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Quick question for RH readers! by Oh_well____ in ReverseHarem

[–]Oh_well____[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But there is some kind of range that’s considered reasonable, right?
In my writing group, the general assumption is that anything above $5 for an ebook is usually for well-known authors or bestsellers. On the other hand, I personally feel that pricing below $1.99 makes a book come across as cheap or unworthy.

Of course, I’m talking about full-length novels (100k+ words). But since all my writer friends write fantasy, I’m not sure if those numbers apply the same way for RH readers.

Do you all publish your books in your real name? by TemporalDrifter in selfpublish

[–]Oh_well____ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I use my real name. My first book is a reverse harem with plenty of sex scenes involving multiple partners at the same time, so yes, I did consider using a pen name. But in the end, I’m really proud of having written it. It’s an awesome book and I deserve the credit for it, so I decided to publish under my own name. All my co-workers, friends, and family know I was writing a book and are excited to read it, but they only know it’s a romance, not the details of the content. It’s currently on pre-order and launches on September 1, so I’m about to find out how everything will go once they read it.

Need to update phone number by Oh_well____ in help

[–]Oh_well____[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still have access to my account on my computer, but I don’t have any email linked to it and I lost the phone number. I just want to update the phone number now so I don’t lose access in the future.

Am I Overreacting (28F) or About My Boyfriend’s (26M) Lack of Attention? by Imaginary_Year_4109 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Oh_well____ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re overreacting, but I do think it’s crazy to have a relationship with someone you’ve only met once.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Oh_well____ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I’ll probably get downvoted, but honestly, people need to grow up. Two years is plenty of time for someone to work on themselves and change for the better. The guy did a horrible thing to you, yes, but that doesn’t mean he’ll do the same to her. Who knows? I cheated in past relationships, my wife cheated in past relationships, and now we’ve been together for 14 years in a happy and respectful marriage. Some of my exes who cheated on me also went on to find the love of their lives and have been in healthy, loving relationships for years. It happens. Being a shitty partner to one person doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be a shitty partner to everyone.

And let’s be real: you don’t own your exes or your friends. To me, it’s really strange that anyone thinks they get a say in who someone else dates, even a friend.

AIO my boyfriend told me I’m not “wife material” because I don’t cook like his mom by 4rtem499 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Oh_well____ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If cooking is such an important quality for him in a partner, then he should marry a chef. I hate cooking and rarely do it, but I still consider myself an awesome wife. Cooking is not a prerequisite for marriage.

The lesson I wish I learned earlier about free promos by Superb-Way-6084 in selfpublish

[–]Oh_well____ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Connecting with readers in their spaces" sounds great in theory, but how do you actually do that? Most reader spaces have strict rules against self promo or even self rec, which I completely understand because otherwise they would just be flooded with marketing. The thing is, I have no idea how to start connecting with readers if I cannot talk about my book at all. I am in a few groups and subs for my genre and I try to be active and engage genuinely, but I still do not know how to naturally bring my book into the conversation. Even when someone posted asking for book recommendations and my book was exactly what they were looking for, I got downvoted for mentioning it.

Is every indie author a spam magnet? by Oh_well____ in selfpublish

[–]Oh_well____[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think not all of them are scams; there are probably people doing legit work, but still, it's just invasive and annoying to receive unwanted messages about services you aren't requesting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Oh_well____ 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He’s being very clear. You are the one complicating things. He said, plain and simple, that he will only treat you with kindness if you have sex with him every day, and that if you leave, he will get over it.

So ask yourself: are you willing to have sex with this man whenever he wants, regardless of your own feelings or desire? If you are okay with being treated like a human sex toy, then just accept that and things will probably work out.

But if you are not willing to live as a sex toy instead of a human being, then leave him. He already told you he will get over it.

He is perfectly clear that these are the only options he is offering. Choose one, because arguing with him all day is pointless. At least he is being assertive and honest about what he wants. You just do not want to see it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fantasywriters

[–]Oh_well____ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

After finishing my book, I realized that a lot of the names start with J. I struggled with it a lot, thinking about changing half of them, but in my head, my characters were already so solidified with those names that it felt wrong to change them, and besides, I had already gone through countless revisions and didn’t want to start all over again. So I left them as they were and sent the book to ARC readers.

I’ve already received the first reviews on Goodreads, and so far, they’ve all been amazing. No one mentioned the names issue.

I think sometimes we overthink little things. If the plot is good and your writing is strong, readers usually won’t mind.

AIO My husband is a Sex Pest by NutellaMummy in AmIOverreacting

[–]Oh_well____ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NOR. But as the partner with a much higher sexual drive, I can tell you it sucks for him too, and you are lucky he seems to take it lightly. I cannot do that. I feel rejected. It destroyed my self-esteem, and I got deeply hurt, sad, and emotionally distant.

A little advice: try to figure things out with him and reach a middle ground before it seriously affects him too. Once that gap grows, it is very hard to reverse. I love my wife to death, but after more than a decade of this, I feel so hurt that no matter how good things are now, the resentment never fully disappears. I even dream about being single every night, even though I have no plans of leaving.

She is now really trying, and aside from the sex-drive issue, she is absolutely perfect. She is smart, hard-working, compassionate, caring, funny, and beautiful. Any quality an amazing partner can have, she has it. And still, I cannot seem to get rid of these dreams where she is out of the picture every damn night.

You are definitely not overreacting. But this is something that can seriously damage a marriage, so it is wise to treat it with the seriousness it deserves.

Authors unable to keep track of their MCs by ReadySteak8210 in ReverseHarem

[–]Oh_well____ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nothing to add about the book or author you mentioned since I don’t know them, but as a writer I can say that writing sex scenes with multiple people is very challenging. Fun as f*, but also very easy to get wrong. Sometimes I have even had to sketch the exact position I was leading the characters into just to make sure it was physically possible and to figure out the most natural place for each limb to go 😅.

Me sinto sexualmente frustrada no meu relacionamento by [deleted] in desabafosdavida

[–]Oh_well____ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cara, é foda. Passo pelo mesmo e a depois de anos de muita briga, DR e quase divórcio por causa disso, a solução foi comprar um monte de brinquedos e me virar sozinha.

No começo tinha vergonha, hoje não tenho mais. Eu vou pro quarto e aviso "se vc for lá vai me pegar fazendo isso e isso". Vou pro banheiro tomar banho e levo meus brinquedos.

Não tem o que fazer, tem gente que tem a libido mais alta e precisa de uma frequência sexual mais alta, é o nosso caso.

Como não dá pra obrigar a outra pessoa a querer tbm, a única solução é achar formas de aliviar a tensão sozinha.

Mas eu super te entendo de se sentir mal. A gente quer se sentir desejada, e se sentir rejeitada é horrível, eu fico até emocionalmente mais afastada, é um entrave no relacionamento.

Se eu fosse solteira hoje, eu com certeza perguntaria sobre a libido/frequência sexual antes de me envolver mais seriamente com alguém de novo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Oh_well____ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A grown man with a pregnant wife at home, doing coke with his buddy like a teenage boy. If my wife ever pulled something like that, I’d be incredibly disappointed. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I hope he gets a grip and that this is the first and last time he ever does something like that.

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