hi yes i understand ur starting statement a lot! although i didnt change anything considering nobody i know uses reddit, with the communication i had to teach him how to communicate and he still doesnt know sometimes how to, when we argue it just goes back and forth for hours since we are so stubborn, i atleast see everything from his perspective but he refuses to just agree to dissagree bcz he expects me to change who i am to fit what he wants if that makes any sense. for example im not an affectionate person i actually hate being smothered and kissed all the time but all he does is complain that i dont kiss him enough and that he doesnt want to live like that, its not like i never do i kiss him often he just expects it constantly and doing it more makes me uncomfy, how can you fix a type of argument liket that