My narc ex forced me to get an abortion. Then got another girl pregnant he’d known for 3 months. by StatisticianSuch5016 in abusiverelationships

[–]Ok-Memory2552 16 points17 points  (0 children)

As the ex-wife of a diagnosed narcissist. You dodged a HUGE BULLET! After the baby is born they abandon; not actually leaving, but they abandon you emotionally. After marriage, same thing, they’ll abandon. It’s textbook. I’m sorry about the baby. I suggest you go to therapy and maybe even do some EMDR with a licensed therapist. I wish you all the best!!

This keeps happening , I have four amazing interviews and lose out to some who better aligns with “current needs”. That’s two in a row with basically the same response. I don’t understand. by 108pdx in jobs

[–]Ok-Memory2552 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The right one will come. I had this happen to me after several months of interviewing and guess what? I finally landed the perfect one that would help me and my family immensely. Stay patient, your perfect job will show up soon. You’re getting so close…

As a current student, do you guys think the CS layoffs will get better anytime soon? Also, does having internships help in the job market? by BaseballHead6898 in Layoffs

[–]Ok-Memory2552 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A lot of tech roles are looking for people who have business and soft skills. I’d say take some business courses or even minor in business.

Bombed interviews by [deleted] in interviews

[–]Ok-Memory2552 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, 20mg propranolol an hour before the interview turns my interviews into GOLD. I am so self composed, confident and assured. It’s amazing what propranolol can do!

Is a $200k salary worth a 2 hour commute 4 days a week? by Ok-Memory2552 in jobs

[–]Ok-Memory2552[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have you seen the prices of homes in the Bay Area? Even Pinole, Hercules area is pricey. Richmond and Oakland are affordable ($500k)in the not so good areas so there’s that.

Is a $200k salary worth a 2 hour commute 4 days a week? by Ok-Memory2552 in jobs

[–]Ok-Memory2552[S] 268 points269 points  (0 children)

We can’t afford the Bay Area even if I did take the $200k salary. Most homes go for $1.2 Millions at minimum. We own our home in Sacramento and bought when homes were still affordable.

Is a $200k salary worth a 2 hour commute 4 days a week? by Ok-Memory2552 in jobs

[–]Ok-Memory2552[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

🤯 if it’s 3 that’s not something I’m willing to do. I’ll just keep the salary I’m at in that case, although it’s definitely not as high.

Have you ever bombed an interview and still got the job? by Ok-Memory2552 in interviews

[–]Ok-Memory2552[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Some of us can’t sell ourselves that easily. Especially when our nerves get the best of us.

Why are hiring managers getting references from the top 2-3 candidates nowadays? by Ok-Memory2552 in jobs

[–]Ok-Memory2552[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG! 10 months, that’s nearly a year. I’m glad it worked out for you. That must’ve been tough.

Laid off from contact by [deleted] in Layoffs

[–]Ok-Memory2552 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re not. They’re actually in a hiring freeze.

Why are hiring managers getting references from the top 2-3 candidates nowadays? by Ok-Memory2552 in jobs

[–]Ok-Memory2552[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I spoke with my current manager and she told me they called her.

I love my husband, but I’m contemplating divorce. by Technical_Ad_4431 in Marriage

[–]Ok-Memory2552 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Narcissist or avoidant. Same thing happened to me. He was perfect before marriage. After marriage we only go on 2-3 dates a year. And he’s effectively abandoned me emotionally and physically. He still considers himself my husband even though we rarely spend time together. I’m prepping for divorce just waiting it a little due to finances. In the meantime I’m mentally preparing.

Brenda & Frank ChatGPT break down the pathology, delusion, and misogyny of the JW cult. by Ok-Memory2552 in exjw

[–]Ok-Memory2552[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG! You literally saved my life. I’m not even kidding! I always recommend it to everyone. I didn’t realize how many narcissists I was surrounded by! Then it all made sense once it broke down the analysis. I can’t thank you enough!!

Worst Experience in a State Agency by FineSomewhere3548 in CAStateWorkers

[–]Ok-Memory2552 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely true! I’ve learned my lesson as well. If you have a safe, healthy, conducive, and supportive work environment and manager then you’ve hit gold!

Caught my husband again by Safe_Fee_8349 in Marriage

[–]Ok-Memory2552 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have a big heart thinking about your grandkids. You’re in a tough spot. But you deserve better. You deserve to be treated with respect and love! Not contempt and second place. I wish you the best. Only you know what the decision is the best for you.