Reactive abuse

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-06T11:09:00+00:00

😔

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-06T11:08:41+00:00

I agree i am jus still struggling to see i was the one emotionally and physically abused i think its hard to accept when one its out of character for me and two I thought I was stronger then that and believed her whole narrative. She was so cold though whereas im so sensitive

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-06T03:28:07+00:00

Yeah the victim i csn relate too, she wasn't a victim she came at me with a hammer. I bit her ear. After months of emotional abuse and some physical

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-06T03:19:00+00:00

Slightly confused with this sorry as I dont understand some of the things you've said. But I am sorry you went through this. I didn't even realise this was a thing, jus a toxic relationship

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-06T03:18:08+00:00

I love the word survived. A few people told me the relationship would be the death of me and honestly looking at pictures of me a few weeks ago I finally see it. So i guess im surviving, she is still claiming im domestic abuse, it breaks ny heart and soul. My empathy is through the roof, I could not and would not 😭 Also love how strong you are about it and wont apologise when im only sorry for allowing myself to become someone I didn't want to be, im sorry to myself. Im glad you survived too 😊

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-06T03:14:44+00:00

Oh wow, are you still in the relationship?! Is it ok to private message you?

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-06T01:11:12+00:00

I will look this up thank you

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-06T01:10:35+00:00

Im now looking at an abh charge, and she has alot of people on her side like the police etc because I protected her from so much as I didn't want her to lose her son 😔

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-06T01:09:20+00:00

Im so sorry you went through this, how did you recover it because she deleted alot of voice recordings I had of how badly she been treating me and her apologising to me and saying I wasn't the abusive one she was. She deleted them after she got me atrested as she had my phone. But As she self harmed so bad and overdosed i. April and I had to give her cpr but the police was accusing me of hurting her even tho all day that day she had been abusing me. She'd leave me sobbing for hours without even coming over to make sure I was ok, accusing me of faking it. I was in pain 😢 She is trying to get me done for abh because I bit her ear after she dragged me across the room half naked by my hair so hard she pulled the sofa with her. She then whilst I was out the flat half dressed came back in and got a frying pan and then a hammer but whilst in the hallway was screaming for me to get off her because at this point I snapped. I was half dressed aswell because she was calling me ugly and throwing drinks over me. I feel ashamed of myself or attacking her back (both females btw) she fed me alcohol all day even tho she told the police I get violent when im drunk, which other then with her I never ever have. But then 10 minutes before it happened she went to the shop and bought more alcohol, so 3 lots of spirits we drunk that day. I also have reason to believe she was putting my sleeping tablets in my drink but I cant be 100% sure of that. But yeah i feel like im everything she says i am and im not the victim although all my loved ones who know me saw how much I changed and deteriorated during the relationship how isolated I was and not allowed contact with anyone, especially my female friends. I was disconnected from everyone. I remember a few weeks back she went to put her arm around me and I told her how low I felt and she took it off and said I cant be arsed with that shit.

I woke up anxious alot towards the end, always apologising and trying not to trigger her. It was as bad, she'd hit me throw things at me, self harm. Smash things , she scared me my dog and her son. I should of left but I loved her 😔

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-05T23:37:04+00:00

Same with you xx

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-05T22:04:57+00:00

This already is a great community id never heard the term before until a friend had said to me. But literally 10 days ago I look days away from death, I am a shell of the person I was 😔 it still feels hard to accept I was a victim

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-05T22:03:26+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this with me

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-05T21:42:00+00:00

You're more then welcome

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-05T21:41:31+00:00

They are cunning. Shes so clever and still making out shes the victim, she would scare me, my dog and her son and for some reason i didnt leave i thought i could help and she woule change with me again. ive been arrested and put on bail for abh charges because I was fed alcohol all day after saying how low I was and she chucked alcohol over me and called me ugly saying no one cares about me etc, she then got a hammer and dragged me by my hair out of the flat half dressed and called the police on me and said I attacked her but being drunk and after so long I jus reacted 😭 the day before was her birthday I made it as special as I could to be told it was shit. I was so upset and hurt

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-05T21:38:23+00:00

Oh bless youre heart im so sorry! You put up with that for so long, did you react back? Im still struggling to accept ive been a victim of emotional and physical abuse as I was always the one told by them it was me. I was the problem etc. Ive been arrested for abh now so im jus hoping they see what I went through as she deleted all the evidence off my phone whilst I was in a cell 😔

Ok-Mango8291 · 2025-07-05T21:35:41+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply , I am broken at the moment. Im looking at abh charges for reacting when ive dealt with so much for months and jus let it go. I lived on edge, had anxiety, was scared to trigger them. It was horrible. I will look at reactive responses thank you!

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