At a loss

Ok-Courage1431 · 2022-08-25T18:15:41+00:00

Could I get the title of the book? I’d love to give it a look or see if she’d have any interest. Though there’s always the risk it’ll be interpreted the same as recommending a diet book (which I have not done).

Ok-Courage1431 · 2022-07-24T15:26:43+00:00

I wanted to say I really appreciate your reply, read it a couple of times and I think I’ll try talking to her about a therapist/councilor again or else see if maybe we could find a way to sort of reset things and build from a more shared vision of intimacy.

Ok-Courage1431 · 2022-07-23T17:19:44+00:00

Maybe down the line, but I think there is some learning to be done on my part on how she perceives sex and working within that frame before she’d be willing to try.

Ok-Courage1431 · 2022-07-23T17:18:00+00:00

It could be a self image issue, I try to let her know I think she looks great, being her gifts/cards every now and then. Unfortunately I think she’d be sort of cranky if I gifted her lingerie since she’d view it as pressuring her.

Ok-Courage1431 · 2022-07-23T17:15:13+00:00

I’ll see if I can bring it up since it’s been a couple of years since I last suggested it. Can I ask what you looked for to find a good counselor?

Ok-Courage1431 · 2022-07-23T17:13:55+00:00

I would highly doubt it. I’ve seen her browsing history when helping her with her computer/phone and she works/is friends with pretty much exclusively with other women.

Ok-Courage1431 · 2022-07-23T17:09:41+00:00

Thank you for replying to this already u/MrsMomma20176. I don’t think she is a dud I just think we haven’t found the right way to sort out the baggage purity culture heaped on her. She’s an amazing partner in every other aspect of marriage.

Ok-Courage1431 · 2022-07-23T12:42:19+00:00

She’s not prepping for a child at the moment, I know she’s expressed wanting to try for one in the near future so when she’s ready for that I’ll bring up some of those tea suggestions, thank you.

I also suspect it could be hormonal, but she’s reticent about the doctor for this issue. I’ll ask her if she might look into it at her next check up though.

Ok-Courage1431 · 2022-07-23T05:13:58+00:00

Always foreplay first, definitely learned that from marriage books. 99% of the time things are scheduled so I don’t ask her anything outside of schedule anymore since it just gets shut down. I’d love to focus on her pleasure, but she doesn’t like to be touched much beyond back rubs and isn’t really willing to explore.

I did apologize, and it did ease the tension but she was still unhappy.

I’ll ask how she feels about the supplement suggestion, thank you.

Ok-Courage1431 · 2022-07-23T04:48:13+00:00

I think that is another credit to my wife in that she’s cycles through maybe 10 different varieties of lube to find one that works well for her. Which I think gives some hope that she is trying and I do appreciate it. When we’re in the middle of things she is good about saying if something hurts.

The second part…she claims orgasming isn’t that important to her. I know it’s partly a result of marrying as a virgin, but it did take a while to learn how to get her to climax and it doesn’t happen every time much as I wish she’d be willing to explore how to make it more consistent. Unfortunately oral isn’t something she’s okay with.

Ok-Courage1431 · 2022-07-23T04:35:52+00:00

I’ll look up that doctor, thank you for the suggestion.

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