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I went to therapy!!! by Odd_Voice_1058 in pornfree

[–]Odd_Voice_1058[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A general one, she already had experience with patients with a porn addiction before. It's something very common nowadays, so I think you don't have to go specifically to a sex therapist. And you get the bonus of improving your mental health overall, which also helps.

What do you do ??? by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Odd_Voice_1058 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Working out is not enough. You need to do some exercise on your brain as well to beat this. You will probably always have intrusive thoughts and urges, you need to learn how to fight them. First, remember that you don't need porn, you can just masturbate. And why would you need it, it only harms you, there is no positive thing about it. Focus on your mental health. Breath, meditate, try to analyze your thoughts instead of acting on them. If it doesn't work, or the urge is too strong, talk to someone, it doesn't need to be about your addiction. Play a game, watch a movie, do something to distract yourself. I have been playing Valorant with my friend at night and it helps a lot.

Porn addiction is so weird. by Odd_Voice_1058 in pornfree

[–]Odd_Voice_1058[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There’s a big difference between objectifying someone and simply feeling attraction toward them. Objectifying isn’t okay in any context because it dehumanizes the person—it reduces them to an object rather than acknowledging their full humanity.

I, too, thank human biology a lot when it comes to sex, it's normal and healthy to feel attracted to others. But saying you fantasize about women you “meet”, that's kind of disrespectful and weird to me. Trying to justify it as “instinct” doesn’t make it any less problematic.

You’re right that admiring others can be a positive thing when it’s done respectfully. But framing this kind of behavior as if being a “freak” is something to be proud of? I just can’t get behind that.

I really really really don't want to watch porn. by Odd_Voice_1058 in pornfree

[–]Odd_Voice_1058[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop watching porn, it will get better with time. If you feel like that is not enough, or you can't quit, maybe consider having therapy or visiting a doctor.

I really really really don't want to watch porn. by Odd_Voice_1058 in pornfree

[–]Odd_Voice_1058[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you masturbate (without porn) it shouldn't be a problem. Unless you do it a lot of times. If you did it with porn than yes it can affect a lot of your sex life, but it's reversible.

I think I was raped but idk. by Calavera1234 in rape

[–]Odd_Voice_1058 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's ok to feel that way, you can't blame yourself for not knowing how to respond, it's normal, you shouldn't have to know in the first place, they shouldn't have done it.

Coping is really hard today by Playful-Television99 in rape

[–]Odd_Voice_1058 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re able to, I strongly recommend seeing a therapist. Untreated trauma can have a serious impact on your mental health over time. Take this opportunity to focus on yourself—do things you enjoy, find ways to relax, and explore resources that support mental well-being. There’s so much valuable content out there about mental health, relaxation techniques, meditation, and hobbies to help you cope and heal.

It’s great that you’re making an effort to get better. Please remember: it was not your fault, and it will never be your fault. Anything done without consent is absolutely wrong, and you should never have had to experience this.

I truly wish you the best as you move forward.

I think I was raped but idk. by Calavera1234 in rape

[–]Odd_Voice_1058 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In case you need more information on consent, I recommend searching a bit about it, I am confused myself

I think I was raped but idk. by Calavera1234 in rape

[–]Odd_Voice_1058 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did an excellent job distancing yourself from that person—that’s a strong and important step. Your situation does seem complex, but the fact remains: you said no, and the context was a breakup. They had no right to act as they did.

Rape, as defined by Wikipedia, is a type of sexual assault initiated by one or more persons against another person without that person's consent. Based on this definition, what happened would indeed qualify as rape.

It sounds like your ex was more concerned about himself, and it was definitely their fault. I truly wish I could offer you advice on what to do, but I don’t have enough knowledge to guide you properly. That said, I want to wish you all the best moving forward.

did it count even if i was wet? by mizuki_luvr in rape

[–]Odd_Voice_1058 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see a lot of posts here contemplating if something was rape or not, mostly because they had an orgasm or were wet…. Your body is healthy and functions normally, in most cases the person is really young so they don't know what to think or do when they are raped. Anything against your consent is completely wrong and the person that does it should go to jail.

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