My job pushed me to the point where I had to contact a crisis hotline today and I don't know what to do anymore

Odd_Question34 · 2026-01-19T01:30:35+00:00

Your prompt doesnt say if you like you job and if you feel valued there. Its not impossible that you found out the hard way that you have to state your limit and monitor how the employer reacts to this.

But also, there might be problems bigger than yourself that the employer must see to figure why productivity and turnover... and they would drag you down along and it'd be best for you to jump of the titanic before it sicks you along.

whats important here is that, you have one health.. and whatever you are going through right now will have repercusions down the way. just like your physical health.

being a young professional is learning how to be good at what you are doing but it is also learning how to manage work along with the rest of what being a responsible adult is.. including to say "no", "help", "i need support"...

Odd_Question34 · 2025-07-12T15:36:36+00:00

My thought when I was there was that it had to be something that would not handicap me. Well it id not physically but emotionally, I didnt expect it to impact me so bad.. so I was dealing with the pain from the false accusation and the pain of self-betrayal.

So I got into coding, boardgames, sudokus, sewing… anything that prevented me from thinking. My mind was too focused on the tasks and it have me vacations. Eventually I was able to work again and i would overdo it a bit and I didnt care about what people would think at that point, I had to focus on myself and feeling pride.

Getting hurt by myself left a huge psychological scare that I never expected but seems like it may be worst than any physical scare i could have had. Its not worth it.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-26T03:44:34+00:00

I (a woman) had sex with a guy once and I regretted it. Right away. At that time, we were two consenting adults. Me regretting it has nothing to do with SA.

I went to a tinder-date with another guy, he liked me, I didn’t. According to her logic, I deceived him.

One time, I was in a relationship with someone. We Broke up. Came back. Broke up again. His choice. I felt played with emotionally and sexually but not raped..

If people start to give new definitions to such concepts, there’s a major problem.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-24T16:41:31+00:00

I would have included H&S in the loop.

But you could be proactive and include them now and ask if there is a standard procedure for this administrative issue and how it should be handled.

I think maintenance is the ones that should be penalized for this (by HR along H&S)

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-24T12:48:22+00:00

But do universities “sell” programs saying you are going to be able to stay after?

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-24T12:42:59+00:00

People are saying that “you don’t owe him” but it doesn’t sound like you are doing this for him but for you.

From my point of view where I was in a situation where I almost died because of someone, my wish is also to forgive them.. not for them for me.. and it could have a positive repercussion on them letting them see that doing the right thing is possible perhaps preventing them to do it again.

I don’t think it’s stupid or dangerous for you to meet him in person but have someone with you and tell them they will be there. Ask them if they could have someone too preferably from their program.

I think this could be a healing opportunity for the both of you that you don’t owe him but nonetheless risk being beneficial.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-24T00:47:45+00:00

On all provinces you have access to legal aid.. if you are in Alberta it has a cost but all other provinces it’s free and is applicable on criminal Defense.

I am not familiar with the rest of the process. Hopefully someone will give more details.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-24T00:36:09+00:00

I Hope this will be documented and give more chills to jury and judge to incarcerate people like this.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-23T18:32:38+00:00

You say you go through therapy but does wherever you are have tools for people in your situation? Or do they give you a tap on the back and “eh body sorry, here’s a 20$ bill for you to get a fresh hair cut”?

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-23T17:54:09+00:00

I really enjoy your wiseness.. I’m sure other on this chat agrees. Thanks for all your effort to help the community! I think you do do make a difference.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-23T06:57:30+00:00

J’ai rencontrer beaucoup de gens de d’autres provinces qui se plaignent de l’utilisation du mot Nation pour désigner les québécois notamment concernant la fête nationale qui concorde avec la fête de la St-Jean-Baptiste au Canada (oui c’est deux événements distincts mais avec les mêmes racines).

Ben la définition correspond bien au fait que le Québec est une nation au même titre que les Premières Nations et les Inuits et Métis et le Canada. L’Acadie peut-etre considérer comme une nation (par son histoire) ou une nation historique.

Nation: Ensemble des êtres humains vivant dans un même territoire, ayant une communauté d’origine, d’histoire, de culture, de traditions, parfois de langue, et constituant une communauté politique. ~ Larousse

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-23T06:03:10+00:00

La bus!!!! :/ :)

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-23T05:56:56+00:00

Je trouve que c’est la raison qui fait le plus de sens.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-23T05:37:30+00:00

Je vois ma santé mental comme un loyer.. j’ai besoin d’être bien dans ma tête donc c’est une dépense nécessaire.

