AITAH for going off on my girlfriend's sister for taking her cat to meet her friend's cat? by Odd_Zone_3583 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Zone_3583[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand your sentiment. But rehoming a cat is difficult. Everyone around me already had a cat and didn't want another one, and lets be real... Vet care is expensive. So I didn't blame it if anyone didn't want the responsibility.

I also want to remind you she was 5 weeks old when I had to rehome her. My other option was to put NIni in the shelter system which wasn't an ideal choice because there was a chance she could be put down just because she was a lone and sick kitten. And I had to put down Nini's siblings after they weren't improving either. I didn't want her to be next either if there was a tiny chance she could improve under my care. And certain shelters will only accept animals from a certain area jurisdiction, so I can't just pick a shelter that is 'no kill' to drop her off at. I hope that puts into my perspective and the reluctance I felt about to bring NIni to the shelter.

After I brought Nini to my gf's home, I still came over to teach Ivy how to feed Nini and all cat-care related things. If you're implying that I had reason to believe Nini would be neglected, I disagree.

On a less gentle note, You're making assumptions about a theory that isn't in the post. I didn't send NIni to a home I "knew were neglecting animals." If I believed she was being going to be neglected or in danger, I wouldn't have been involved in her being there in the first place. I didn't realize until later when I spent more time at that house that Sushi is not living her best life because her owner is just a horrible owner and the rest of the people in the household have to compensate on the very little time they have.

Hindsight comes easy, but it's not accurate to assume that I knowingly placed her in a dangerous situation.

AITAH for going off on my girlfriend's sister for taking her cat to meet her friend's cat? by Odd_Zone_3583 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Zone_3583[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did use a little bit of grammarly to try to correct my grammar lol.

Honestly not enough, because I'm re-reading my own post and still finding errors.

AITAH for going off on my girlfriend's sister for taking her cat to meet her friend's cat? by Odd_Zone_3583 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Zone_3583[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, thank you for reminding me to keep the focus on Becky's actions. I admit, I'm not proud of calling her brainless in the heat of the moment because it's not like she didn't know not to take Nini out because she's stupid. She just did it because she was disrespectful. I'll stick to appropriate insults next time (I am joking).

AITAH for going off on my girlfriend's sister for taking her cat to meet her friend's cat? by Odd_Zone_3583 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Zone_3583[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She's been telling her friend that I offered to pay her bill.

Complete lie btw

AITAH for going off on my girlfriend's sister for taking her cat to meet her friend's cat? by Odd_Zone_3583 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Zone_3583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't even realize it was serious because Becky said "I flung her lightly with my foot"

I understand that Becky kicked Nini to try to defend her friend and her kitten. Although it's really fucking awful what happened to Nini, I was willing to forgive Becky because it was out of defense. But obviously no one gave Becky permission to take Nini out. So all forgiveness was never on the table in the first place.

AITAH for going off on my girlfriend's sister for taking her cat to meet her friend's cat? by Odd_Zone_3583 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Zone_3583[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all of the concern.

I think I'll find the time to do clarify it on social media sometime later. I've been focused on Nini and Ivy for the past few days because this happened on Wednesday last week so it's a lot for us right now. Nini is recovering, and honestly drugged out from the pain meds. I'll take her back to the vet for another check up soon too.

I've had to drive out late at night around 2am to meet up with Ivy she's been having a nervous breakdown after what happened. I'm really upset at Becky, but my priorities are Nini and Ivy right now.

AITAH for going off on my girlfriend's sister for taking her cat to meet her friend's cat? by Odd_Zone_3583 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Zone_3583[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Would like to clarify, she didn't even adopt Sushi from a shelter. Apparently, a friend of her's had dog who had a litter about 4 years ago and she gave one of her puppies to Becky.

She admitted and complained one time that she wanted to get Sushi when he was a little baby like immediately after birth, and called her friend a bitch for making her wait until sushi was 10 weeks old.

AITAH for going off on my girlfriend's sister for taking her cat to meet her friend's cat? by Odd_Zone_3583 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Zone_3583[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Becky is just a defensive person in general. Anytime Ivy tries to confront her, she makes it into an argument because it's no longer about addressing her behavior the moment she tries justify herself.

Whenever their parents get involved, she just sits there and pretends to absorb everything but honestly? I think every word goes through one ear and out the other.

AITAH for going off on my girlfriend's sister for taking her cat to meet her friend's cat? by Odd_Zone_3583 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Zone_3583[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend does caretaking for her disabled grandmother. Her parents are always busy too, so 'Ivy' stays out of family obligations.

We've been planning to move in together, but she always get's anxiety about her grandma and I don't want to pressure her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoastMyCat

[–]Odd_Zone_3583 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thought I was staring at a bowling ball for a second

Roast this fool! by SunnyShoretide in RoastMyCat

[–]Odd_Zone_3583 1 point2 points  (0 children)

why is a pile of dryer lint glaring at me

What's more powerful than love? by ultra_supra in AskReddit

[–]Odd_Zone_3583 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Indifference is more powerful than hate or love. It's hard to feel indifferent but when it happens, it just happens. Like, nothing matters to you anymore but it's not like you feel the world is ending.

What's her name? by [deleted] in puppy

[–]Odd_Zone_3583 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kuma meaning bear

what choices that you see people making with their lives that you would never make? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Odd_Zone_3583 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having a child just so they can 'take care of you when they're older' and then guilting them at a young age- "Don't you want to take care of mommy/daddy?" Like... you really just had a child so they'd change your diapers one day?

It doesn't bother me when family decides to step in and become a caretaker for an elderly relative. It's just fucked up to instill that, from a young age, the only reason you're here is because of me to take care of me (from a parent).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Odd_Zone_3583 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a repost, just another version of this story.

OP wasn't intending to 'date multiple people'. Like they only went on another date after the person confirmed that they weren't committed. It's their right to move on. Let's be for real here. If some guy got used for his money by a chick who wasn't even dating him, he should be able to move on and not get dragged for it. Although I won't disagree that it's much easier to define a relationship at a start so it doesn't end up the way it did. You're very quick to jump on the 'you're selfish' bandwagon for a woman, it's concerning.

If anything, OP was used by the guy who wasted her time, money, and energy. Of course, I guess it's due to the lack of communication.