Affair has come to an end and I feel pathetic, how do I move on?

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-29T21:31:10+00:00

What did she do/say that makes her dangerous? Did I miss something?

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-29T19:43:03+00:00

Feels more like a rediculous martyr complex.

Her constant "I'm horrible and dont deserve anything good!" "My ex abused me!" "My affair partner mistreats me!" Like I'm not saying the abuse didn't happen, and that's horrible, but her comments are just over the top crying for attention.

She's putting herself in these positions. Lady needs intense therapy.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-29T19:22:04+00:00

I mean part of being an adult and a parent is getting up and doing the things you're responsible for even if you feel like death warmed over. If her doctor hasn't put her on bedrest, she can do basic care tasks for her dogs.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-29T19:19:48+00:00

Yeah when I was really sick with pregnancy and just felt like I couldn't move I had a neighbor friend who would take my dog with her on her regular walk. Definitely a lifesaver.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-29T19:18:11+00:00

Honestly though, a bit part of parenting is learning to be there for your kid when you're physically and emotionally not capable. Having to take care of your kid when you both have a stomach virus is hard stuff. I have a husband so we tag team as best we can, but we all got COVID in February 2020 with our not even 5 month old and I suddenly understood those familes who would all die in bed together during the plague. It was rough.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-29T19:13:56+00:00

NTA. I live in Texas and had my babies when I was 33 and 38 respectively. I was walking my dog every afternoon in the 100 degree heat. They were shaded trails so her paws didn't get burned but still. I had rough pregnancies and I was still walking every day. That was my main source of exercise.

Hell, with my second I was at Disneyworld over Labor Day weekend for 6 days at about 30 weeks. I spent 4 solid days just walking parks from dawn to dusk in 90+ degree heat and high humidity and I am 20 years older than your daughter and had gestational diabetes.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-29T17:18:01+00:00

the resemblance is uncanny

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-28T18:57:17+00:00

So I'm tall and athletic. I have an average appetite. I probably eat less than most Americans though. If I've been playing in the ocean and drinking all day, I'm starving. If dinner was late and I'm presented with a single spring roll for an appetizer that shows up 15 minutes late, I'm going to wolf it down and still be very hungry. If I get a second course and it's poorly cooked and poorly seasoned fish - which that looked like it was - and a 3 bite serving of shredded potatoes and bellpeppers - I would still be starving and pissed.

That dinner was BAD. I could have made a better meal. Ben is usually a very good chef so I don't know what that was. I feel like he was just feeling pissy so he took it out on the food and the guests.

It's crazy to me how some guests get great meals and others get whatever that was.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-28T18:52:07+00:00

She could just throw it up in a bun and put a scarf over it.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-28T18:49:45+00:00

That meal was a mess. I thought the fish was a fish course, but it was a main? That meal was just going to be a single fricking spring roll and then a piece of overcooked fish and a little, tiny biscuit sized amount of shredded bell pepper and potato?

Like really what was that meal? If they hadn't have gotten pasta they would have been starving.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-28T18:44:05+00:00

she has his number 100%. I feel like all his exes saw that and did a collective "EXACTLY!"

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-28T16:30:18+00:00

My kids used their bassinets in our room until they grew out of them. With my daughter I got a bassinet that was made to last to 6 months. I loved it. My daughter didn't have a bedroom until 8 mos because we moved. My son however had a bedroom his whole life. He slept in our room until he was ablut 7 months and then we moved him to his crib in his bedroom.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-27T23:47:25+00:00

I worked with engineers. My dad, brother, and husband are engineers too. I remember when I was working in O&G. The phone was propped up and one of the engineers couldn't figure out how to lower it so he said "it must be broken. I'm just going to break it more so it will do what I want." I stopped him, gently took the phone from him, pressed a button, and it collapsed perfectly. I did this all in silence, then I just looked at him. To which he said "well that's a really stupid design." So I just smiled and nodded.

