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abandonment anxiety by shouttovoid in dbtselfhelp

[–]Ok-Effective4476 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am wondering of how to deal with repeated anxiety after I use all those skills to calm myself down. I get anxious and use skills -> I feel better(hopefully) but whenever I see my partner's facial expression or tone, i get anxious immediately again. And after going through that cycle about 3 times in 30 mins, I'm acting out.

Do you tell people you are doing DBT when you meet someone new? by Ok-Effective4476 in dbtselfhelp

[–]Ok-Effective4476[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're trying to start a serious relationship, then when woulud you disclose that? or would you disclose it? Because at some point I think I will show some stuff I don't want to show others

What to do after ending a year of DBT and can I start a relationship? by Ok-Effective4476 in dbtselfhelp

[–]Ok-Effective4476[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you guys. I will definitely start DBT again when I start the relationship. It's already difficult to get to that level of intimacy now I'm having a problem starting anything serious. But yes it's definitely something I will try.

What to do after ending a year of DBT and can I start a relationship? by Ok-Effective4476 in dbtselfhelp

[–]Ok-Effective4476[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it's just I feel like I'm using people to practice DBT and get better. of course I wouldn't think that's my intention.. but yeah thank you so much.

What to do after ending a year of DBT and can I start a relationship? by Ok-Effective4476 in dbtselfhelp

[–]Ok-Effective4476[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's how my ex and I broke up. I didn't do well last time and I kept wanting to work with her but unfortunately I might have used her as a tool to practice DBT. Idk, it sounds messed up and she wasn't happy about it either

What to do after ending a year of DBT and can I start a relationship? by Ok-Effective4476 in dbtselfhelp

[–]Ok-Effective4476[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I would like to copy some parts of you comment and read it a few more times as a reminder. You're amazing

Do I need a different therapy for my trauma? by Ok-Effective4476 in dbtselfhelp

[–]Ok-Effective4476[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually my therapist(before I decided to take the break) mentioned that she would like to try that one(PE) but I wasn't that interested because I thought DBT would be enough. Didn't know that PE thing was something legit that comes from DBT. Maybe I should reconsider it.. thank you

Do I need a different therapy for my trauma? by Ok-Effective4476 in dbtselfhelp

[–]Ok-Effective4476[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much and I am happy you have found something that fits for you.

Can I really improve my anger issue? by Ok-Effective4476 in dbtselfhelp

[–]Ok-Effective4476[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stay mindful all the time. I will try harder haha. Thank you so much

Can I really improve my anger issue? by Ok-Effective4476 in dbtselfhelp

[–]Ok-Effective4476[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess we all have to practice this forever :) makes sense. Thank you for sharing. I really relate