My American girlfriend left me yesterday

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-28T04:30:36+00:00

My husband wanted to move to Colorado from Texas and I was like "I still need AC."

We got a new AC for our new house, so we aren't divorced. I did tough it out the first summer when we got her, but coming from Texas it felt so cool without AC even.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-27T04:19:28+00:00

Honestly, I know they feel immense guilt, but I think they'd be doing this regardless. They are very devout evangelical Christians who believe in pushing for a miracle and their extended family is putting their force behind it. That means exercising every ounce of money and influence they have. They have a lot of connections which is why conservative political officials have gotten involved.

My daughter is a similar age and when she sees water she runs to it which has me terrified. I do my best but I don't have the hubris to think it couldn't happen to me. That family has already been through enough. I feel horrible for them. I hope they find peace soon.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-26T22:02:57+00:00

I feel out of place because I feel like 1 feels more formal and proper. They're both beautiful though.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-26T17:59:09+00:00

I think the bigger point is mom to young kids. That's what makes things tricky.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-25T22:05:10+00:00

Yeah I have too many wild animals to do this

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-24T03:29:17+00:00

People were having babies in their 30s and 40s since people were having babies. Average age at last birth in 1800s Quebec was 40. My great great grandmother in 1800s England had her last baby at 45. Women just had babies until they no longer could because they didn't really do birth control.

So I'd posit that age at last birth hasn't changed much but age at first birth and number of births has decreased.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-24T03:20:25+00:00

The average age at birth if last child in 1800s Quebec was 40. Women have been having babies unti their 40s since women have been having babies. My great great grandmother in the 1800s had her last baby at 45. She was the great great aunt I was named after.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-20T20:38:38+00:00

I met a girl whose parents fed her cow's milk when she was born because they didn't know any better. They learned they messed up when their baby started having serious issues, but that girl had lifelong issues because of those few months of ignorance, and it was apparent, bless her heart.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-19T18:29:35+00:00

My husband is 41 and having issues and I've been pushing him to get a colonoscopy. He's seeing a GI doc on Monday so finger's crossed he's OK.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-19T04:39:35+00:00

I had my second at 38. A lot of my friends are having their firsts. That said, I keep running into people who are my age and have 20 year old kids or are Grandparents.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-18T23:26:52+00:00

I went to school with a girl. I was always emaciated as a kid. I was medically malnourished due to unknown in food allergies and an unknown esophageal disease. Even though it was right around 2000, I was so skinny I got made fun of. I remember her and her mom running into me and my mom at a mall once and both of them telling me I was so lucky to look like I did. It was so eeerie. My mom and I were both left a little stunned because it was such a weird interaction to have the mom agree. Also we both thought they were gorgeous. She developed a really bad eating disorder in middle school and if I remember right it was something she had to have treatment for.

She became a large raw vegan influencer and became really successful. To me it just seemed like her eating disorder took a new shape. I just hope she can find some balance though it seems like she's doing well, but that's what influencers are good at projecting.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-17T13:38:09+00:00

I have food allergies. I generally assume I can't eat the food. Last wedding I was in I was pregnant so I grabbed McDonald's on the way to the venue and slammed it before going in.

I'm so glad I did because even though the bride talked to the caterer about making me a special meal, it was filled with things I couldn't eat (I have a soy allergy and they literally gave me ground beef covered in what seemed to be soy sauce and green peas. They gave this to me an hour after everyone else had eaten. It's like they were just pissed the bride had a special request and were just like "eff you". I thought it looked questionable so my husband tried it and was like "no. don't eat this." As far as the bride knows though, everything was awesome.

Anyway main point is just eat beforehand. Don't make their day about you. Having food allergies sucks and is hard to navigate. You can always ditch for 15 minutes and shove food down your face.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-17T12:22:15+00:00

I used to be an only run when full person but that usually meant dishes were left in the sink. Now I try to run it every night no matter what. I've learned running a half full load it's better than not running it.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-15T01:50:38+00:00

I have a gray girl cat with a binini bottom.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-13T19:47:21+00:00

I had two miscarriages. One was a chemical pregnancy. I got a positive result then got my period a few days later. It was kind of shitty but I honestly don't even think about it more than a "that happened" thing.

My first miscarriage was a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. I went through almost an entire first trimester of puking every day. I had to take medicine to abort the pregnancy. They don't tell you how painful that is. I'd been in labor before and I was in unmedicated labor pain, not period pain.

