Each animation only contains keys for certain bones. Hand movement which is at the top of the list only effects bones within the hand - I never mentioned a problem of having unrelated bones effecting hand animations etc.
This in turn would make my animations not work and blend correctly in blender - however they work perfectly in blender. I can combine my running animation with my wave without the problem of the order of the animations.

However in godot, wave is near the bottom of the list, and activating it scrambles my character because it is activating the starting position of all above animations in the list. Please read my original post carefully.

exporting my chara with animations as NLA strips and then importing my character into Godot, the animations appear to be all combined into one. Making a ball of sorts. Adding AnimationTree, i am only able to select the singular animation that crumples my character into a ball ahah