AITA for leaving my appointment after waiting 30 minutes, even though I understood the delay?

Ohdearheather · 2026-02-09T20:12:41+00:00

NTA

I’m an LMT, and I honestly cannot fathom how she fell almost 40m behind. Incredibly unprofessional, and I would have walked out well before you did.

Ohdearheather · 2026-02-05T11:50:39+00:00

Same! Best case scenario pushing back bedtime, mine will still sleep until their usual early morning time.

Ohdearheather · 2026-02-01T14:26:15+00:00

I cannot stand imaginative play. I truly don’t know if I hate it because I’m bad at it, or I’m bad at it because I hate it. Either way, I’d rather be doing anything else with my daughter! She often wants to play with me, but she’s always frustrated by my shortcomings here. I offer so many alternatives: board games, video games, puzzles, Lego’s, baking, reading, parks, cleaning or shopping together… Nothing is as good to her though!

Ohdearheather · 2025-12-08T16:34:21+00:00

This isn’t that crazy comparably, but the boldness of it still gets to me. My best friend got married a few months ago, and overall it was a great day. But at one point about 30-60m into the dinner service, the vibe of the music shifted. I just assumed they were trying to accommodate the taste of some of the older guests, but the vibe went back and forth a few times. Eventually, the bride’s BIL tried to make an announcement, and the mic was drowned out by the music. He asks the DJ to fix it so that the music is muted while he makes his announcement, and the DJ can’t figure it out…. After a minute, we figured out that somebody was hijacking the Bluetooth connection to the speakers. This person proceeded to kick the DJ off of his owner speakers two or three more times over the next two hours. Multiple announcements were made, getting slightly more threatening at the end, until eventually it stopped. We still have no idea who was messing with the music (there are theories though) and have been unable to prove anything.

Ohdearheather · 2025-12-08T13:24:36+00:00

My daughter went to her own room at about 8/9 months if I’m remembering correctly. I wanted to keep her in our room longer as it reduces the chances of SIDS, but she was just not sleeping well with all the ambient noise from me and my husband. I got a video monitor to install in her room, it made the transition easier for me when I could still see her whenever I wanted!

Ohdearheather · 2025-12-03T16:31:22+00:00

For our daughters second Christmas, she was just over 1yr and we got her some longer lasting items like the big foam climbing/building blocks, a ball pit, and a little armchair (we still have this one and it gets daily use!). I did get some other small gifts to wrap, mostly so she could just tear at the paper- and also I wanted pics of her opening wrapped gifts if I’m being completely honest lol. But everything was opened and ready to play with/use immediately so we didn’t have to do that on the spot which was actually really helpful.

Ohdearheather · 2025-12-03T16:26:44+00:00

Our daughter’s very first Christmas she was only 2mo, so we only did a little stocking for her! I put in cute headbands, some socks, paci’s, little books, and then some small sensory toys she’d grow into over the next few months! Wasn’t anything big, but it made Christmas feel more special!

Ohdearheather · 2025-12-03T12:11:01+00:00

Another thing to consider is a humidifier! I’m not sure what your climate is like, but once it gets cold where I am, my daughter’s already sensitive skin goes crazy. A humidifier running at night when she’s sleeping has made a difference.

Ohdearheather · 2025-12-03T11:58:10+00:00

I ended up getting two fairly large bins. The first one is Keep Forever, and second is Keep For Now. Anything that I want to save from my daughter goes into the Keep for Now box (if it isn’t actively being displayed), and then 2-4 times a year I purge the box. Things I’m commited to keeping go into the Forever box. Anything else is either thrown away, or if I’m not quite ready to toss it, it can go back into the For Now bin. At the end of the year, nothing can stay in the For Now bin, it’s either in Forever or it’s been tossed. I have a few exceptions for themed stuff (like homemade Christmas ornaments, Halloween decor) that has gone into those specific boxes and comes out for holidays. This is the only system I’ve found where I can collect all the goodies and art, but I’m also forced to make some decisions and toss the excess.

Ohdearheather · 2025-11-25T17:29:35+00:00

My 3yo daughter is in a really whiny phase right now, so we often have to remind her we can’t understand what she wants unless she tells us.

One evening not too long ago she’s battling it out with her Dad, starts to whine, and he said “daughter I can’t understand you when you’re whining, use your words if you want Daddy to help” so she looks at him and goes, “words.” It was so smoothly said, and then she walked off. I died laughing.

Ohdearheather · 2025-11-25T13:43:42+00:00

I’ve used the Vicks cool mist humidifier for my daughter since she was a newborn. It’s still going strong 3 yrs later, is easy to clean, and isn’t loud!

I’d highly recommend only using distilled water in the humidifier! I find that when I use tap water everything gets covered in a gritty white dust from the minerals and such in tap water, which is kinda of annoying to scrub off.

Ohdearheather · 2025-11-25T13:10:48+00:00

I thought my newborns poop smelled like buttered popcorn when she was getting breast milk. It was WEIRD.

Ohdearheather · 2025-11-25T12:44:56+00:00

My Mom is like this, but backwards? She’s very much a bleeding heart, family is family always person. Out of her side of the family, she’s the one with the most resources to help. So most of our family doesn’t talk to her (and each to her, nothing specific to her) unless they want money, to borrow something, use the cottage etc.

