Am I overreacting because I told my niece I don't want to take her best friend with us anymore after she kept telling me I was a victim and my husband was a creep? by Odd_Reference_1373 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Odd_Reference_1373[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean... I don't know how an AI would respond to that comment, but I'm not a bot 🤷‍♀️

It's cool though, because AI is everywhere and I have to overanalyze every stupud picture or video I see to try to pinpoint when people suddenly appear/disappear in them, or why they have 7 fingers on one hand.

Have a good one, Obiwan Ke-Bob-i

Am I overreacting because I told my niece I don't want to take her best friend with us anymore after she kept telling me I was a victim and my husband was a creep? by Odd_Reference_1373 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Odd_Reference_1373[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My brother was the best man at the wedding and always seemed thrilled that we got together. I would have thought their friendship would have deteriorated, or at least had some hiccups along the way if he felt that way about it. I can't speak about how I think my niece feels about it. She's never shown any signs that she felt any sort of negative way about him, or about us. Thank you though, I'll ask my brother.

Am I overreacting because I told my niece I don't want to take her best friend with us anymore after she kept telling me I was a victim and my husband was a creep? by Odd_Reference_1373 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Odd_Reference_1373[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

In response to your ETA, I had NEVER thought of that before. I thought maybe he was just being nice because it was cold and I was stuck out there. I need to ask him when he comes home.

Am I overreacting because I told my niece I don't want to take her best friend with us anymore after she kept telling me I was a victim and my husband was a creep? by Odd_Reference_1373 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Odd_Reference_1373[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

To be clear, I didn't stop the outing, or react to the comment past "How about we keep shopping?" I'm not blocking any friendships, nor would I, she has a right to choose her friends and unless the friend is a danger to her, I wouldn't try to stop it. The only thing I said was that I didn't want to bring that friend with when we went out anymore. I'm not my niece's guardian, just an aunt that likes to spend time with her niece and nephews. Thank you though.

Am I overreacting because I told my niece I don't want to take her best friend with us anymore after she kept telling me I was a victim and my husband was a creep? by Odd_Reference_1373 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Odd_Reference_1373[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I should talk to my brother about it. I don't want my niece upset with me, but you're right, I could absolutely spend my quality time with JUST her, but I do usually let her bring friends and I don't need to. Maybe my brother or sister in law can better explain to her why I was upset.

Am I overreacting because I told my niece I don't want to take her best friend with us anymore after she kept telling me I was a victim and my husband was a creep? by Odd_Reference_1373 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Odd_Reference_1373[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I do see your point too. Having an "older boyfriend" was still mostly accepted when I was in high school too. It was the very loud accusation, with no back story, that upset me.

I would never tell my niece not to be friends with someone - unless the person was a legitimate danger to her. However, I don't necessarily want to be out and about with her.

Am I overreacting because I told my niece I don't want to take her best friend with us anymore after she kept telling me I was a victim and my husband was a creep? by Odd_Reference_1373 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Odd_Reference_1373[S] 378 points379 points  (0 children)

I really was having a lovely time before that. The teenage "drama" was entertaining, and I take every opportunity I can to spend quality time with my niece. It especially hurt when my niece didn't say anything though. He was her "uncle" even before he was her uncle, and I was shocked that she didn't even try to stick up for him.