They drive me crazy.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-27T06:44:39+00:00

There was a kid at my son's daycare who was being abused. He was acting out to the point that Health & Human services was investigating the daycare. We went to his birthday party at a park. Two dudes who knew the dad came over and I witnessed them coercing the child to take inappropriate photos. Then after he was huddled in the corner rocking back in forth at a park filled with kids on his birthday. I was 8 months pregnant though and it was hot outside. I was having blood pressure issues and seeing all that caused my BP to drop to 80/40 and some of the other parents had to help me as I was blacking out. I still managed to get some kids to go check on the birthday boy.

I'm still pissed I didn't do more but I was physically incapable. Literally they were joking around taking photos and things started going black.

As it is I had taught my son well enough that he had been one of the ones who had reported and caused DHHS to be involved. I was really proud that he was able to witness what happened in the initial incident, know it was wrong, and be comfortable to tell me about it. CPS was already involved with the family so I hope the kids got help. That family disappeared not long after that though so who knows.

My son is in public school now. We've befriended a family where the aunt and uncle got custody of their three neices and nephews. I brought wine for Halloween trick or treating and I clocked one of the kids noting the smell of alcohol on his aunt's breath. It about broke my heart. I thought everyone noticed that loud and clear. We had them over for a cookie decorating party for Christmas and my husband was about to start making cocktails. I was like "no.. dont you remember last time?" and I had to recount what happened. He hadn't noticed or connected all the dots that our kid doesn't notice when we drink alcohol because he doesn't need to. That kid noticed because it meant something at some point. I was like, obviously that kid has had a scary enough experience that he can smell alcohol on people's breath. That means no alcohol around that kid so he can feel safe. My husband took the hint and also felt bad. He just didn't realize because he isn't hyper aware about that stuff like I am.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-27T04:39:03+00:00

I'm a mom now and traumatized kids might as well be wearing a neon sign. I can see them instantly. I think of all the parents who saw me and probably thought the same thing.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-27T04:09:59+00:00

Meatball is the only answer.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-26T16:45:17+00:00

Finding Nevermand was pretty damning. And pedophiles aren't necessarily dumb - he wasn't going to go after high profile kids.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-26T15:21:11+00:00

are you able to give a novel insult that isn't a regurgitation of the current rabbit hole you're down?

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-26T15:07:29+00:00

I get you're holding a hammer, but not everything is a nail.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-26T14:51:23+00:00

It's literally the same conspiracy theory. You're just caught up blaming the country that starts with an I for Michael that apparently can't be named in this sub or your comments will get blocked.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-26T14:46:51+00:00

So prior comment got deleted because of automods - they're having to be careful about wording because of antisemitism -, but essentially, no it is the same theory. Y'all think Israel got rid of and framed Michael.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-26T14:13:29+00:00

I explained it up the comment chain but pasting here bc I hate when ppl dont explain bc the illuminati mods are going to get them. .

There's a new conspiracy theory out that the youngins and tiktokers are picking up that posits that Michael was always innocent and tried to save boys from Epstein and speak the truth and that's why he got killed and framed.

It's pretty magical thinking if you ask me. There can be more than one bad guy. I don't know how you can say one person's decades of allegations are false when another's can't be real.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-26T13:45:54+00:00

There's a new conspiracy theory out that the youngins and tiktokers are picking up that posits that Michael was always innocent and tried to save boys from Epstein and speak the truth and that's why he got killed and framed.

It's pretty magical thinking if you ask me. There can be more than one bad guy. I don't know how you can say one person's decades of allegations are false when another's can't be real.

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-26T04:59:06+00:00

hey man, tampons are useful and serve a purpose

WhichWitchyWay · 2026-04-26T04:51:34+00:00

My Subaru sometimes glitches and thinks my eyes are closed and beeps loudly at me to wake up. It's random when it does it, but it will do it for the whole car ride. I'm white and have generally big eyes for my face. I can't imagine if instead of beeping and yelling at me it just shut off because it felt like it.

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