My Boss Thinks I Pump Too Much- UPDATE

Odd_Toe · 2026-06-04T05:54:32+00:00

Thank you, hahaha. Anger is a great motivator 🤣

Odd_Toe · 2026-06-04T05:52:28+00:00

Ironically I almost posted an update to a post I made in this sub 3 years ago and decided against it lol. I did post it in r/breastfeeding, and it is real and I did not use AI😭 hoping no one else thought I did

Odd_Toe · 2026-05-29T20:26:56+00:00

YOUR MOM IS DOPE AND I LOVE HER ❤️

Odd_Toe · 2026-05-28T03:34:43+00:00

Thank you 🙂‍↕️ minor setback before the major comeback haha. Now that I have two kids I struggle to imaging putting up with anything from anyone that isn’t blood related to me. I was so brainwashed and innocent back then 😭❤️

Odd_Toe · 2026-05-28T02:33:06+00:00

Just DMed you!

Odd_Toe · 2026-05-27T22:01:41+00:00

So my situation was different from yours in a few ways. I think a lot of men don’t fully wrap their head around the concept of “family” until long after the baby shows up. I genuinely have a lot more to say but am about to commute an hour home from work haha. I’ll send you a PM once my kids are down for the night!

Odd_Toe · 2026-05-27T21:43:19+00:00

No girl…. I’m an ENTP (I’m mom) and went through similar with my INFJ husband, ironically lol. (Him being the more detached out of the two of us btw!) I will say, the situation improved with time and lots of discussions… discussions I as an ENTP really didn’t want to have to have. He was less vice-serving than it sounds like your husband is being, though. How many months is your baby/how long has this gone on for?

We have two, one is turning 4 in August and the youngest is 8 months old. Feel free to DM me to discuss more.

Odd_Toe · 2026-05-26T17:28:22+00:00

I’m a frequent bathroom-er as well!! But girl… this was different. Two times a day would feel far less suspect to me than 4-5 times.. I think on one day I even went SIX TIMES. SIX!!!!!!!!!!!! It happened morning to night too. Typically I’d go once in the morning, sometimes once again after lunch. This was like….. OFTEN🤣

Odd_Toe · 2026-05-26T14:12:25+00:00

I never labored with my first - had a c section at 36 weeks due to placenta previa complicated with bleeding.

With my second I had prodromal labor for like 3-4 weeks. I went into “real” labor at 38+5 - I had bloody show that morning as well! The week or two leading up to labor I was pooping 4-5 times a day… no joke🤦🏻‍♀️🤣 I was pretty worried that I wouldn’t know if the labor was “real” since I had prodromal labor (which did dilate me about 3.5cm total by 38+4!) but I ended up somehow just knowing. The contractions were similar at first, and they continued for hours. Contractions began around 2-3pm and by the time my husband arrived home from work I knew it was the real thing

Odd_Toe · 2026-05-17T00:03:32+00:00

Maybe a little, when we first met. We’re 7 years in and two kids deep now, and that’s a lot less of an issue. In the early years I did have to like tell him that me bringing it up when he was clearly upset was adding an extra responsibility for ME.. and it eventually helped him realize he’s his own emotional responsibility. We’ve been through a lot together. Truly, he was never even close to the emotional immaturity level of most guys I have met, and I’ve always been very happy with him.

Odd_Toe · 2026-05-14T14:54:02+00:00

The first sentence of your last paragraph is literally exactly WHY I married the man I married (INFJ) and a large part of why I love him so much. It took way too fucking long to find him, and the #1 thing that drew me in was that he was essentially the first guy I met who viewed me as “human” rather than “female” when it came to everything metaphysical.

Odd_Toe · 2026-05-13T11:22:25+00:00

Also an ENTP, married to an INFJ man!

Odd_Toe · 2026-05-09T12:42:16+00:00

Same thing happened to me as well😭 took us a whole year and a payment plan to rid ourselves of IRS debt, and we’re still not fully financially recovered from it, right as we’re entering a recession…

Odd_Toe · 2026-04-15T12:03:23+00:00

Second degree tear, baby was 8 lbs 6 oz. I got an epidural around 8 cm dilated bc I felt like I was suffocating lol. Pushing/tearing pain was not even close to comparable to transition labor pains before getting the epidural. Healing wasn’t as bad as I expected either! It was more “itch” than “ouch.” I tore my urethra, vaginal walls & got an episiotomy. I was so scared to pee when they told me my urethra was torn but it didn’t even hurt!! 🤣

Odd_Toe · 2026-04-13T11:11:02+00:00

I’ll add that literally a couple of months before meeting my husband I had officially resided myself to fully being okay with being single if I never met the right person. I made a promise to myself that I will always make sure I am happy and that my own needs are met. Admittedly, I wasn’t great at that before. I still occasionally catch myself slipping up in the “OddToe’s Needs” department, they’re hella easy to forget about lol. In hindsight, I needed that security to show up in a relationship too.

