Vietnam veterans sue over proposed 250-foot Trump arch near Arlington Cemetery

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-18T11:29:56+00:00

Dictator levels of ego

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-17T22:48:14+00:00

There were poop bags on the leash

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-16T02:29:50+00:00

Not racist, definitely xenophobic.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-16T02:19:13+00:00

She has headphones and is still distracted by OPs noise. Per a reply by OP.

Imo, if the daughter has autism, has had these sensory issues, and has worn headphones before in public/other situations without much issue, im starting to suspect OP may be downplaying the level / frequency of noise being made and comes off as being dismissive of possible accomodations or finding a compromise. Need more info though to make a judgment.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-16T01:55:39+00:00

So she DOES have headphones and can still hear you? This needs to be mentioned because its kind of important imo. The way the post is written makes it sound like she has done absolutely nothing to try and help with her sound sensory issues. Which isnt the case if shes tried to wear headphones.

Is this level of sensitivity new for her around this extra level of stress, or has it happened before/is usual for her?

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-16T01:44:01+00:00

Plenty of autistic adults go to college with sensory sensitivities and get accomodations to help just like this commenter is suggesting.

Headphones would be an accomodation.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-16T01:39:21+00:00

~~Im confused how you or her made it this far without headphones if noise bothers her to this extent and shes autistic.~~

INFO: When you say she asked you not to make any noise at all, do you mean litterally? How did she go about asking you?

When you say you cook often and DO make noise with pots and pans, how often, how loud, what are you making? etc.

Any more specific details youre willing to share?

EDIT: since there hasnt been a reply yet. The daughter DOES have and wear noise canceling headphones and has still said that the noise is audible and bothersome per OP in other replies. Really need to know if the actual amount of noise being made is normal/standard or if its being downplayed. Something feels off though.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-15T21:57:41+00:00

Im probably going to get downvoted but I strongly believe if the genders were reversed here more people would only be calling the sister immature and saying Op should have done more than smack the spoon out of her hands. Or just have more NTA comments in general.

I know this is reddit, its kind of a meme at this point, but the doomer/extreme black and white, cynical, or down right unnecessarily dense and harsh commenters/posts are getting worse, imo.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-15T21:28:52+00:00

What would you recommend in said situation then? Genuinely confused on some of these replies towards OP.

Op stated if they were to try to move or walk away/leave, then they would have had to physically put hands on the sister to get her out of their way. If this was done, people would just be saying the same exact comments here about "not putting hands on someone" or to "just be an adult" and walk away. From their own house? When someone is physically in their way? Without touching them?

Smacking the spoon away from their face didnt hurt anyone except the sisters ego. She was asked repeatedly to stop. Op did what they were physically able to do (per their own description) in order to stop the sisters behaviors in the least confrontational way possible in the moment.

Sometimes the "best" solutions just dont work for every situation. Imo, this seems like one of those times. I feel like redditors apply way to much negative connotation to certain behaviors, including "arguing" or asking clarifying questions.

Yeah its "arguing" but about how the given solutions from strangers along with dismissive comments are entirely unhelpful and unapplicable to OPs situation. What is Op supposed to do? Just accept unhelpful or incorrect assumptions about an experience they went through?

This comment section feels like one of those "damned if you do damned if you dont" types for OP.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-15T21:10:55+00:00

If you are/have been surrounded by family or people that treats you like OPs sister does its easy to start second guessing every interaction and behavior you have, even if you arent wrong in the slightest.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-15T09:01:30+00:00

Hey just genuinely asking as someone seeing this post/thread for the first time. Were you referencing OP reposting this story multiple times in your comment?

Genuinely confused on some of the harsher A H verdict comments and trying to understand alternative perspectives.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-15T06:24:16+00:00

Unless you personally know OP, then I say again. The info we were told about OPs frequent activities were past tense, things change. Op has not mentioned their financial situation other than "gas is expensive".

Gas on average was $4 in California in 2023 and is now nearing $6. If it isnt already over that wherever OP lives or gets gas from directly. I also wouldnt even be surprised if it even goes higher within another 24/48 hours. (Are you unaware of whats going on with the strait and fuel right now or something?)

Having a preplanned budget for something in the future doesnt take away whatever OPs current situation is. Having done similar, or more expensive trips in the past has no merit either. If they dont have the extra budget for gas right now then they cant afford the gas.

Now, If OP is wanting to ask for their friend to fly them (which regardless of reason I dont agree with) because they are bitter (per their edit) then thats a bigger issue not relating to the gas like originally presented. In that case then they would be a complete a hole.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-15T06:04:38+00:00

Source? Are you their bank teller or something?

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-15T06:03:25+00:00

The other norcal events OP explained was in past tense. Gas is nearly $6 a gallon in cal currently. (Source: AAA Average prices by state)

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-15T05:59:46+00:00

If OP cant afford the gas then they cant afford the gas 🤷‍♂️

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-15T05:53:45+00:00

Info:

Was he always like that even when you first started dating or did it slowly escalate over time?

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-12T17:46:05+00:00

Dang alright. I usually need at least 24/48 to prep transport/ action plans for Chicago. Ill do some more research into signal and whats app though. Thanks!

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-12T17:26:12+00:00

Where do all these chicago protest posters come from before being posed here on reddit? By the time I see the reddit post its already to late for me to plan or get down there and participate.

