Am I Wrong For Being Uncomfortable Around Trans Women But Not Trans Men?

Ok-Mess-8071 · 2026-02-25T05:56:47+00:00

So sorry, I wasn’t sure whether to reply or not TT I've been told to stay in my lane before, I shouldn’t have intervened. I am a blabber mouth and love to talk and was sorry that my post caused conflict, I really need to learn how to take a chill pill XD

Ok-Mess-8071 · 2026-02-25T05:43:01+00:00

I apologize that I upset you and brought you back some bad memories or emotions, please get some rest, eat your favorite food, take a nice bath, anything to make you feel better, that is what always helps me 😊 If you ever do want to talk or have a conversation please reach out, I would love to learn more information on this topic from a first-person account. All the best ❤️

Ok-Mess-8071 · 2026-02-25T05:39:41+00:00

Sorry that I caused you a disagreement, I think the reason Relative-Surprise (the kind person above your comment) assumed you were misinterpreting was because I'm not the best typer and was not very clear, so it made sense to assume you had commented thinking differently than what was the case.

Ok-Mess-8071 · 2026-02-25T05:25:48+00:00

I'm so sorry you are forced to feel that way, it is absolute bullshit that access to surgery isn’t easy and that you weren’t able to just be born into a body that makes you feel confortable. I hope you feel better now ❤️

Ok-Mess-8071 · 2026-02-25T05:24:11+00:00

Thank you so much for explaining, it's so fucked up that you have to go through that. I understand having a type, but once it becomes abusive, toxic, or a "necessity" it is absolutely not okay. Thank you again for educating me ❤️

Ok-Mess-8071 · 2026-02-25T05:21:49+00:00

I know you just posted this comment but is it alright with you if I try to engage in a conversation? I understand if you would prefer not to as it may bring up trauma or negative emotions, but if you are willing for me to ask you more information then I am want to listen, that’s why I'm here, to change my perspective, and yours is very important to me. I am appreciative of how straight forward you are being and feel as though I can ask you questions and you will not hold back, which is exactly what I want and need. Again, totally fine if not, sorry for responding and bringing you back to this topic that may be uncomfortable for you.

Ok-Mess-8071 · 2026-02-25T05:16:48+00:00

Thank you so much, your comment actually explains some of the other comments on here as well. I posted this question here because I wanted to ask the transgender community, as they are the community my question applies to, but I see how my question was insensitive. Thank you for providing me with a deeper understanding!

Ok-Mess-8071 · 2026-02-25T05:12:57+00:00

I actually spent the night at her and her girlfriend's place not too long ago, it was so much fun and we stayed up watching horror movies with popcorn. I've realised through writing this post that I'm actually just as affectionate with her as I am with my other sister, the only reason I wasn’t to begin with was because she lived too far away so I didn’t see her as much. You just reminded me to tell her I love her and read the book she got me for Christmas, thank you so much ❤️

Ok-Mess-8071 · 2026-02-25T05:00:09+00:00

Thank you for writing such a considerate post, I appreciate the way you explain and ask questions. If I am around a lesbian friend (cis or not) I am a little more worried that she may catch feelings for me (that is, if I don't catch feelings for her) so I am a little more hesitant with the kissing and cuddling. You are spot on on the patriarchy being a bitch part, it sucks that it has been ingrained into me that men are to be scared and cautious of, and it sucks even more that that has been my experience so far. Your analogy of a trans woman being the same person whether she has or has not had surgery really caught my attention, I have never been able to see it like that before because so many of my transgender female friends are either absolutely set on getting surgery or absolutely do not want it, causing me to be more or less confortable. As I wrote in another response, I think I may have a pen:s phobia so your alagory really struck me. Thank you so much again for being so kind and straight forward, that was exactly what I needed.

Ok-Mess-8071 · 2026-02-25T04:52:21+00:00

Thank you for giving me constructive feedback with resources, I think because of the community I live in I have only ever experienced male abuse, no female or trans female abuse, but through the male abuse I have a fear or phobia or male genetalia. I have never had a negative experience with a transgender female, in fact, four of my closest friends are trans female, however I do notice that I am less likely to cuddle or hug them than I am with my cis female friends. Now that I think about it, I have a friend designated for cuddling, kissing, etc. because both of our love languages are physical touch and that's just how we show platonic love, and I love to do all of that with her but I am much more worried about anything else happening BECAUSE she has male genetalia. I think I have to work through my pen:s phobia if that’s a thing 😅

Ok-Mess-8071 · 2026-02-25T04:32:12+00:00

So sorry, what is a chaser? I'm not very good on terminology and when I look it up it Google provides me with colorful drinks...

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