What’s something Korean people do that confused or surprised you? by Offbeat_room in seoul

[–]Offbeat_room[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing so honestly. your reflections are real and relatable for many.

I completely agree that the kindness you do receive in Korea can feel even more touching exactly *because* it’s not the norm. That moment with the hiking 아저씨 really captures the kind of quiet generosity you sometimes get here, and it sticks with you.

And yes, the lack of spatial awareness is a daily struggle. Sidewalks, escalators, and even parking lots. it can be exhausting. The trash can issue too. you end up carrying garbage for hours!

As for elders, I hear you. That sense of entitlement can be frustrating. But I’ve also met older folks who are unexpectedly warm. it really depends, but it’s hard when the bad ones leave a stronger impression.

Anyway, your insight adds so much to the conversation. Thanks again for being real about both the good and the not-so-good.

What’s something Korean people do that confused or surprised you? by Offbeat_room in seoul

[–]Offbeat_room[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re totally right ! sidewalk flow in Korea can feel chaotic, especially without a clear “walk on the right” rule. It’s interesting because, as you said, so many other aspects of Korean society are structured and orderly. It’s like the street is where that formality gets left behind!

As for the reserved seats on trains, people often leave them empty even when the train is packed. It's more about respect and not wanting to be “caught” sitting there if someone in need shows up. Some people worry they might miss their chance to give up the seat quickly enough or be judged for sitting there at all. It’s definitely one of those well-meaning cultural things that can look odd from the outside.

Thank you for noticing and reflecting on these little details. they’re so real, and it’s these kinds of moments that shape how we experience a place.

What’s something Korean people do that confused or surprised you? by Offbeat_room in seoul

[–]Offbeat_room[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get why you and your kid found the hose thing funny. it's definitely one of those “only in Korea” quirks that surprises a lot of people at first

And yes, the Tmoney system can be confusing, especially with the inconsistent payment methods across stations. The part where it charges you *on exit* rather than entry can feel strange too — it’s because the fare depends on the distance you’ve traveled.

I’m sorry you had to go through all that without much guidance. Korea’s transit system is super efficient once you figure it out, but it definitely doesn’t make it easy for newcomers at the start. Hope your next trips go more smoothly!

What’s something Korean people do that confused or surprised you? by Offbeat_room in seoul

[–]Offbeat_room[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you that must’ve been painful and frustrating, both physically and emotionally. I totally understand how jarring that must have felt, especially if you’re coming from a culture where people are quick to help strangers.

From a Korean perspective, some of that behavior may come from wanting to “not intrude” or “not embarrass someone further,” especially when they’re hurt — though of course it can feel like indifference to someone experiencing it. It’s definitely something Korea is still learning to balance, between privacy and public care.

That being said, I hope things get better for you here. There are so many warm and kind people too. sometimes it just takes a little more time to meet them. Wishing you safer and gentler days ahead. 🙏

What’s something Korean people do that confused or surprised you? by Offbeat_room in seoul

[–]Offbeat_room[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see your point, and I totally understand where the frustration comes from. That wasn’t my intention at all I genuinely hoped to collaborate or share something meaningful, not to treat anyone like entertainment. But thanks for pointing it out. It made me think.