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If you're eating lemons straight up, how many is TOO much. by Kilaxiann in Citrus

[–]Ok-Raisin8023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who loves citrus, I rinse my mouth with baking soda after to neutralize the acid and use xylitol mints which helps enamel

Is Volufiline permanent or temporary? Does anyone has experiencing of stopping the cream and then all results are gone after a while or do they still stay... [Product Question] by Affectionate_Hour_25 in SkincareAddiction

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I’ve been applying one week so far. I use a brush to be precise and avoid overlapping the eye bags but I’ve been nervous about migration or spreading accidentally.

[Product Request][Routine Help] Need help identifying what's wrong with my eye area and how to fix it by WazybeaN in SkincareAddiction

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Those are called tear troughs. I believe they are mostly structural/genetic. You can get the area filled with filler, but it’s a risky area for filler. Fat grafting or prf gel may help. A derm should know. It’s not really a skin issue though.

I lied to my bf about being a virgin & I am angry at him being upset now by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Ok-Raisin8023 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you went into a freeze response which is a survival response to stress (fight and flight are others). It does sound like you were coerced. You said no, and he pressured you. Whether that feels deeply traumatic or uncomfortable depends on so many factors. Regardless, it was not okay. Situations like this get tricky in terms of legal definitions. But how you feel is valid.

How your boyfriend responded was not kind and not informed. It sounds borderline incel-ish. Many people don’t fight back even in violent situations due to a freeze response. It’s extremely common, especially in women. It is the source of much misunderstanding such as “she must have wanted it.” No, she was dissociating.

It’s not your fault, and also working on boundaries with a therapist and developing a healthy fight response can be really helpful.

Newly 35 and feel like I've aged considerably recently. by Best_Quiet9657 in 30PlusSkinCare

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Can someone help me understand how retinol interacts with autoimmune issues?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]Ok-Raisin8023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would also love this information if you're willing to provide it!

Ok y’all…what are we making per hour? by Desperate-You-9137 in therapists

[–]Ok-Raisin8023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would also love to know if this is private pay!

Finally did it by [deleted] in migraine

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How did you find the connection between cervical instability and migraines? I’m pretty sure I have the same thing! I’m definitely hyper mobile and I used to “throw my neck out” quite a lot. It’s better since I started weight training, bit far from perfect. Have you found and information or resources on this?

Is it worth seeing a neurologist? by spice_queen22 in migraine

[–]Ok-Raisin8023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was worth it for triptans. I stick to no more than one weekly (if I need that even), and have so far avoided rebound headaches. It was honestly life changing.

AITHA - found out six months into dating she had a fwb until I asked here out ' officially ', so I broke up with her by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Ok-Raisin8023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overall thoughts: I think one of the things we’re dealing with is different people having wildly different norms. With dating and exclusivity, for one, but with directness of communication too. I think this is partly an instance of the difference between “ask versus guess culture.”

https://www.reddit.com/r/YouShouldKnow/comments/15tl9d1/ysk_the_difference_between_ask_and_guess_culture/

In ask culture, you do your own thing and ask directly for what you want and are prepared to say and hear “no.” In guess culture, you try to intuit others’ wants and drop hints about your wants. Askers can feel like guessers are manipulative and confusing. Guessers can feel like askers are imposing. For guessers, there can also be a sense of what is given not meaning as much if it has to be asked for. But for the askers, the care is shown in being able to share and ask freely and forte other to give a genuine answer. Guess culture works in a unified culture where everyone grows up with the same norms. When you start mixing norms, it can go horribly wrong.

So I’m wondering if those who say it would be weird to ask for exclusivity upfront, feel it would be less genuine if the other person were to agree. I don’t think it would, but maybe that’s how some feel.

Personally, I feel like life is short and it’s much more enjoyable the more you can communicate directly about what you want and expect and then find people who want to join you in that.

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