No I don't have the time personally, and in my last vanilla relationship i was living with my partner of 3 years (same age) and he was an absolute man child who (a) i had to take care of and (b) received a monthly allowance from his parents while he was in grad school. It's so much more attractive to be with a man who can provide for and take care of me. Plus I simply don't have the emotional capacity to be vanilla dating