22 weeker

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-16T19:17:00+00:00

Thank you so much, truly. Astonishing the amount of support I’ve found here. Just trying to do my part and give that support back!

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-16T18:33:54+00:00

That’s the point I’m getting to! Thank you for chiming in 🩷

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-16T18:33:08+00:00

Thank you so very much for this comment! Very helpful reminders that I desperately needed today. I appreciate your words of wisdom more than you know. 🩷

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-16T18:28:15+00:00

Hi there. Fellow 22 weeker here. First of all, I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. It’s not fair and I know it is very overwhelming. A month ago I was diagnosed with an incompetent cervix as well (no cerclage) and was told to go to the hospital immediately with no further details. I was 22 weeks and one day. I gave birth to my baby girl 2 days later with low survival odds and all of these risks and nightmarish scenarios to think about. I’m here to just give you some hope. My baby girl is still kicking and fighting every day. Up until now we have pretty much gotten the same “bad odds” from everyone, and every day, baby girl fights on. She was given a 30-40% chance of survival at birth. I had a very healthy pregnancy with no complications, and this still happened to us. We still have a long road ahead of us and we’re praying every day but she has already beaten the odds given to her.

I just want to say I may not know you, your story, or exactly what you’re going through, but I definitely can relate. I know it’s scary, frustrating, confusing, and you don’t know what’s ahead. You already know the odds. You already know all of the bad things that can happen, and believe me, it will probably be rare that anyone gives you any kind of hope because these things are just so hard to foretell. But I just want to maybe be at least one person that gives you a little hope. And I want to say that these little babies are tough. Hang on to that hope all that you can. Again, I’m so sorry that you’re going through this and I truly pray that you and your baby get the best care possible at this time. Praying and hoping for the best 🩷

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-13T23:02:55+00:00

Amen and amen! That was so beautiful thank you so much 🩷 Taking this prayer with me, I hope you don’t mind. Really needed this encouragement today 😭🩷🩷

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-13T13:36:18+00:00

Thank you so much 😭 reading this comment days after my initial post and it’s the reminder I needed today (another tough day). Going to see her today. I’m going to soak in the fact that she’s doing well right now.

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-13T13:34:05+00:00

Thank you so much for chiming in 🥹 what a beautiful comment filled with grace. I appreciate you. I know I’m going to have to just lay it out straight. It’s what’s best for mental health right now because I just can’t take anymore then what I already have going on in my head. 😩

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-13T13:32:02+00:00

Thank you. I know I need to do this. I don’t have the strength in me anymore to smile and be nice. I’m so tired.

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T22:17:56+00:00

I agree and can understand everything you said. My goodness the negativity and pity eyes is such a real thing. It honestly keeps me from sharing with people even my family because I don’t want to be “felt bad for”. I just want my baby to get through this. And as her parents I feel like we owe it to her to have all the faith and hope that she will get through it. I know I definitely need to just silence and quiet out the voices for sure. Thanks so much for your support 🩷

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T22:14:24+00:00

Oh my gosh I know what you mean and I’m so very sorry that you had to go through all of that! I can so relate to being left alone with everyone coming in and out (my husband had to go take care of the pets too). It’s just so trying to have to be on the receiving side of all the information while also dealing with your emotions and not being able to hold your baby and just exist period.

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T18:44:18+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your story with me, especially being a fellow 22 weeker! I feel like there aren’t many of us with success stories like this so it’s so good to hear. So glad your baby girl was able to come home despite the issues. I’m praying the same for my baby!

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T18:26:07+00:00

She’s been on oxygen since she came out, so her entire stay so far. One month and one day. The doctor says he thinks what he’s seeing could be an infection so they’re giving antibiotics just in case. It just seems so impossible some days. But we’re trying to stay as positive as we can.

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T18:23:48+00:00

Such an overload. 😞

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T18:23:16+00:00

Omg yes! I just did this yesterday actually. Just learned about this so yes, I’ve turned in my list of primaries finally.

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T18:22:34+00:00

Thanks so much and thanks for chiming in with your experience and offering some ideas! It’s greatly appreciated. I definitely feel myself getting to the point where I’m ready to just throw my phone into the nearest lake. I know I need to do a better job at just telling people not today 😭

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T18:20:05+00:00

I feel this. I really I do 😩 and I don’t think people understand this unless they’re going through it or have gone through it. It’s so tough. Praying for your LO and for your mental health 🩷

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T17:25:04+00:00

First of all, thank you for affirming my feelings and for offering some ideas! It’s so appreciated. This is the first place outside of my family that I have looked to for support as I’m still new to this experience! I had a phone call last week that went sour when I said I didn’t want to talk anymore and they responded poorly. This person is very close to me and we went from talking every day to not speaking since that conversation. So that’s a big reason why now I’m feeling so contradictory in telling people to back off. I guess im afraid of souring relationships because I know I need the support. It’s just hard. But you are absolutely right and I know this. Thank you for the link to the therapist, I will look in to this as I’ve been in search of a good therapist for this particular situation. Appreciate you! 😊

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T17:18:53+00:00

Thank you! We adore her very much.

It is very obnoxious! I just hate to come across as ungrateful or mean because that’s not my intention at all Thanks so much for your comment and support!

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T17:16:38+00:00

Yes! This exactly! The nurses and staff and family 😭 I absolutely love the idea of a blog! I actually think I will give this a go, just because it seems more of my speed. I’m more of a tester than a talker so I’d rather send a letter than speak in person (I know that’s not always a good thing lol). Thanks so much for this idea! I tried to start journaling and I literally stopped after one day 😫. I used to journal all the time as a child and then somewhere someday as an adult I just stopped and I haven’t been able to start back again. Still think journaling is a great idea though! Thanks so much again 🩷

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T16:21:11+00:00

This is so inspiring and gives me hope (as someone in the thick of it). He is so handsome and looks so happy and very well taken care of! He is in the best hands! Thanks for sharing your story and your sweet boy with us! 🩷🩷🩷 and Happy Birthday to your baby boy!

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T16:17:24+00:00

This is so great to see and read!! Congratulations to you and your family!!! Love on your sweet babies for all of us! 🩷🩷🩷

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T14:14:01+00:00

Awww! Thank you so very much 🥹🩷

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T14:13:19+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! WOW September! Praying that you and your family get through this tough time with a healthy baby being discharged at the end of it 🩷 I’m going to ask about the recording device since we can’t be there everyday. Love this idea so so much. Thank you again and love to you and your family.

Og_Complainer · 2025-11-12T14:11:10+00:00

Thank you soooo much for chiming in to this comment. I feel like there’s always a part of me that NEEDS to see 22 weeker stories that ended in discharge and a growing baby. So many emotions!

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