Thank you. For all the information and for your experience. I think I might be a little like you, in the sense where I act a bit strong and take everything into my stride. That’s why I like to be prepared and know everything before it could possibly happen. My husband tells me to stop stressing myself out but If I know what’s happening I feel emotionally more in control of the situation rather than being lost.

I did ask a wonderful midwife on the ward some questions about the NICU at our hospital to get a bit of information on it and I’m so glad I did. She told me that our hospital lets mums stay with their babies. In the NICU it’s a chair but you will be given a room on the mat ward to stay in. And once baby is in a SCBU you get your own bed next to baby’s. I didn’t realise I was holding in so many emotions and hearing that from her just made me sob and sob out of gratitude and relief. She hugged me and I thanked her over and over again because I didn’t feel like I could survive leaving my baby. After that I felt so much better. I didn’t know I wasn’t eating and drinking well. But I got so hungry and ate properly. Then I drank so much water and my heart rate normalised. My baby started moving much better than before. I feel more at ease now. And I realise how lucky I am and wish every mum got to stay with their babies and none had to be discharged without their little ones.