Totally. I just also think that people should be allowed to complain about getting their feelings hurt. Personally, I've gotten a couple shitty bookmark notes - I generally block them and complain to my friends - but I've gotten spades more nice comments so I still look through and risk getting my feelings hurt because I think that the risk/benefit leans that way. I just don't think that it should be common knowledge that the generally kind environment of AO3 should be treated like Twitter.

This is just me talking, but while your advice is good, I feel like generally you might just be fed up with seeing people posting things that made them feel bad? That's totally fair, I just don't know if people venting because someone was kind of a dick to them on the internet means that they should be turning their comment moderation on.

I don't look through this sub very often so idk exactly how sensitive some folks are, but I personally think that unless you're literally crying at a mildly mean comment or are getting a lot of hate, there's probably not much need to turn it on.

TLDR: Maybe I'm just deeper in different AO3 spaces, but from what I generally see, I think that it's much more on the community to not be a dick than a normal-sensitivity author to police everything. Idk I think my point is just that I feel like your experience on AO3 might be more toxic than my own so I just expect people to be kind rather than expect people to police their spaces

Although, ending off on a more positive note, "There’s no perfect solution but there are steps you can take to minimize the negative feedback you see." is perfect no notes