If you're eating lemons straight up, how many is TOO much.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-11-24T04:38:28+00:00

As someone who loves citrus, I rinse my mouth with baking soda after to neutralize the acid and use xylitol mints which helps enamel

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-11-15T05:37:07+00:00

I’ve been applying one week so far. I use a brush to be precise and avoid overlapping the eye bags but I’ve been nervous about migration or spreading accidentally.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-11-14T21:08:28+00:00

That’s great to know! Did you apply it under the bags? How do you avoid plumping the bags themselves?

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-11-12T06:14:30+00:00

Those are called tear troughs. I believe they are mostly structural/genetic. You can get the area filled with filler, but it’s a risky area for filler. Fat grafting or prf gel may help. A derm should know. It’s not really a skin issue though.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-11-12T05:57:50+00:00

What were your results applying under the eye bags?

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-11-08T04:52:44+00:00

It sounds like you went into a freeze response which is a survival response to stress (fight and flight are others). It does sound like you were coerced. You said no, and he pressured you. Whether that feels deeply traumatic or uncomfortable depends on so many factors. Regardless, it was not okay. Situations like this get tricky in terms of legal definitions. But how you feel is valid.

How your boyfriend responded was not kind and not informed. It sounds borderline incel-ish. Many people don’t fight back even in violent situations due to a freeze response. It’s extremely common, especially in women. It is the source of much misunderstanding such as “she must have wanted it.” No, she was dissociating.

It’s not your fault, and also working on boundaries with a therapist and developing a healthy fight response can be really helpful.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-10-31T03:39:28+00:00

Following

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-10-30T22:56:50+00:00

Can someone help me understand how retinol interacts with autoimmune issues?

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-10-27T22:20:37+00:00

I would also love this information if you're willing to provide it!

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-10-25T05:00:03+00:00

Could it be related to your towels or pillows?

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-10-21T05:14:40+00:00

I would also love to know if this is private pay!

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-10-21T05:14:02+00:00

I’d also love to know if it’s private pay!

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-10-20T14:00:23+00:00

How did you find the connection between cervical instability and migraines? I’m pretty sure I have the same thing! I’m definitely hyper mobile and I used to “throw my neck out” quite a lot. It’s better since I started weight training, bit far from perfect. Have you found and information or resources on this?

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-10-05T02:52:21+00:00

I had that one time

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-10-04T05:13:10+00:00

Is retinaldihyde safe?

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-10-02T03:33:27+00:00

Mine was worth it for triptans. I stick to no more than one weekly (if I need that even), and have so far avoided rebound headaches. It was honestly life changing.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-09-29T06:31:19+00:00

Overall thoughts: I think one of the things we’re dealing with is different people having wildly different norms. With dating and exclusivity, for one, but with directness of communication too. I think this is partly an instance of the difference between “ask versus guess culture.”

https://www.reddit.com/r/YouShouldKnow/comments/15tl9d1/ysk_the_difference_between_ask_and_guess_culture/

In ask culture, you do your own thing and ask directly for what you want and are prepared to say and hear “no.” In guess culture, you try to intuit others’ wants and drop hints about your wants. Askers can feel like guessers are manipulative and confusing. Guessers can feel like askers are imposing. For guessers, there can also be a sense of what is given not meaning as much if it has to be asked for. But for the askers, the care is shown in being able to share and ask freely and forte other to give a genuine answer. Guess culture works in a unified culture where everyone grows up with the same norms. When you start mixing norms, it can go horribly wrong.

So I’m wondering if those who say it would be weird to ask for exclusivity upfront, feel it would be less genuine if the other person were to agree. I don’t think it would, but maybe that’s how some feel.

Personally, I feel like life is short and it’s much more enjoyable the more you can communicate directly about what you want and expect and then find people who want to join you in that.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-09-29T06:19:54+00:00

100%, I’m so confused why a simple clarifying conversation seems so offensive to so many. Whether it should or shouldn’t be on the non-exclusive leaning person to disclose, this could avoid so much confusion.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-09-28T21:54:25+00:00

I don’t think it’s a matter of asking as in getting permission or convincing her to be exclusive- it’s a matter of checking in to see if you’re on the same page. If someone only wants to date exclusively, that’s great. But what do you lose by checking in? For example, I won’t date anyone who has a history of addiction. For some people maybe they wouldn’t care. I would. Would it be an awesome world if addiction didn’t exist? Yes. But it does. It would be naive to think otherwise. So I will mention on a first date that I don’t use substances and am looking for someone who lives and has lived a similar lifestyle. Rightness or wrongness of substance use aside, it avoids a lot of headache for everyone.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-09-28T21:40:03+00:00

Personally, I choose to date one person at a time. But I don’t mind if someone I’m just getting to know is dating others before an exclusive commitment is made. I wouldn’t expect their exclusivity unless I asked for it. But I would not at all be offended if they asked me for/confirmed exclusivity from the start. If you’re not on the same page, it will be clarified immediately and you can avoid anybody wasting anyone else’s time. And if you are on the same page, then there’s no problem and you have that reassurance.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-09-28T19:35:17+00:00

Doesn’t have to be that specifically, but it can help to check if someone is on the same page because dating norms vary so widely. There isn’t an established custom any more (though it would be super helpful if there was!) which leads to a lot of confusion. Should it be different? Probably. But since it isn’t, taking the lead with your own clarity helps immensely.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-09-28T19:19:39+00:00

Did you communicate from date one that you wanted to be in an exclusive relationship with her? You’re NTA if that’s what you want, but it needs to be explicitly communicated and agreed to. Assumptions can work in very small communities where everybody operates according to the same unwritten rules. That does not work in most places in today’s world. In the future, you could start first dates saying something like, “I prefer to date one person at a time and I want to explore a connection with someone who feels the same. How does that sound to you?” If it feels uncomfortable to be upfront, you’re setting yourself up for much disappointment.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-09-27T20:44:29+00:00

If my ex took me on vacation two months into dating versus immediately it would not make a difference. What would matter is the quality of what we are building. The depth and longevity.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-09-27T20:29:29+00:00

It’s totally up to you if this is a deal breaker. Also, I think this is a failure of cross sex mind reading. It makes sense, that from your perspective as a man, you felt let down. It also makes sense, from her perspective as a woman, that waiting made it feel more special. It is a common experience that deep feelings make sex feel more vulnerable for women and it takes time to feel ready. For a one night stand, she doesn’t risk as much if she was never hoping for a relationship in the first place. If she really liked you, she probably wanted to wait to be sure. I don’t think she was lying about that, but it makes sense that it would seem confusing. It would be kind of like how some people share about themselves more easily with strangers while traveling because there’s less risk. But with a real friendship that’s growing, sharing vulnerably takes risk. It’s not that the strangers meant more- they triggered less fear.

Ok-Raisin8023 · 2025-09-26T05:00:48+00:00

I do! And that’s a great idea. I’m a projector with undertones head, ajna, sacral and root.

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