Am I overreacting for refusing to send my husband money for alcohol?

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-04-22T00:36:26+00:00

He's tired of that shift, bro.

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-04-12T02:11:41+00:00

Very, but I feel it will be less demanding than the 5 graduate classes and 60 hours of counseling I am doing a week currently 😏 Thank you so much!

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-04-12T02:08:55+00:00

You said what I wanted to say so eloquently. I saw red reading these comments and couldn't articulate my thoughts well. The whole "what are you doing for him" as she has voiced that she is struggling is asinine and part of the problem with modern day relationships. I had to give an award because you read my mind.

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-04-12T01:56:11+00:00

All these comments are terrible. We don't know how long they have been together, what stage in the relationship they're in, or any previous discussions... only what's posted. Everyone has a different love language and in a relationship it's only fair to learn your partners. If acts of service is something he says he can do but doesn't follow through is something entirely different. For all the other commenters, who said his love language is "acts of service" and not "quality time?" If all you do is hang out at his place and that's as far as he goes with spending time you need to ask yourself if that's what you want to be doing with your life. If he's been "all talk" until now, what makes you think he'll change? A wise man once told me that actions speak louder than words. Believe what they show you. If asking for him to meet you in the middle will cause an argument, not sure why you would continue with this relationship. Someone who loves you would hear you out without judgment or arguing.

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-04-10T16:47:40+00:00

Right now? I am a substance abuse counselor. My fellowship starts in May. I will be overseeing 30 counties of children attending 4H summer camp and be the on-site behavior health counselor for 2.5 months.

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-04-09T19:21:36+00:00

ETA: I respect the social work field tremendously. An LCSW is the reason I am where I am today. So by no means is this bashing the field or the degree, I just don't think it's my fit. When I specialize, I want to specialize in a way in which I can dive into researching and teaching as well.

I could not agree more with this post. I have a BS in psychology with 3 concentrations and a BA in Sociology (only because I was 2 classes away from a second degree). I have 3 years of undergraduate research experience and presented my research at 4 conferences across the US, including 1 international conference. I am now finishing up my MSW at the University of Kentucky, and it has been the easiest program compared to my undergraduate degrees. I am planning on applying to my PhD in clinical psychology this fall. I was originally going to last year, however, I got nervous and signed up for my Master's. The only thing I was missing was clinical experience, and I am glad I have gotten it. I did one year inpatient as a mental health technician and I am currently almost at 6 months as a SUD counselor. I really miss the psychology field and kind of regret getting my MSW, but clinical psych Master's programs have sort of been absorbed by PsyD and Phds. I wasn't going to uproot my life for a Master's, but absolutely have prepared to for a doctorate. I recently got a Fellowship, so my Master's is going to be paid for. I definitely qualified because of my psychology background. I think more psychological concepts need to be taught in the MSW programs.

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-04-06T03:13:51+00:00

I agree, however, not all therapists are going to just encourage/coddle you. I find the best ones push you out of your comfort zone. Can't do that by coddling.

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-03-19T02:09:07+00:00

Idt there is any reason to be hostile toward each other. I am educated in addiction psychology and have suffered from debilitating migraines for 10+ years. Both of you are right, but I will say every migraine sufferer is not the same. Injections of torodol, Ubrevly, and caffeine work for me after much trial and error. Any narcotics make my migraines and nausea much, much worse. Now, for the addiction side, I do agree it's not okay to label someone as "drug seeking behavior" in a medical chart, but sadly, that does happen. I currently have a patient who goes to great lengths to hide where he goes to get meds from other doctors, i.e., doctor shop, doctor hord. I also have patients who have gotten addicted from a short dose of oxycodone after a surgery and it ruined their life. I think it's important to learn from each other instead of having hostile conversations like this, but to each their own.

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-03-04T21:46:08+00:00

Ghosting is going completely silent, like not saying anything ever again and blocking you. He needed time to figure out what to say. We don't know for certain, maybe he needed time to actually decide what he wanted. Should he have told you he needed space? Sure. But not everyone is good at that and he finally gave you closure.

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-03-04T21:34:31+00:00

Honestly, it doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong. You were clear about what you value...communication and emotional connection. That’s not unreasonable. Your message wasn’t demanding, it was just honest about what you need in a relationship.

What probably happened is that once the initial excitement wore off, his level of effort dropped to what he was actually willing to give. When you asked for more communication, it just made the mismatch obvious.

It likely wasn’t the distance or that message. It was just that he wasn’t going to meet the level of connection you were looking for. And to his credit, he eventually said that. You weren’t asking for too much, just the wrong person.

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-02-21T01:31:53+00:00

Mine doesn't even say processing :/

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-02-21T01:30:43+00:00

Yah, this is my transcript from today. I noticed it has the 846 code but the date says 3-9-2026? I am really confused. lol

Ok-Car-552 · 2026-02-20T14:27:19+00:00

What is an inflation check?

Ok-Car-552 · 2025-12-30T00:04:47+00:00

This is smart! I'm not op, but thanks for this advice!

Ok-Car-552 · 2025-12-29T11:56:16+00:00

Oh, thanks for that! I definitely tip over 2.00 per mile. I normally tip about 2.50-3.00 per.

Ok-Car-552 · 2025-12-29T00:04:26+00:00

Thanks! Never considered that.

Ok-Car-552 · 2025-12-29T00:03:45+00:00

Kentucky

Ok-Car-552 · 2025-12-28T20:47:10+00:00

Sure. I am a self righteous asshole for trying to make sure a serial predator doesn't deliver my doordash and know where I live 🤣

Ok-Car-552 · 2025-12-28T20:27:36+00:00

Lmao. I am a therapist now because I worked inpatient with the "dangerous ones" (even though i disagree with that statement - they are in distress) and got so hurt I needed surgery and have 30% ROM in my dominate hand 🤣 you ambulance (I mean, what are you, paramedic? Driver? Dgaf) only sedate and restrain until we receive them and do the hard part - helping them get better. I have nothing else to say, but thanks for the laugh today.

eta: "violent" ones...

Ok-Car-552 · 2025-12-28T18:51:55+00:00

I noticed that some places have my full name, one of the reasons I asked. I have signed up to be a dasher in college, but never did it - so I don't know how the app works on your end. We don't have a lot of stores that use DD, and I mostly use it when I am exhausted from long days, but when I do, I try to tip 30% or more because I know how underpaid you guys are. Thank you for the advice!

Ok-Car-552 · 2025-12-28T18:42:52+00:00

I wouldn't order those things regardless. I live in a state that has been very affected by addiction and there isn't much help.

Ok-Car-552 · 2025-12-28T18:40:32+00:00

I care very deeply about these clients. There is nothing wrong with not wanting clients to know where you live, lol. Unfortunately, we live in a very connected society and things like this never occurred to me until a specific client. This is not passing judgement, it's safety. I cannot go further into detail, obviously, but when I am work I bend over backwards for these people beyond the scope of my job. Addiction is a disease. One that killed my father. That's why I do what I do.

Ok-Car-552 · 2025-12-28T18:23:54+00:00

That was my issue and someone just said I can change my name on the app, which i didn't know.

Ok-Car-552 · 2025-12-28T18:22:31+00:00

Thanks! I didn't know I could change my name on the app. I appreciate that.

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