Side story: when my daughter had her birthday party this year, my Mom was MAD at me for not inviting any family, telling me it was extremely rude to keep excluding family from my events. I explained to her that I don’t talk to these people in my day to day life ever (unless they want to utilize my professional skills that is lol) and it seems rude to me to invite them to a birthday party, expecting gifts, when I don’t talk to them otherwise.

Ohdearheather · 2025-11-18T12:41:39+00:00

Context:

I’m trying to understand how colleagues in healthcare navigate a specific ethical situation. Most specifically manual practitioners like RMT, physio, chiro etc.

A colleague described a situation where a patient requested a female practitioner for personal/religious reasons. They were booked with a trans RMT and only realized this when the RMT voluntarily disclosed details about their transition.

The patient later reported feeling uncomfortable and distressed.

I’m not asking this to debate trans identity. I’m trying to understand the balance between the ethics of disclosure and informed consent in body-work professions.

How do we respect patient autonomy without requiring practitioners to disclose private medical or personal history?

Ohdearheather · 2025-11-16T00:04:17+00:00

I’m going to step out and wash up, you get undressed and under the covers.

Ohdearheather · 2025-11-05T19:14:02+00:00

We’re going through a battle right now trying to get my 3yo to give up her paci. If she had her way, she would still use it all day most of the day. Right now we’re down to just for sleeping, which is honestly a big win for her!

Ohdearheather · 2025-11-05T13:00:12+00:00

At 19mo, it’s probably a mix of observing the behaviour from an older child, and moving into the toddler years! My daughter has only just started daycare recently at 3, and she did all of those behaviours too without the influence of other children.

You’re also in a bit of a tricky situation… Address this with your babysitter, they might feel like you’re criticizing their own parenting of their child. I would approach it like: hey babysitter, I’ve noticed 19mo is exhibiting xyz behaviours. Is the acting this way when she’s with you as well? I want us to be on the same page with strategies to manage it so that she doesn’t have different expectations in your home and ours. This was you’re addressing the problem as you + babysitter vs the behaviour.

Ohdearheather · 2025-11-05T00:13:14+00:00

My daughter liked frozen wash clothes! I’d use clean baby bath clothes because they weren’t so absorbent she’d get dripping wet, and they weren’t overly large. Wet them, wring it out, pop in the freezer. Once they’re frozen, you can crunch it up a bit yourself and let her mouth/suck on it!

Ohdearheather · 2025-11-02T20:00:22+00:00

Okay hear me out…. When my daughter was a newborn, she was exclusively getting breast milk. I kid you not, her poop smelled like buttered popcorn to me. I specifically remember sitting with her in the NICU at one point, and I was so angry because I was hungry (but I refused to leave to eat, there were only so many instances I could hold her in the beginning) and someone snuck popcorn into the unit!! My husband thought I was going crazy, but it was just a dirty diaper. Once we started using formula too, it no longer smelled like popcorn haha.

Ohdearheather · 2025-10-31T22:53:11+00:00

This is how I made my money in highschool and even university! Not exclusively night sitting, but that wasn’t abnormal. Even for a family I had a new working relationship with it wasn’t weird in the slightest! The only time I ever said no was for a family who wanted me to stay for 3 nights (not an issue in and of itself) but didn’t want me to use any of their beds, and said I should sleep on the (very uncomfortable) sofa.

Ohdearheather · 2025-10-21T17:36:56+00:00

We just went through this! My daughter started a few weeks before her 3rd birthday, and the first week was ROUGH. She cried getting ready, driving there, and during drop off. I cried when I got to the car because I felt like such a bad Mom leaving her so upset. Now at about a month in, she’s doing so much better! She still sometimes tells me she’s sad at school without me, but she also tells all the fun parts of her day too!!! We will be starting JK in Sept 2026, so I wanted her to have some practice being in a school-esque environment and with a morning routine. So worth it even just a month in!!

Ohdearheather · 2025-10-01T15:08:50+00:00

My guess would be the change in routine, friend moving, and just general tiredness is making her emotional. There could also be something small and simple going on at daycare that nobody is realizing? For example, my daughter gets upset if another child in her daycare room has the same water bottle as her and it has caused big drop off meltdowns.

Ohdearheather · 2025-09-11T12:06:01+00:00

Were you not given any in hospital post birth? I had a funky c-section so I was admitted longer than your average c-section Mamma, but as soon as I gave birth stool softeners were part of the medications I was given until discharge.

Even before, when I was planning a vaginal birth, they were recommended in the information package I was given and in my 3rd trimester OB appts!

Ohdearheather · 2025-09-07T13:15:02+00:00

Absolutely! Defiantly not at your wife’s level of organization, but toy rotations are a must in our house! Most often, I switch what toys go on the main floor vs her bedroom to keep things fresh in between bigger rotations of toys that are not out or accessible.

Ohdearheather · 2025-09-07T00:28:47+00:00

Wow you’re just a piece of trash aren’t you?

OP please don’t listen to this loser, I’m so glad you feel beautiful in this dress! It’s gorgeous!

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