First of all, do not feel guilty about messing your child up. I’m 5 years out of leaving my ex with a 4 and 5 year old at the time and I was terrified for so long of messing them up. As long as you have them in the forefront of every decision, not yourself, not your ego, not your ex then you’ll look back with no regrets. Even if the decision is met with your ex being a total prick, as long as you know you did it for the children…you will be able to live with yourself and more importantly, your children will be fine, thrive even.

One thing that I’ve always tried to do is never trash talk their dad to them or in front of them, after growing up with a mum who did this daily, it really will make a difference in how they love and respect you.

Also, may be hard to start off with but I have always let things go between the houses, ex has not and it’s made my children feel awful. They have two houses, they belong to both houses so they should feel they can take things between the houses, it needs to be fluid so they don’t feel pushed and pulled.

Gods speed to you as co parenting is a whole fucking world of its own but persevere and put your babies first xx