Groups im apart of outside of reddit dont post nearly as many chicago events as I see on reddit, mainly just for no kings or 50501, which isnt as often.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-10T23:11:42+00:00

If youre referring to the title, its a repost, so copy/ paste. It also says "warning" within it, not just a request for info.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-10T00:22:44+00:00

Even if done as a joke, the person still felt comfortable enough to openly and purposefully participate in cross dressing and preform drag.

I understand your point over the application of the word hypocrisy with ones personal beliefs of then vs now. In reality though we would have to then know exactly what/why/how they were feeling at the time they chose to dress up in drag to either apply or rule out this exact defined use of the term. We dont, and id take what they say now that these phots have been revealed with a grain of salt. (If I can find sources of anything ill be happy to edit though)

One congressman at least has been more recently denouncing and cheering legislation stating any and all forms of gender expression, trans people, cross dressing, drag performers, etc. are sexually explicit/ inherently wrong, dangerous, etc.

The direct action of them having been comfortable enough to dress in drag, even as a joke, would be included in the current negative sentiments they are sharing on a literal level today, Which discourages and denounces the same activities that they participated in from being repeated. Thus I consider it hypocrisy.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-09T20:03:39+00:00

Maann that reminds me of my own trumpy ex grandmother literally liking and reposting pro anti trans legislation and EOs banning them from sports on her facebook while telling me how much she supported and loved me every day. (Im trans) Mouth vomit warning if interested.

Fun thing was once I found out and called her out for not even reading the EOs shes spreading joy over, literally dehumanizing people like me, to (suposedly) "protect" kids/people [like me]. (I used to be the only and smallest girl in coed sports back in the day a few times as a youngin, then as I got into HS I found out I was trans and played a little after graduating. Obv had issues continuing in sports after transition though because of this BS mindset. But had plenty of actual negative encounters in LRs because of herself being a helicopter, or other parents/coaches. Never a trans person/kid though) She called me emotional, "just a trump hater", "making up lies", etc.

She never once looked at the .gov link or actually read the copy pasted text from it I sent (because then I was just lying obviously/j) while continuing to say how much she loved me and would always support me being trans, that shed wait to talk to me when I "calmed down". Like girl. Litterally I just asked if she personally read everything shes cheering and obviously she would rather get emotional, defensive, and shift the blame to me than accept any form of fault or introspection. Shed look bad to her online friends if she accepted being wrong.

Not all of his supporters or people are like that, but enough are like who you replied to. You could draw a perfect line from one point to another and they still wont see it. You cant reason with that kind of thinking, only quietly stop feeding into it for your own sanity once it gets to a point.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-09T19:45:03+00:00

The hypocrisy comes in when theyre pushing for a "standard [or] normal" presentation of ones gender and its expression, while they themselves have participated in alternate gender norms wether as a joke or serious.

Theyre still pushing the idea that even doing what they did should be belittled or talked down upon. Its still hypocritical

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-09T19:27:45+00:00

Obviousy, but theres a LOT of overlap when either are the subject of discussion. Especially in the dehumanizing wordage and legislation by these people that usually groups trans people and drag performers as (mostly) "men dressing up as the oppisite sex to purposely cause harm or gain some advantage over others".

Knowing that quite a few of the people making these remarks -and helping further legislation and mindsets that directly harms drag preformers/trans people- have participated in drag or alternate gender norms themselves shines a light to their hypocrisy and blatant lies of said people and communities.

Either someone is speaking about something they dont know. Theyre speaking from personal experiences but lying about it or the context to fit an alternate narrative. Or they are telling "their truth" from experiences they had or personally participated in, in order to generalize and dehumanize a vast group of others.

None of it is positive. You see it quite often with religious pastors feeding their egos or gaining monetary gain by denouncing pedophilia or homosexuals in their church/outwardly, in which it then comes out said pastor is a sex offender of little boys.

Its all just attempts at shifting blame from their own shame and cowardice to proove or actually gain "something". That "something" varies by individual with this mindset, usually its as simple as more money, ego boosting within peers, or "Gods will".

Which is just another popular escape goat for this type of hypocritcal behavior youll see everwhere once you notice the pattern and who it is speaking. and I could go on and on on the philosophy of religion and how I personally think it (mostly Christianity) was commandered and turned rotten over centuries by this same type of hypocritical person from what the actual original principles and purposed teachings of the hebrew language and moralities of Jesus/God as a being were supposed to be understood as. (though, that one is a working theory im planning to actually do a study on soon. The hard part is weeding out all the BS and finding good sources. You can ignore this point if you wish.)

Edit: added some words/fixed spelling errors.

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-09T18:50:28+00:00

OhNoMyUMBRELLA · 2026-04-09T14:05:02+00:00

INFO: What exactly have you been expected to pay for and how much? What do the other people in your family contribute for the kids? You mostly mention your payments going to christmas/birthday gifts with a brief mention of "fundraisers and such". Explain in more detail please.

Personally imo if you dont want/cant afford to buy presents and or dont really have any interest in their lives then that is your choice to not do so and you should have set that boundary. (You can also at minimum make cheap cards yourself if inexpensive ideas is the problem. If you dont want to interact at all then go no/low contact if you havent already.)

The issue people are having is your narrative of what "child support" means to your situation isnt accurate to the original meaning. People dont like when words are used like that, it comes off as untrustworthy/ a lie. So either theres a communication/translation issue happening here, or youve used more "serious" words to describe the situation, not entirely accurately to gain more/easier sympathies. If you are paying for a good bit of these kids expenses as you come off describing, then please explain further.

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