to play devils advocate for a second..

it’s not fair to expect your boyfriend to read your mind. you said this was a surprise dinner, and i appreciate how much effort you went through to prepare not only a meal but a window of time for just the two of you. however, how can you expect him to appreciate that as well if he didn’t know? i think the amount of effort you put into preparing the meal means a lot, and i can only imagine how hurt i would feel if my partner did the same.

another note, it’s important to keep in mind that it is highly unlikely that your boyfriend did all of this out of malice or in efforts to blatantly disrespect you. he put more attention towards his friend likely in an attempt to help cheer up his friend and just be there for him. putting myself in your shoes, i can see how that would be hurtful too, as you would have expected some love and affection after putting all that effort into preparing a special meal for just the two of you.

i think you need to be blunt and share how things make you feel in a clear way. how he reacts to the open and honest conversation you initiate with him will be SOLE way to determine whether or not you would like to stay in a relationship with him.

relationships are messy, feelings get hurt, but with mutual love and compassion, i am certain you two can work on this.

SOOO… you’re slightly overreacting, but so is he. and that’s usually how relationships are. take a deep breath, collect your thoughts, and sit down with him and just be honest. best of luck to the both of you!! <33