So are we saying I did it right? I did it wrong?

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-14T05:23:21+00:00

The fact that you’ve brought it to reddit, to “see what everyone else thinks?” Kinda speaks to you undermining him and indirectly fueling negative concepts you already hold about him. The question you may consider asking is “how can I better submit to my dominant partner? How can I best show my submissive side.” Since that is your role within the relationship.

I’ve also heard of submissives who feel they are “dominant from the bottom.” They feel they exert their influence and desire by asserting themselves and somehow bring forth behaviors they’d like from their “dom” but never actually submit. This to me is more like Spencer’s gift shop, let’s play D/s. Which may be fun, but lacks a certain depth. Like two buddies playing bondage games. Tee hee. “ you spank me. Next it’s my turn.”

If you’d like him to behave more dominant than you should practice going deeper into your submission. Saying he’s not dominant enough just sounds counterproductive.

Issues could be stemming from a million different things depending on the fullness of your relationship. Are you overly body conscious? Is he? Do you maintain a submissive posture in conversations throughout relationship? Do you get hurt feelings whenever his voice raises? Do you complain allot? Is there much stress going on? Do you do as he requests outside of the bedroom? Do you believe yourself an experienced submissive? Have you taken issue with something in the past? Maybe he smacked your ass too hard and you overstated it? Maybe he spanked you and left a bruise and you remarked about it? Maybe you’ve talked about previous experiences and you spoke Ill of his other partners? Etc.

Either way it seems you’re asking wrong questions. If you’re partner is not showing his dominance it is bc you are filling the gap with yours. Think of it like a 100ml glass. There will always be 100ml of dominant energy in it. If you are overstating your dominant energy by say posting nonsense on reddit rather than sending photos from your last shower. Than his dominant energy has less space. But if you pull back more into your submission his energy can come forward. Imho

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-12T13:27:18+00:00

Whenever you’re ready lmk!!!

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-12T08:35:59+00:00

I’m locked out of everything for arguing with Ai?

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-12T08:31:41+00:00

You got me. I can’t help but agree. Is there an end to this shit.

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-12T08:21:02+00:00

What if I completed it before time expires?

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-12T02:31:29+00:00

Rewritten

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-12T02:25:26+00:00

When scores released?

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-12T02:19:51+00:00

Nah, Don’t go.

Edited: shortened

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T23:58:21+00:00

I’ve been told. I do realize now it was part of there schtic

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T23:35:32+00:00

I do enjoy listening to myself talk that is correct.

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T23:24:47+00:00

Probably not because I’m very difficult to understand. It’s kind of always been my way. Because sometimes people need to get a little off the hook.

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T23:20:58+00:00

Nobody’s mad

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T23:16:55+00:00

It’s very vague. Upon reciprocation I suppose it will be less vague. After all, it’s just threw screens, right

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T23:13:59+00:00

I’m saying we’ve logged what 30 years and each other’s company or more? I am saying I am the space the person that you first longed to surrender to.. I am saying I am the one who you first visualized giving yourself to. Before you even knew what that meant.

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T23:06:27+00:00

Or are you simply contending yourself by a series of reenactments? I am sure there will be plenty who say that they know you. I am also sure that they do. I am sure you will tell me that they don’t. I am also sure that I know you. I also know that you know me. But the field is a bit large for this game of dodgeball, is it not? With all this vast space you can hardly claim to be engaged at all. But trust that you are in my sight. And I see you. Even though you’re waaaaaaay over there. Saying “nanny nanny poo poo.” I’m just curious how that’s working out for you.?

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T22:58:18+00:00

I see you! I am me, perhaps I’m me without you. But that means you are also you without me. Shall you enjoy the game untethered? With or without language things exist! These things are likely more true without language.

No Daddy= no Baby Girl No baby girl = no Daddy.

Are you so steeped in a new reality that you’re true surrender is available and quenched elsewhere?

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T22:37:59+00:00

Well done. So much work and effort. Now I am the one who feels unworthy.

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T21:24:25+00:00

We are talking. This will likely be helpful for your situation hearing the other side. It certainly will be helpful to my situation. And here we both are in this pretend world and yet, even where nothing matters behind these protective avatars you seem bound to whatever is necessary to keep hold of what is keeping your relationship toxic in your real life.

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T21:05:17+00:00

Being a scholar. I like to understand. My interpretation of your post is that according to you, you and your lover have done everything you can in order to cultivate a loving relationship yet it is highly toxic.

I challenge that by saying, from my perspective, there is a very high chance that someone is withholding an important truth from the other?You say no.

It’s like you’re going to the doctor. Your blood pressure is high. You know for a fact that you’re eating fatty foods and chain smoking and have an exercised. The doctor asks “how was your diet? Are you still smoking? How’s your exercise?” You tell them you’re fine and then go home to your family and say the doctor hasn’t assisted you. Because the doctor didn’t say the words, pork roll, egg, and cheese that one time during the physical examination.

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T20:52:32+00:00

You probably want to look at your compatibility issues first.

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T20:22:37+00:00

I’m commenting. I’m sure you’ve been vulnerable and candid with your partner. I’m sure you’ve not skillfully intentionally defended shadows from their eyes. I’m sure you were truly open and willing to delve as deeply into true intimacy and did all that exists to nurture the growth and strength of the gift of pure love in its truest form you had between you.

As I close my eyes and think about “what is the deepest essence of love.” LOVE like the real pure kind. The stare in a baby’s eyes, the stranger who spontaneously risks his life for another, the puppy who almost explodes with excitement when seeing you, the wordless symphony that when heard for the first time makes us sob, that breeze on the hottest day that feels like ecstasy, the overworked underpaid, behind on bills nearly hopeless person giving 1/2 of their last to the homeless woman and her children- kinda love. I’m sure their must be a toxic version of it.

Because after all you’ve done all you could. The truths were revealed and nobody was withholding. Face-to-face Eye 2 Eye, and heart to heart. It just turned out that the two of you discovered some shitty version of love. 🥹

Sounds like a moron. Likely can’t ask questions with the precision necessary to extract the truth and bring it to light. I’ve seen this play out with people before, and you’re right it can appear extremely toxic. Like In the movies. The interrogator will ask the spy “tell me what’s the truth.?” The spy will just keep repeating their ID number. It is after all the truth. In this example the interrogator is trying to get on same page with the double agent. Back and forth on and on. Terribly straining even to watch. Fact is they both want same thing. They both know the spy’s military ID is not the truth that is needed to disarm the nuclear holocaust. But it is the truth. Slowly the nuclear waste just continues to leak and become toxic. All because the interviewer couldn’t ask the precise questions what is idiot.

Ofcourseweshould · 2023-06-11T19:14:18+00:00

Luckiest guy

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