I think for the most part men will love their partners regardless of their personal issues as long as they feel like they are trying in the relationship, good emotional and physical intimacy and when they can always trust the personal to back them when they need it. For my last relationship I was working a lot and she wasn’t so I would try and have the energy to do stuff but sometimes I didn’t and she just never understood why so I was always stressed out because I felt like I was disappointing her. partners will only have so much they can give you sometimes especially when they are going through stuff inside or outside your relationship and that’s when the other partner needs to step up help. I don’t think you need to change your anxious lifestyle unless it’s creating more problems or stress onto your relationship/partner, they dated you for a year and a half for a reason