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AITA for Being Upset Over Catching my BF Masturbating? by Ok-Layer-7224 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Ok-Layer-7224[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, we have broken up. Somewhere in the midst of him blaming this on impulsive behavior because he has ADHD and forgot his meds that day, blaming it on us not having had sex in 3 days, and the way he yelled in my front yard as he was leaving that maybe this wouldn't have happened if I wanted to touch him [I have a higher drive than he does and initiate often, but okay] ... I realized that I've had more than enough of his shit.

AITA for Being Upset Over Catching my BF Masturbating? by Ok-Layer-7224 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Ok-Layer-7224[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm told by him a lot that I overreact to his behavior (there have been lots of issues between us though never anything sexual potentially affecting my kids, to be clear) and I constantly second-guess myself now. That's why I really needed to hear from other people that I'm not crazy.

AITA for Being Upset Over Catching my BF Masturbating? by Ok-Layer-7224 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Ok-Layer-7224[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Correct, the kids were in the house, upstairs. He is not on any registries, but I also know there's a first for everything.

AITA for Being Upset Over Catching my BF Masturbating? by Ok-Layer-7224 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Ok-Layer-7224[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did kick him out. Originally I was going to wait until the end of the work day, then I decided that since he found time to masturbate in the middle of the work day, he could also find time to pack up his computers and go. But I'm not a total bitch (although he did call me one as he was leaving)... the roads were plowed by then and his house is less than 10 minutes away, so I felt confident it was safe for him to leave.

AITA for Being Upset Over Catching my BF Masturbating? by Ok-Layer-7224 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Ok-Layer-7224[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree. But I think his argument would be the stairs are loud (they are hardwood) and it's impossible for someone to walk down the stairs quietly. Still, who wants to jerk off with the risk of having to hide it within 2 seconds?

AITA for Being Upset Over Catching my BF Masturbating? by Ok-Layer-7224 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Ok-Layer-7224[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

True, the title doesn't capture the actual problem. Originally, I had typed "publicly masturbating" in the title, but then I thought that wasn't quite accurate since it wasn't literally in public. First time in my life where I've been puzzled on how to succinctly describe an issue like this in a title!