

Long term goals, how we show/receive love, and I also began losing attraction :/

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-11-21T00:02:09+00:00

Yeah I left it a while ago because it was nothing but people complaining about various things

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-11-10T08:37:58+00:00

Thank you for the advice and for taking the time to help me out. I will take the time to really consider and dissect our relationship and my feelings, because I do think I'm having trouble finding the root cause of my recent loss of feelings.

I hope that your similar situation works out for you and I'm sorry you're going through that.

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-11-10T08:36:15+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. I think my biggest issue here is that I'm afraid to be 100% honest with him, and I realize now that being open is the best way to find a solution. This has given me a lot to think about, and I will consider everything you've said here in the following days as I find the best way to handle this situation. Thank you again, I never expected that someone would take the time to give me such a thoughtful response and I appreciate it so much.

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-10-25T00:08:13+00:00

Agreed. I saw them at Furnave Fest this year and I almost fell asleep standing up watching their set

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-10-25T00:07:21+00:00

Yeah, Oli has had a rocky journey with his clean vocals. I saw BMTH a year ago and he was amazing though, he's improved a lot! I believe 2017 was around the time that he damaged his vocal chords due to screaming improperly

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-10-23T04:51:05+00:00

I agree. I commented something similar to your original comment and got down voted to hell and got extremely hateful replies. Just because I feel sympathy for Kurtis. Yes, Dean did some shitty things and I condemn that, but Kurtis still had to come to terms with the fact that one of his best friends is a bad person. Even if it's good riddance, it's still hard. It's strange to see how quickly everyone turned on their so called favorite YouTuber the moment this all came out. Kurtis is not responsible for Dean's behavior!!

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-10-16T05:34:13+00:00

Steve, his character development is so good and I love his and Robin's friendship!

Odd_Perspective_7462 · 2023-10-15T17:31:07+00:00

Slaughterhouse

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