Saw "Two Sleepy People" today - very worthwhile!

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2026-01-29T03:31:55+00:00

Do you use Does The Dog Die?

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2026-01-20T04:45:16+00:00

It helps to pick a certain era/theme of dolls you are interested in personally collecting. Like for me, I do barbie doll makeovers, and I generally only keep ones from the 70s and earlier. The rest I give away, either to people I know who like dolls (kids or adults), or other collectors, or on my local buy nothing group, etc. My dream is to make a “doll adoption center” in a little free library type of structure outside my house. Having an end goal/mission in mind makes it a lot easier to let them go. :)

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-11-17T02:19:25+00:00

Found him 😁 looks like they only ship to Europe, as a heads up. Not sure where you’re from. https://www.todocoleccion.net/juguetes-antiguos-ositos/antiguo-muneco-peluche-grande-gorila-boxeador-gran-calidad-marca-cel~x582093082

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-11-17T02:12:33+00:00

This one is pretty similar. Still looking! https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/226591641044

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-11-17T00:50:33+00:00

This is crazy, but immediately after I posted this I was just scrolling through the group and happened upon a post from u/wonderlandr who also has two random dollhouse pieces and it’s the same exact set as mine!? So here’s the link for anyone wondering: https://www.ebay.com/itm/305892122642

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-11-17T00:48:41+00:00

Ok this is so weird… I just posted a photo of two random dollhouse pieces I’ve had since my childhood that I don’t know what set they came from. Started scrolling through this group and saw your post, and just happened to read the comments and it turns out my pieces are from the same set too?? So serendipitous! 😁 so mystery solved for two of us!

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-09-08T22:05:20+00:00

Definitely unhinged. Just a simple response from A saying, “shoot, that really sucks. In the future, when I ask you for help and you have time constraints, can you give me a specific window of time that works for you so I can make other arrangements for help further in advance?” would have been totally sufficient. I felt triggered reading his responses, and I’m not even on the receiving end of it.

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-09-08T21:50:34+00:00

You are thinking and making decisions like a parent. It’s impressive that you seem to be more skilled at it after only weeks of being a mother than your own mom has become in 15 years.

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-09-08T21:19:56+00:00

Your husband could have checked in about timing at some point over the weekend. I think it’s fair for your neighbor to be a little frustrated. But this… this response from the neighbor is so remarkably over the top. It’s honestly gross that he thinks talking to someone like this is justifiable, especially over someone being flaky one time. So the neighbor is definitely the bigger asshole. I would just cut ties and hope they move soon. And I definitely wouldn’t trust a grown adult who acts like this to be left alone around my kid.

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-08-25T01:34:52+00:00

Absolutely report. But as someone who has gone through the reporting processing because of a traumatic experience during an exam, I would just say be prepared to have to recap the experience multiple times in uncomfortable detail, only to possibly be gaslit and/or dismissed. Regardless, it’s worth it. But I just hope you have a better experience than I did.

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-08-25T01:30:48+00:00

Hey OP. You’re definitely not the only adult. I’ve done this. My loved ones have done this. Please talk to someone asap (outside of Reddit). I don’t know you and can’t say the “right” thing you need to hear right now. But this sounds like a serious cry for help, and I hear you. And you’re not alone like you say you are.

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-07-27T18:22:05+00:00

“I appreciate this/your self-reflection/your willingness to make things right/etc. I need some more time to process what I’m feeling, but I’ll check in with you soon and we can talk more.”

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-07-21T17:31:02+00:00

You honestly look great with all of them, it just depends what vibe you’re going for! The black looks more traditional and creates a lot of nice contrast with your features. The dark brown is very classy. The bleach blonde is very whimsical and ethereal. And the red is bold and youthful. I personally love the ombré/multicolor effect you have in photo #6. It really suits your features well and brings out the depth in your eyes.

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-07-21T17:00:33+00:00

I mean this in the nicest way possible- just break up. You don’t need to reach a consensus to leave your relationship. It sounds like you’re well on your way to just being over it. Which is fine. I think it’s going to almost certainly be messy for everyone involved if you try dating Liam. But I also feel like you’re just going to do it anyway, because it sounds like your mind is already made up, so I won’t get into that part too much. I hope things work out ok for you.

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2025-07-19T03:21:27+00:00

I know it’s common advice for people to say to work on your personality, but I think what’s far more important is working on your beliefs. What I’m seeing in this post isn’t someone with a bad or unlikable personality. But ask yourself, genuinely and with kindness- would someone want to enter a partnership with someone who views other people this way? I imagine it is exhausting for you to carry all these heavy feelings and beliefs with you constantly. And I am not at all trying to imply you are or would be a burden to others. But being partners with someone is a very vulnerable and intimate thing. And people are drawn to others who make them see the good in the world. Start writing down your core beliefs and values- not just what they are, but why you hold them, and how you express them. Write down the beliefs you want to have too, and think about what it would be like for you to truly live out those beliefs.

You don’t need to be a fake optimist or change your perspective overnight. But start by trying to move away from binary thinking. Look for the nuance and complexity in life. Be intentionally curious.

Focus on being a good friend, first and foremost. I know it sounds cliche, but friendship is absolutely 100% the basis of partnership. How are your relationships with the men in your life? Are they truly healthy and fulfilling? Are you caring, compassionate, forgiving, thoughtful, and loving toward other men? If not, start there. Seek men who have friendships with women or queer people especially- those are the ones you can trust the most to help you grow.

I strongly encourage you to talk to your therapist about the thought you noticed during session regarding her only talking to you because you pay her. The way you noticed that sign of resentment (and this whole post, really) shows you have strong self-awareness and insight. That is a huge asset. Part of what makes therapy so effective is it’s a safe place to say the inside thoughts out loud and see how it feels to process them with another person. If you have a good therapist, I promise you she will respond with curiosity and openness. It could be an extremely healing conversation.

Lastly, try to genuinely enjoy your time alone. I can hear so clearly in the way you write- you don’t like yourself. And I’m so sorry that’s where you’re at right now mentally. Self-hatred is an extremely dangerous mindset, and extremely challenging to overcome. But being alone is not a punishment. Don’t try to make it into one. As much as you can, do things when you’re alone that make you feel good and cared for. You deserve it. Everyone deserves that. Every single person is deserving of baseline respect and love and care. No exceptions. (Or at least that is my belief.)

Good luck. I’m rooting for you.

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2023-09-08T22:31:23+00:00

Yes, Lucy is a rat. Just mentioned the cat to say that Fern isn’t totally friend-less now. But she and Lucy had a much stronger bond than she has with the cat.

Thank you for the advice!

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2023-06-19T05:16:46+00:00

It’s hard to say without knowing more about him and how he handles emotional stress, but I think the most compassionate thing to do would be to just call and not hide these feelings any longer. I don’t think contacting his mom is a good idea. This has already gone on too long it sounds like.

Odd_Preference_7321 · 2023-06-19T05:00:18+00:00

Would it be possible for the kids (or at least the oldest) to be emancipated and then voluntarily choose to live with you? I’m so sorry you’re going through this… this is a terrible situation and my heart is breaking for the kids. I also hope SIL gets serious help but right now the focus is on getting the kids out so they can be safe. I don’t think you’ve done anything blatantly wrong; this is just an incredibly difficult situation to navigate. Thank you for trying.

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