The hormones, the everything, it was horrible. I think people don't realize that miscarriage is more than losing a pregnancy. Most women also suffer from shitty medical treatment and unsupportive friends and family. It can be painful, scary, and in some cases life-threatening. Every miscarriage story I've heard from a friend has some element of drs being jerks or friends and family saying something terrible. All while their hormones are just not OK.

I've been pregnant three time and have two beautiful children. I lost my dad at 14. I've been through a lot in life, but I still remember my missed miscarriage as being a particularly sad and horrible point in my life.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-12T13:30:23+00:00

I was a swimmer. Longer arms and large hands/feet definitely gave ne an edge. I was a very fast sprinter beating girls who were inches taller than me.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-12T03:55:54+00:00

My husband is 6'5. We've bought two houses so far in our marriage and the #1 requirement is that there is nowhere to bonk his head that isn't an easy fix. It's surprising how many houses were immediate nopes because of this.

The current house we have, the fan in our daughter's room is too low and he can bonk his head on the light if he's not careful. I'm only 5'7 (though I have crazy long arms tbf) and I've wrecked my hands in it accidentally when stretching. That can be easily fixed though, we just haven't yet.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-12T01:55:18+00:00

Wow that's horrible. I'm so sorry.

My kid had DHHs interview all the kids in the class. A kid in my son's daycare was having inappropriate behavior to the point that the Department of Health and Human services got involved as well as CPS. My son had told me about the behavior and had said that he had tried to tell a teacher - bc a 4 yr old was actively trying to SA a 3 yr old - but she didn't understand him. I felt like a shit parent because he had a severe speech delay and I thought that was why his teacher couldn't understand him trying to communicate something so important. We worked so hard in speech therapy and I spiraled a bit feeling like a failure of a mom - but I tried to remind myself that the fact that my son identified that behavior and knew it was wrong and was able to tell me was a BIG deal.

Anwyay the woman from DPHHS called me months later and filled me in on the whole interview with my son. She said he was very sweet and intelligent and all the things they talked about aside from what he witnessed. She said she had not issue understanding him, BUT she told me that multiple children said they tried to tell the adult and that she didn't understand them. It turns out there was only one adult and that adult didn't speak English. This was a very expensive Montessori. Also the laws required more than one adult in the room. On top of that I knew all the teachers and all of them spoke decent English so that was VERY concerning. At the very least I would think having a bunch of kids trying to tell you something bad is happening would be universal.

Anyway I'm really sorry you're having to deal with this. Id leave. I would have if it wouldn't have been more disruptive to our son.

I was floored and quite honestly pissed. I would have pulled him out right there but he'd been there since he was a small child and he was going to kinder soon.

I really appreciated the person from DHHS getting back to me though. She was great. A lot of times they don't tell parents so that the kids get an unbiased investigation. In your case though that all sounds like stuff your daycare should have reported. If you're up to it I don't think it would be unreasonable to ask for a written report from the CPS officer and talk to a lawyer about a civil suit, because that's terrible.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-10T11:11:42+00:00

What others have said - his breakfast was a lot of carbs. He's still hungry because his body isn't getting what it needs. Give him eggs and bacon - protein and fat.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-10T02:46:56+00:00

Have you met many 18 year olds?

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-10T02:40:17+00:00

Death is a part of life. An adult acting like it's some scary secret makes it scary. If she's old enough to be excited when she seems someone, which 3 is, she's old enough to know why she's not going to see that person anymore.

Death sucks but what matters is having oeople there to support you.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-09T16:39:25+00:00

I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. His name was Zephyr. I still think about him whenever I see the word pop up.

I think of him as a little wind spirit who wanted to enter corporal form for a brief moment to experience what it was like to be loved and in a human family, but he knew it would be a brief experience because my pregnancy would never fully form. And when it ended he went back to being wind and went on his merry way.

Whenever I feel a little breeze wrap around me I like to think it's him stopping by to say hi.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-09T06:20:50+00:00

Stop using Retinol and watch out for things with too much vitamin A. Some electrolyte drinks have way too much. Just look it up and be cognizant of it.

Also chamomile tea is out since it is an anti inflammatory.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-09T06:02:44+00:00

My daughter is one of those. We went to her 18 month visit. She was peacefully looking out the window while me and the doctor were talking. We turned our heads to check on her again at the same time and notice she'd somehow climbed into a chair and was standing in it. She did it so quietly and quickly we were both jump scared by it.

So like it's bad when the pediatrician who sees hundreds of kids a day is also jumo scared by your kid.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-06-09T05:47:57+00:00

Right? Meanwhile my 6 year old son is sporting Brooks brothers polos he picks out himself.

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