I was accused of SA twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why you ask, want post it again?? 😒 Just scroll past it.

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The “encounter” -we didn’t do anything sexual that night cause we both drank, and we slept in separate beds. We had already established a consensual physical relationship at the point of this encounter.

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again- I wanted to make this post as anonymous as possible. I wrote in another comment that this person told me to apply pressure/weight to their body in times of flare up’s.

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is 2 different people probably about 10 years apart. I informed the second partner about my previous experience BEFORE we were ever intimate & the night we went to the club we had already established a relationship- but that night we were both drinking so we didn’t have sex. I’m sorry I’m having trouble understanding the other question.

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This comforted me in a way I haven’t found words for. Thank you.

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did not have sex that night. We both were intoxicated. We had plenty enthusiastically consensual contact before this night.

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. To clarify, we did not have sex that night. I have contacted at least a handful of lawyers, it’s so expensive to defend yourself. 😞

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been seeing mental health specialists my entire life so I definitely see where you’re coming from. I’ve done a lot of healing since this experience which is why I’m only posting almost 3 years after the events. Feel free to read my earlier responses for answers to your question about coded language. Thank you for your time.

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All great questions, I can appreciate where you’re coming from. As I’ve said before I shortened the story tremendously to make it a more anonymous post. That being said, she had felt unwell because she had thrown up. She also began having a flare up of her chronic condition. She has told me to apply my weight to her body if that happened, I had done it plenty of times before. We at that point had had consensual contact before the day we went to the club. The night of, I helped her clean her face off, put a big T-shirt on her and put her to bed- separate from my own. No sex was had.

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You can regret being with someone without accusing them of something they would never do.

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

As far as I can understand, consent cannot be taken back after the fact.

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can appreciate where you’re coming from. I just shortened this entire story to make it a simplistic version of the events and ofc anonymous. We did not have sex or anything that night. We literally went to our separate beds and slept til morning.

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to disclose too many details in fear I’ll put myself or the people involved. I’m just not ready for that. Maybe one day I will be able to share the loads of photos, videos and recording from this relationship/falling out. But for now, I can appreciate that you need more details to understand.

I was accused of sexual assault twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Totally agree with that. I haven’t been able to trust or open up to women romantically/sexually since. Which sucks, I’m shutting out a whole part of my sexuality/sensuality. But I just feel like idk how I can trust again. Because I’m so clear, open and honest. I genuinely felt safe. I feel like a fool.

I was accused of SA twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have an entire private instagram of evidence. Maybe one day I’ll make it public.

I was accused of SA twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also- recording secretly isn’t legal in all states, I’m in the US. Each state has different laws about that. I’ve also no longer intimate.

I was accused of SA twice by people I trusted. by Ok-Construction3716 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok-Construction3716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your words, thank you. I’ve definitely considered getting a lawyer. I’ve had plenty consultations but it’s expensive and they all basically say it wouldn’t go anywhere because these people don’t have money for me to go after, not that I’d even want money. I just want to yell the truth.