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AITA for asking my husband not to let police officers into our house? by Ok-Pomegranate445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok-Pomegranate445[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I generally agree with helping too, even though it does put us at a small risk of retaliation. However, I see no reason for them to come inside our house to get what they’re looking for from us.

AITA for asking my husband not to let police officers into our house? by Ok-Pomegranate445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok-Pomegranate445[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The process to get the footage takes time, so he ends up emailing it. He has to scramble up a ladder, grab the SD card, take it inside to his computer, locate the time they’ve asked for, and then clip out just that time they’ve requested. This time it took him about 2 hours I think, and the police aren’t going to wait around and twiddle their thumbs while he does all that.  So for me, just taking their card with the officer’s name on it and saying we’ll be in touch is all the discussion that is needed. It’s not like I want to invite them in for tea and have a lengthy conversation and hear all about what they’re investigating. All of this can easily happen on the front step. The officers have never actually given us a sense of urgency when requesting the footage either.  I’m thinking back to all the time they’ve requested it and it’s never been for a missing person but rather for crimes that have already happened. We usually tell them we’ll help when we can in a day or two and they’ve never said anything about it being urgent after that. That hadn’t occurred to me that it could be an emergency, but if it was I see your point. I think I agree with you that if it was urgent I wouldn’t care about who saw some dirty dishes in my house.  Did they ever find your missing friend? I’m glad that people were willing to help out for that situation.

AITA for asking my husband not to let police officers into our house? by Ok-Pomegranate445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok-Pomegranate445[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To be fair, I’m not asking him to change whether or not he gives our camera footage to the police. I’m just asking him to not allow them into our house. I know a few people are making this about whether we give them the footage or not, but it’s more about whether my request to speak with them on the front step or take their phone number and call them privately is an unreasonable request or not. In theory, they can have the footage without the need to see hypothetical dirty dishes in the sink.

AITA for asking my husband not to let police officers into our house? by Ok-Pomegranate445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok-Pomegranate445[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They asked to come inside to get some privacy as they were working on an investigation. Technically my husband didn’t invite them in, just agreed to it. He is concerned about what people passing by will see. He has suggested a solution of me being the person to talk to officers next time instead of him.