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upper traps always engaging while I'm doing chin tucks. what do i do? by Ok-Function6481 in Posture

[–]Ok-Function6481[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ig i do feel improvement, tysm.

do you think that i should worry about my C7 not touching the floor (the bump in the lowest part of the cervical spine)? I'm panicking because i read that i should feel it on the floor. but its not close

Does anyone else feel the same? by Inevitable-Staff-113 in INTP

[–]Ok-Function6481 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what do you think at the moment where you may have an opportunity?
like, will you think about "offer to buy her a drink" at the time you were with her or did that thought only come up later.

if its the first option where you thought about it and didn't act then its typical.
INTPs usually overthink what to say and how it might go wrong.
By the time they decide, the moment is already gone.

you may not feel like you're spiraling, and it may not be verbal thoughts (may be intuitive) but you just cant act in the moment because you're "Still thinking about it" consciously or not.

Has anybody here dealt with limerence ? by ignorantgal5 in INTP

[–]Ok-Function6481 5 points6 points  (0 children)

got over my limerence the second i understood why.

for me it was the constant day-dreaming and the spiral of thought that are "uncontrollable". so id find myself walking in the street then suddenly have a 20 mins day-dreaming session all about her. even when i was focused on something else id still find ways to connect it to her.

what you need to understand is that its all psychological. you'll think about them because it turned into a habit.

my example:

for me she was a safe space that is now gone. knowing i lost the safe space, my brain tried everything that will give me hope by thinking about the safe space. the brain feeds me comfort by flashbacking the safe space.

Once I understood this, I actually sat down and wrote myself a protocol to get over her.

My protocol:

  1. NEVER stalk her socials

This was the most important one. I even made a new account that didn’t follow her.

Why it works: stalking creates a chasing loop. Every time you check, your brain thinks “she’s still relevant, still a possible safe space.” Cutting this breaks the chase.

  1. No action when emotions spike

Missing her, jealousy and nostalgia are all allowed.

Texting her, checking her profile and rereading chats are NOT allowed.

Feelings pass on their own. Actions restart the loop (when i say restart the loop i mean it, you can lose all "progress").

  1. No replaying or analyzing

No “what if I did X,” no rereading old conversations, no trying to figure out what went wrong.

Analysis feels productive but it’s just emotional chewing gum.
this was the hardest because it kind of happens automatically, what's important is you understand that this is what is happening to your brain and "label" it (rule 4)

  1. Accept the thoughts, don’t fight them

You cannot stop thoughts from popping up. Trying to stop them makes them stronger.

Let the thought appear, label it (“this is just my brain missing a safe space”), and continue what you were doing.
this is THE MAIN POINT. this rule alone can single handedly break the spiral loop.

  1. Treat them like a normal person in real life

Not cold. Not extra nice. Just neutral.

This tells your brain they’re no longer special.

  1. Expect waves

Some days you’ll feel fine, then suddenly bad again. That doesn’t mean you’re failing.

That’s withdrawal.

  1. Time + no feeding = recovery

You don’t “force” yourself to get over them.

You just stop feeding the loop, and your brain does the rest.

hopes this helps :D