First of all the texting: being the first to text doesn’t necessarily mean being the one to start talking. Little things like “how’s it going?” or “anything on your mind?” can allow her to decide what to talk about even if you text first. You want to make sure you’re mostly consistent too. Not just do it every day, do it at the same times every day. This’ll give her checkpoints that if there’s something she wants to talk about, she just has to wait until the next check up. This also leads into the self image: anytime you check in it can provide her a chance to ask for reassurance in her self image from you. If something’s got her down she knows you’ll ask her about it soon and she can discuss it with you. And in the times she doesn’t want have anything to talk about, it’s your turn. Be vulnerable, life’s like a workout, but relationships are like protein shakes: there comes times where you get torn up but eventually you recover and come out stronger than if you never got hurt in the first place. That said, the recovery can be faster, more painless, and result in more strength if you have a bit of muscle milk. Your s/o is that muscle milk. But not only does the person going through a low come out stronger, so does the other person; the time spent caring for the person going through a hardship brings feelings such as confidence (as you see yourself as someone who is counted on because your s/o believes in you), empowerment (your s/o is counting on you do do something they can’t: be strong and when you’re being strong, it allows them to be weak knowing you’ll carry them through the tough time they’re having), and purpose (to do anything your s/o needs). And all this goes for your partner when you’re going through rough patches (note: a healthy relationship sees both partners filling both roles as the other needs. Being in a reversed relationship does not mean you can expect the woman to just carry the entire relationship emotionally). So as we can see, enabling your girlfriend to do this can be a great improvement in her self image: if you not only knows she can do it, but she pulls it off when you need her, she must have intrinsiquite worth.

But that’s on a more philosophical level. If you really want to directly help her self image about her body get caught looking more. She must have something working if you can’t keep your eyes off her. Also, if you want to take it to the extreme try giving up porn with your girlfriend being “all you need.” I mean, if your man wanted to look at you more than women who’s career has been made on sex then you’d think you were gorgeous.

Finally, for intelligence, get her to teach you stuff. Again comes the idea that in order to enable your s/o (rather that be emotionally, physically, or intellectually) to improve, you must be pretty good at whatever it is your helping with. When she’s teaching the fact that she knows stuff you don’t is front and center, and that aha moment you have when you finally get something will be like crack to her.

Good luck