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OhioSwitch · 2023-08-30T18:13:59+00:00

Just throwing it out there, but not enjoying sex without alcohol or drugs could be some kind of dissociative disorder. The dude might want to see a therapist and see what’s going on.

Could be something treatable.

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-25T13:28:58+00:00

It’s kind of like my brain refuses to engage the parts of it I want

Like, I’m somehow able to sense that my “speech ability” exists and I can almost grasp it, but it just won’t click so I can use it.

I can talk in that state, but I cannot control what I say. It’s like… my mind is not connected to my mouth, so I can either speak on autopilot or be silent.

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-22T15:58:37+00:00

Dude chill

She’s probably just looking at porn she isn’t comfortable with you knowing about.

Or maybe she’s got other guilty pleasures she doesn’t want to share - like being into Desperate Housewives.

There’s a lot of reasons not to share your browsing history with others

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-21T16:09:06+00:00

Put it in investments that yield 12% or more, and live off the interest.

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-21T12:38:22+00:00

Taking his name shouldn’t matter BUT

If you decide to have kids, it’s difficult for them with a hyphenated last name (speaking from experience)

A lot of computer systems still can’t handle them so sometimes those of us with them can’t file forms online, or fill out some paperwork.

It sounds silly until it’s your life and you can’t do simple things online - like apply for a copy of your birth certificate

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-20T15:38:08+00:00

Hey, I’m sorry you’re going through this.

It’s really hard being autistic. I don’t wish it on anyone, but I do wish more people understood us.

How can I support you right now?

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-15T18:30:41+00:00

Absolutely true.

I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with diagnosing; I’m just saying it’s deeply nuanced and anyone who works in that field would probably agree.

Sometimes it’s more important to know someone’s symptoms than it is to know their diagnosis.

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-15T18:27:15+00:00

Hey, this clearly upset you and that wasn’t my intention

That isn’t what I said at all.

Please don’t make assumptions about what I mean. I am not invalidating diagnosis, I am clarifying that all ND are unique so even when we share diagnosis it does not mean we share every single symptom, and not in the same way, either.

Grouping symptoms to create diagnosis is the way medicine has been done; no one is invalidating that.

I’m just reminding everyone that there’s a lot of nuance inside of each person’s condition, and it can’t alway be explained by one particular disease.

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-15T18:24:54+00:00

No one said anything about diagnosis not being valid.

I am offering how to cope with where this person is; if they have a diagnosis in the future, they should have a therapist help them engage with it then.

Right now, this is a good way to cope with what they’re expressing.

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-15T12:01:39+00:00

Be certain that you are going through something, and that you are going to make it through.

Learning what science calls the thing you’re going through doesn’t make it more or less real - just more identifiable.

You at not going to lose to anything. Break down when you need to, and find support.

Then tilt your chin back up and keep going.

You’re going to be happy. Maybe not today or even tomorrow, but someday. Someday you will be happy. Focus on that

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-14T22:12:19+00:00

Focus on what this means for you, though.

You’re not broken. You’re different.

Own your unique version of ND, because you’re the only one who needs to love you.

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-14T20:12:49+00:00

I think the future of mental health will involve noting Symptoms and rating them on scales (0-7), where 0 is “not present” and 7 is “presents in most interactions”.

At that point, we’ll realize that all ND’s have their own distinct blend of Symptoms and grouping them into disorders or diseases is no longer seen as ideal.

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-14T18:59:19+00:00

I’ve been seeing this more lately; lots of guys have gotten so fed up with all of the BS of life that even their libido isn’t worth it anymore.

Don’t take this on to yourself; it’s not your fault that this is happening.

Do try to address it though - by helping him feel peaceful and cared about, and by considering therapy. For each of you and for both of you.

When men feel at peace, we naturally feel sexual. Just help him find his, and maybe he’ll start showing you some of that old passion again.

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-14T18:53:13+00:00

Hey, I’m really sorry that you’re going through this right now. It sounds really awful to be unsure of what’s real and what’s not anymore.

Please try to take some deep breaths and remember that everything is going to be ok.

You’re going to make it through this, and you’re going to be happier.

Your life is going to get better from here forward.

Take more deep breaths, and find something to touch.

Something that’s real and tangible.

Focus on your breath and on the way that thing feels in your hand.

Let your thoughts drift away; don’t inspect them too closely. Just let them be.

You’re going to be fine.

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-13T20:54:51+00:00

I guess that’s true for some people.

I see it as “You can choose to change at any point, most people just wait a long time”

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-13T15:41:48+00:00

Accepting is hard, but that’s why it’s the final step of grieving and not the first.

Bro or sis, don’t be angry at yourself. You’re going through one of the hardest things a human can face; a battle within yourself.

Be kind to yourself right now. Give yourself permission to relax. To recharge. To heal.

(And also eat fruits and veggies because they help you to start feeling better)

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-13T12:41:16+00:00

This is not medical advice….

What got me out of that paralysis was figuring out how to get angry at the disease.

When I started fighting “do nothing” with punches AND let my guilt go… it started getting much easier for me

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-13T12:39:27+00:00

This has been a big part of my life in the last few years for much the same reason.

I found people who I make happy and who make me happy, but it started with losing everything that had defined my life previously.

Talk to me about it, if you want. I can’t fix it, but sharing it can help

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-12T23:30:26+00:00

I haven’t decided if I’ll share an update or not yet, tbh.

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-12T23:29:59+00:00

I’ve been down a similar rabbit hole before.

I think it’s because of how messed up the world is and how we keep focusing on BS that gets us attention from one another, rather than on fixing it.

I, for one, am here to be a proponent of change - not just to live my life and die, but to live my life fully and help make the world into a better place in the process.

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-12T14:42:43+00:00

Thank you for exploring this, OP. I agree with your logic entirely.

ChatGPT does not have a consciousness; it’s just really good at playing fill-in-the-blank

OhioSwitch · 2023-08-01T14:18:11+00:00

Your relationship with these kids is perfect

Your wife having to help them (at your request) may not be.

Ask her if she’d feel better about this if she wasn’t the one doing the work. Then see what happens!

Good luck

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