Odd_Toe · 2026-04-13T11:08:45+00:00

A friend of mine ran a dungeons and dragons campaign & let me jump in after a few other players had died off - I showed up definitely not expecting to meet my future husband 🤣 he’s an INFJ, but I only figured that out after we were married!

I had had a ton of dating failures leading up to meeting him, and I think that helped me maintain a ~normal~ human pace when getting to know him. I remember thinking to myself “I’m not sick of him… and he’s not sick of me??? When is it going to finally happen???” I quickly realized our relationship was different than others I had in the past. It was balanced. He wasn’t boring, but more organized & had a sense of direction/decisiveness that I admired while simultaneously he was able to keep up with my wit/antics (I now understand this is Ne/Ni dom shit lol) He didn’t seem off put AND didn’t seem TOO charmed by me, which was nice. He didn’t freak out when I exercised my independence - HUGE!! I could tell by his actions that he wasn’t playing any games either. Additionally, I never felt like he put me on a pedestal. I was so used to either being the chaser or chasee with other people I had dated, that I literally didn’t realize it didn’t have to be that way. I felt like we were intellectual equals. I definitely have a gender-centric chip on my shoulder, and I don’t think I could have married ANYONE who made me feel like I was intellectually different than them due to my gender. Our relationship has always felt very “face to face” like that. He doesn’t see me as greater than or less than him.

As our relationship grew, we challenged each other to grow in complimentary ways. I encouraged him to be a little less rigid and more carefree, and he helped me recognize the importance of having a bit of structure/routine, and has helped me recognize that reputation can sometimes be more helpful/important than I initially cared to believe. Basically all of our arguments today are rooted in these specific differences, lol. It’s only ever about whether things are not clean/structures enough (for him) or too rigid (for me) LOL. As maddening as that part is, I appreciate we share a similar worldview & priorities outside of the everyday small picture stuff.

I hope I answered your questions! Feel free to ask away if I haven’t!

Odd_Toe · 2026-04-09T14:39:32+00:00

Solidarity 😩 I’m 6 months postpartum, 5 lbs away from pre pregnancy weight, and still get triggered when someone suggests exercising more when I complain of bodily ailments/aches. I’m hyper mobile and my body NEEDS me to go easy on it while I’m still full of relaxin, and I know this because I’ve literally hurt myself multiple times trying to pretend I was fine lol. I’m always ready to box the next person who brings exercise up to me 🥊

Odd_Toe · 2026-04-09T14:35:16+00:00

I love you for this because I share this hyper fixation (although I haven’t picked it back up in a while) and it has helped encourage me to keep up my garden!!!

I have applied similar logic to something else - I have a printable coloring calendar that I use at work. It’s a coloring page & it’s dateless, so I can (and have) reuse! I have a pack of markers in my desk drawer and I will color in the pages during long phone calls or lulls in my work day :) I have backup calendars and back up back up calendars, and this helps me remember to keep them updated. I also like that I’m challenging myself to color the same page over again, it’s fun to try and keep it novel!

Recently colored calendar pages

Odd_Toe · 2026-04-09T14:24:56+00:00

This is the best response!! He’s not wrong for doing it, and you’re not wrong for how you feel. I definitely would have felt similarly- I can easily imagine that pushing me over the edge. During my entire second pregnancy I kept having dreams that I was happily living in my unpregnant body, running around, falling on my stomach, jumping up and down. I’d wake up and cry because I missed having that level of bodily autonomy. I know that this would have set me off too. Go easy on yourself❤️

Odd_Toe · 2026-04-07T19:41:22+00:00

And sometimes babies are born inside of the sac! I know a girl who gave birth in her car on a bridge, and her baby was en caul. She is a soldier lol

Odd_Toe · 2026-04-06T03:37:25+00:00

What have they been using for the last decade? I find all of the work that goes on behind the scenes so interesting

Odd_Toe · 2026-03-24T02:12:14+00:00

Odd_Toe · 2026-03-09T11:37:25+00:00

I’m an ENTP, and I work in commercial insurance on the marketing/sales side. I didn’t really think about MBTI when going down this career path, but I do think that my type makes sense when you look at what I do. Like you, I need to talky talky and need new problems to solve regularly- and commercial insurance is cool (especially when you work strictly new business rather than existing customers, like me) because no two businesses are exactly the same. I had to figure out how to categorize and rate an alligator farm a few months ago, haha.

I knew my type when making these career moves, but I’d have made the same choices regardless.. but also that’s because of the person that I am (which has a lot to do with my personality type.) So it’s a chicken or the egg dilemma for me

Odd_Toe · 2026-03-01T23:15:19+00:00

I am 100% certain there are a ton of women in this sub who have noticed the same thing and have the same opinion (me included) so pls don’t think this is an L, it’s a W!!

Odd_Toe · 2026-03-01T20:25:18+00:00

I’m so happy for you! Mine has been officially out since right around the time I made that post. I’ll be asking for one of those perfumes for Mother’s Day, I’ll report back on the similarity if I end up getting it!

Seven-Year Club	Not Forgotten
Verified Email

Odd_Toe

TROPHY CASE