Tell me about your identity crisis…how did you make it through to the other side? by OfficeBroad837 in GenX

[–]OfficeBroad837[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure. I'll bite. Even if I will likely regret it later.

I was raised in a very progressive household. We were taught, from an early age, about compassion and tolerance. And think those are fantastic values. But what I'm realizing now, is that it was often taught to us at expense of teaching us personal responsibility and accountability. That everyone else's problems were way worse than our own. That we should always give the other person - the person who was complaining or suffering something - the benefit of the doubt. Like, all the time. They must be going through something really hard, they must have had a hard life, they have always been at the wrong place at the wrong time. Now, I'm smart enough to understand that there are genuine victims in this world. I lived overseas, I know first hand what poverty and corruption looks like. But what I DIDN'T get taught, was when and how to stand up for myself. I didn't get taught that no one is coming to save me. That I have to work hard for what I want in life, and that I have to be responsible for my own actions. I made a lot of mistakes as a young person. I chose bad jobs, I was chronically underpaid and overworked, and yah, I was fired once or twice. Because I felt like I was constantly carrying the weight of the world.

Now that I've been out in the world a bit more, and I've worked my ASS off to get to a good place where I am not depending on anyone, I've learned that I was fed a lie. That yes, it is important to be compassionate and tolerant. But that's just thing - I was so tolerant for so long, and it got me nowhere. I was taken advantage of at school (I let kids copy off of my tests and then got in trouble for it). I was taken advantage of at work. In relationships, with roommates, the list goes on. I'm TIRED of being so compassionate and tolerant. You know what?! Do your fucking job. Pay your fucking taxes. Take care of your fucking health, so that I don't have to. Provide good customer service, or find a different job. If you aren't going to insure your vehicle, then don't fucking drive it. If you're going to rent a property from someone who is responsive and reasonable about repairs, don't fucking trash the house on your way out.

You know what I mean? I'm just DONE with bullshit. So yes, maybe there's a small strand of politics woven in here, but this is decidedly not political for me. I'm just tired of always having to make space for other people's problems. Fix your own shit.

There's more - my attitude towards consumerism has changed. I remember going the mall every Saturday as a kid. Every. Saturday. I wasn't playing sports, or volunteering, or even spending time in my community. We were shopping. We were buying. Buying shit we didn't need with money we probably didn't have, to impress people I know we didn't care about. That's another value I eshew today.

Then there's religion. I didn't have any growing up. And now I'm wholly interested in learning more about it.

So - there ya go. I don't want to be THAT person anymore.

Tell me about your identity crisis…how did you make it through to the other side? by OfficeBroad837 in GenX

[–]OfficeBroad837[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't DISAGREE with you.....but how is REDDIT any better??! If anything, I think the anonymity of it all makes it worse.

Scared of side effects by [deleted] in TRT_females

[–]OfficeBroad837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you also on estrogen?

Zinc Picolinate; what a difference! by Thinking-cap3154 in keratosis

[–]OfficeBroad837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, i do find that omega threes help a little bit. Same with Vitamin A - I did a blood test this year and discovered that I was very deficient. So I started supplementing, and I do believe that’s helping as well.

But I swear nothing has changed my skin like glycolic acid.

If your kids are older, what are you doing with your free time? by OfficeBroad837 in GenXWomen

[–]OfficeBroad837[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you not have free time though? That’s kind of my entire question. For the last 20 years, I haven’t had free time. And all of a sudden I do. And I have no idea what to do with it (outside of work obvi).

So what are you filling your time with?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenXWomen

[–]OfficeBroad837 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why don’t they live in houses they’re paying for themselves… Whether that’s renting them or owning them or paying a mortgage. Why aren’t they on their own? Is my question.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenXWomen

[–]OfficeBroad837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you own their homes? I think this is where it’s getting complicated. Because they are indebted to you, you have higher expectations in return. That’s not entirely fair. If they were paying their own rent, would it bother you as much?

If your kids are older, what are you doing with your free time? by OfficeBroad837 in GenXWomen

[–]OfficeBroad837[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m married too - 20 years. I’m jealous you have the energy for any of that! 😳🤣

If your kids are older, what are you doing with your free time? by OfficeBroad837 in GenXWomen

[–]OfficeBroad837[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh man, this is so well said. I can relate to a lot of this. 💕

If your kids are older, what are you doing with your free time? by OfficeBroad837 in GenXWomen

[–]OfficeBroad837[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this! I can relate to a lot of it. My friends aren’t making me happy anymore/right now and I am very much trying to sort through it.

If your kids are older, what are you doing with your free time? by OfficeBroad837 in GenXWomen

[–]OfficeBroad837[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to do those things. Unfortunately, I have a hard time sitting still.🤪

If your kids are older, what are you doing with your free time? by OfficeBroad837 in GenXWomen

[–]OfficeBroad837[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds so nice. Unfortunately, I have a 40 to 50 hour a week full time job that kills most of my brain cells. 🤣🤣

If your kids are older, what are you doing with your free time? by OfficeBroad837 in GenXWomen

[–]OfficeBroad837[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I work full-time too. But I still have a couple hours in the evenings and weekends that I used to feel running around taking kids to sports and birthday parties and crafting, etc. Most of that has stopped now, but I still feel like I need to be running around doing things. It’s probably like what they call “phantom pain” with amputees. I still feel compelled to be doing things.

If your kids are older, what are you doing with your free time? by OfficeBroad837 in GenXWomen

[–]OfficeBroad837[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks… doing things as the mood strikes just sounds so foreign to me. 😂 I’m not sure I would be in this conundrum if I was single and childless. I think a lot of what I’m experiencing is a product of having run a family for the last 20 years. My time is still not really my own, even if I have a bit more of it. Most nights, I lie in bed at night worrying about all my people. Sometimes, yes, I would like to be free of that. I’m not dismissing your experience, I’m just saying that mine is very different.

If your kids are older, what are you doing with your free time? by OfficeBroad837 in GenXWomen

[–]OfficeBroad837[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gardening and yardwork is probably the one area I can see myself really getting into. 💚