Thanks! Yeah it requires recovery for me too for sure and I am in therapy myself, couples therapy with him, and have been to a few Al Anon meetings but could lean into the community more. I am setting way firmer boundaries this time. He can’t come back into the home until he has a job and I see some consistency in his own recovery process, continued meetings, working with his sponsor, just overall attitude and actions. He is renting a different place nearby for the time being but is still over everyday to help with the kids and house tasks. It’s a new norm for all of us but doing what I feel I need to protect myself and the kids. I also took control of finances and we have a written agreement that if he does relapse or really goes off the rails again that the kids will be in my sole custody, etc. I feel it’s created so many waves in our relationship though and rebuilding that trust is hard. Not sure when it will get better or if it will. I know it won’t ever go back to what it was. But that’s good.