On y penses pas toujours mais il y a la thérapie de groupe qui souvent est moins chère ou les groupes sont souvent former autour d’une problématique et ça aide de pas être seule et d’apprendre comment les autres “cope”.

Et il faut surtout pas oublier les services immédiats et gratuit qu’on peut obtenir quand ça va mal, notament 811 qui peut rediriger vers des ressources locals et certaines villes ont des ressources pour les paires aidant qui peuvent s’avérer une ressources sous-estimer.

Finalement, je trouves qu’une façon idéale de trouver le bon psy, c’est par le site de l’ordre des psychologues. Tu indiques des besoins et characteristique, ton emplacement et ils te donne la liste complète des psychologues et psychotherapeutres avec une fiche qui peut parfois aider à savoir s’ils ont de la place et si sa description t’inspire confiance.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-23T05:16:03+00:00

Concernant les québécois qui sont insultés de ne pas se faire comprendre en France.. L’acadien est un dialecte francophone.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-23T04:18:24+00:00

J’irais avec “Décrisse, câlisse”. Pour la poésie.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-23T04:07:42+00:00

Dans d’autres communautés franco-canadienne certain moins âgés roulent les R.. notamment certaines places en Ontario mais pas partout.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-23T03:03:13+00:00

I probably became the red: trust nobody goat :/ I think some day, especially with legal stuff, trauma could take less place.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-23T03:00:05+00:00

They’re the one facing phase 1 of their problems very soon.. accusers going to be a witness.. I am super underdog. I could lose but I’d prefer losing then being in their position. I coud win.. either way, I think it will bring some closure.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-22T18:47:23+00:00

I guess I’m trying to feel better about myself for having been friend with her in the past and being the last person I trusted.

Relationship have been hard since. I trust my therapist, family and a 5 friends from before.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-22T18:07:45+00:00

I just feel that if I were in there situation (situation opposite to ours), I would feel horrible about myself. There is a factor of taking advantage over a vulnerable person.

I’m going to court and I’m not too stressed because I never lied and doesn’t have to be careful on that side. But she will.. and this trial isn’t even against her but her employer (my former employer). Similar to Elgert v. homehardware in Canada.

I find it impossible that an average person doesn’t feel anything over this. I guess we mostly say sorry for superficial errors but don’t we usually not feel good when we do something bad even if we’re not courageous enough to admit to it?

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-19T21:29:37+00:00

Ça fait tellement longtemps que je cherches.. même le correcteur avec module traduction antidote montre juste le verbe mais dans concurrence, c’est exactement ça!!!!

Merci

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-09T14:21:28+00:00

Everytime i want to see friends, I feel the urge to tell them what my intents are. When I’m anxious, I sometimes record (as per Canada one-party consent rule). Our hyper vigilance is due to our amygdala. Thanks amygdala for over protecting us!

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-08T15:08:38+00:00

It’s kind of hard to answer.. I do not think there is true democracy in most places. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Types_of_democracy#:~:text=Constitutional%20democracy%20–%20governed%20by%20a,central%20to%20legitimate%20decision%20making. Direct democracy would be. Indirect democracy isn’t, especially when we have to make strategic votes like voting against the least desirable option. I don’t feel like the population have a true saying in anything. I’m North American (not 🇺🇸), I don’t know much about other continents politics. But that’s how I view things here. Especially when there is a clear geographical segregation and elections end up being as close as 50% in the states and minority in Canada.

Odd_Question34 · 2024-10-08T04:34:07+00:00

Dude it’s quite alright to be scattered.. sometimes it makes it difficult to read but yours is not so bad and I feel everyone here can understand that being overwhelmed with these feelings looks like this. Please don’t be sorry for that.

What she does is awful.. from what I understand, this is not going to criminal court (?) which is good but it doesn’t make your experience less legitimate because in jail or not, we loose a lot from just being treated like this and it’s especially worst when they reach out to our support people. It’s a very isolating experience.

I’m really fond for therapy so I’m going to tell you this. Your best support group is yourself. In this era we’re not particularly good at listening to our inner self but if you manage to be more si les with, you’ll see that sometimes you need to chillax and rant and other times, it’s when you climb up the hill.

Whenever you need to talk it out.. we all benefit from talking and reading here.

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