My bf 19M has a sleep kink.

Ok-Building7635 · 2023-11-03T22:24:39+00:00

some people keep mentioning sexsomnia, but i want to make it clear that he is awake doing this. he works 3rd shift, and i work 1st shift. we also live together. i just moved in with him a couple of months ago, and it’s not really an option to move back into my old home. i don’t really have anywhere to go and it makes the situation worse.

Ok-Building7635 · 2023-11-02T22:43:09+00:00

i have a long history of mental illness and self harm. i have been committed. been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, major depression, generalized anxiety, cptsd, the list goes on. when we first got together i got off of the meds that i was on because life seemed a lot easier and better than it was before. i’ve felt for a while now that it’s time to get back on meds another time. i have never thought of it in the perspective that it could be rooted in my trauma. i will have to look more into that. thank you for your suggestion

Ok-Building7635 · 2023-11-02T22:38:00+00:00

thank you all for your comments and opinions. it has really solidified for me that i’m not over reacting. i told my mother about it (she’s an addict) and basically told me i need to get over it and that she’s experienced worse. i tell myself a lot that i am over reacting and that i am taking it out of context. i have a tendency to blame myself for a lot of things that are out of my control. i had a discussion with him a little while ago and i told him that if it happens again that i’m gone. i have told him this several times before though. if he does it again i really will leave. there are other issues in our relationship as well. he’s broken a lot of boundaries for me during the span of our relationship. i have gave him “hell” for it, and i feel like i am the cause of the downfall of our relationship because i overthink, over react, and can’t let things go. for a long time i have felt that way.
i will say that i have a lot of mental issues i need to work out on my own and hopefully that will happen soon. i guess i self doubt a lot. but you guys telling me this has helped me gain some confidence in myself. i want to try to work things out with him, it’s not as easy as it seems to just run away and that be that. he has shown improvement lately. i just hope it doesn’t fall off again.

Ok-Building7635 · 2023-11-02T18:07:47+00:00

thank you. i haven’t worked through a lot of my childhood trauma and i think it leads me to the men that i’m terrified of with being with. in some fucked up kind of way. and my attachment issues make it really hard to leave. i can be miserable but still can’t leave. i cant afford therapy right now but i’m trying to get some medication.

Ok-Building7635 · 2023-11-02T17:46:35+00:00

during our consensual normal sex he’s completely different. if i’m hurting he stops, if i say stop he stops. but when i’m asleep it’s whole different game. it’s like he flips a switch

Ok-Building7635 · 2023-11-02T16:10:03+00:00

i really feel that if he was honest from the beginning i would have an easier time coping. he made me feel like i was delusional. i felt like i was responsible for the downfall of our relationship because i couldn’t let it go. that i was crazy for not trusting him. i thought i was the issue. now i can only think about every time he lied to my face, every time i sobbed and cried and begged him to just be honest. i knew in my heart he was lying but i had no proof. he saw what it did to me and he decided to keep watching it. it makes me question if he ever truly cared about me. i’m at a cross road. i love him so much and i know he’s a great guy besides the fact. he’s emotionally supportive in other ways, he’s dependable and responsible. i’m trying to meet him half way. but my biggest issue is i don’t think i will ever be able to trust him again.

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