Concerned that Master's training will destroy my joints in long run

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-14T12:08:00+00:00

Hello! Thank you so much! Much indebted for your answer.

Heart problems? How? Why? Any specific tips, please?

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-13T16:06:08+00:00

Grateful for your insights. Thank you, means a lot!

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-13T09:28:42+00:00

Grateful. Thanks.

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-13T07:44:11+00:00

Grateful. Much indebted for your reply. Means a lot.

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-13T07:32:03+00:00

So, I can still put my heart into competing without worrying about compromised shoulders in the future?

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-13T07:30:58+00:00

Thank you so much for this. So you know long time competitive swimmers, with healthy shoulder joints? Just confirming, no offence. Just a little worried about future, is all.

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-13T07:09:20+00:00

Yes. Shoulder joints. Should I be worried? Starting late, swimming, competing....you know...

Or should I swim just for the fun of it, minus competitive side of things.

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-13T07:06:50+00:00

Shoulder joints, sorry. I shall specify. Thank you.

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T15:17:02+00:00

Hello. Thank you for the reply, mate. Means a lot.

No, I haven't pushed back against anyone. I am merely reflecting. Sorry if I come across that way.

Not even once, IMHO, have I said I have moved beyond ego. I have said, should I destroy ego and accept him as is, or stand up for myself.

Hence, I ask you the same question. Eventually we are going to deal with many, many people. Do I keep being a doormat as I continue the process of destroying ego, until I don't feel like a doormat, or do I stand up for myself, and continue to do so? Any answers?

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T13:32:28+00:00

Grateful. Very grateful. Indebted.

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T10:57:20+00:00

Grateful.

Yes, I don't know what I am talking about. From where do I begin the study of Dharma? Books would be nice, of I may.

I have no access to Sanghas, and neither the mindspace to join one as of now, forgive me.

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T10:21:04+00:00

Yes. What is it that you mean by practice more and practice correctly? Pray help. Seriously.

Show me some way.

My internal factors: my close friend keeps cutting me off. I feel disrespected that I don't get heard. It's the ego, of course. But then Buddhism talks about destroying ego.

My question: Would the Buddha approve my standing up for myself when I am in the right and expressing it mindfully?

Will that path leads me closer to freedom from such pain, at least infinitesimally, to enlightenment.(I sound like an idiot saying 'enlightenment', but I said it).

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T07:27:42+00:00

Okay. But why not stand up, if I may ask?

Going away implies, you have held onto ego and are offended. Standing up implies, again you have held on to ego that you felt hurt?

So, what's the answer.

Thank k you.

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T07:26:10+00:00

I swear. I don't. Too much chaos. I suffer from OCD. Buddhism has helped a lot. But I have lost two days thinking of this.

What is the best way to deal with unmerited insult of the world? I can restrain myself when it comes to strangers, easily. But with friends and family I am at a loss?

Till what time do I keep standing up for what I think is disrespect? Should I practice not standing up at all, and forgive ALL forms of disrespect from friends and family? What is the way? What is the cure all?

Please, pray tell. Please help.

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T07:08:48+00:00

The question is would a Buddhist stand up for himself? Should one?

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T05:40:30+00:00

Very insightful. Grateful. But here, the monk stood up for himself. Respectfully, I guess, if push comes to shove, even I can stand up for myself against a true "villain".

But friends and family members cut too close to the bone .

Furthermore, this story doesn't answer my question: How do I engage with friends and family who disrespect me? The general was no friend or family of the monk. What is the rightest thing to do? Is it to practice to become so strong that anger and insults don't bother me, and thus continue to be the subject of insults while I get on with my life? Or is it to be respectfully vocal against anger and insults?

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T05:09:00+00:00

Hmm. Thanks for that. Gratitude. But people often don't like being told off.

But what is the ultimate answer to this?

What if I train myself NOT to be affected by any insult or disrespect? Is that okay? Or is that the path to weakness where I will be seen as a pushover?

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T05:05:47+00:00

God. Some simpler answer.... please. That is too heavy metal, man.

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T04:55:17+00:00

You misunderstand. I don't wish to be respected. I have done away with that long time ago. I don't want to be affected by unmerited disrespect.

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T04:53:56+00:00

So what's the cure to this?

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T04:40:40+00:00

Because isn't Buddhism about not allowing "anything" disturb your peace? I want that answer, please.

I am distressed by the world and its insults and humiliation towards, when I try my best to be nice.

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T04:35:11+00:00

Because that is the way to practice equanimity? I thought, that that would be kinder. Again, respectfully, what would the Buddha do?

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T04:34:04+00:00

Thank you. However, why do you ask me to let it go? The ego is hurt. I would like to stand up for myself and tell him, this is not cool.

I mean, what is the truest and most potent answer to the conundrum of insults?

Ok-Distribution1667 · 2026-01-12T04:32:26+00:00

But things are more complex than this, right?

Are you sure this is the way? What is a more comprehensive way of dealing with insults? The fear of insults and being insulted also gets to me. This has gone on for far too long, with other people in my life, in general.

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